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Colleagues are at the center of the work experience, but getting along with them isn't always easy. When you spend too much time with the same people, you will encounter some conflicts that can make the process of completing daily tasks more difficult, and even hinder the development of you in your career. You should consider the following steps if you want to learn how to avoid conflicts and get along with your coworkers.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Stay professional

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   Keep the conversation light. While you will want to look like someone who is friendly and warm, you shouldn't discuss specific topics if you want to avoid creating conflicts at work.
   • For example, discussing religion and politics is often inappropriate in the workplace, and can be stressful. Also, don't talk about private life stories like health, sex, personal relationship problems, or finances, and don't ask your co-workers about them.
   • If you feel uncomfortable with a question that is curious or invasive in your personal life, or if the topic might be controversial, do your best to change the subject. If you fail, you can stop discussing them firmly but politely or deftly leave the argument. Usually, it is enough to say something like "I really don't want to talk about that at work". If you don't like being too blunt, you can say "Oh! I just remembered I have work to do" and then excuse yourself from the conversation.

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   Social chat during breaks. Excessive courtesy during work hours will make your boss think you're not serious about your work, and encourage your time-consuming co-workers.
   • If a coworker tries to chat with you while you are busy, offer to postpone the conversation until lunchtime. You need to try diplomacy so that they don't feel like being rejected.
   • For example, you could say something like "I totally agree. I am very busy, but I want to talk more with you during lunch. Would you like to meet at that time?".

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   Don't be the gossip in the company, and stay away from this persona. Gossiping and complaining about people in the company often leads to some form of hostility between co-workers and superiors.
   • It's best to keep quiet or walk away when your co-workers are defaming others, but if you can't do this, try to take their words in a more positive way. . For example, if they say, "Do you know that Chau got a promotion, not Kien?", You might reply like, "Chau must have worked hard to get the promotion this year. She deserves a great deal. ! ".
   • Remember that someone who likes to talk badly about others or slander your boss will also talk badly behind you. You should try not to give this type of person details about your life, information that you don't want to spread around the office.

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   Listen more than talk. Not only will you learn more about your colleague, but you also won't have to say something inappropriate.
   • Keeping quiet will help you avoid office gossip, or worse, gossip.
   • Curl your tongue before speaking if you tend to speak without thinking, sarcasm, or joke, as they can make you look rude in front of someone who doesn't appreciate your sense of humor.

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   Excellent in its place. If you do your best to get the job done, your boss will see your dedication and understand that you are not the one causing any conflict at the company.
   • Make yourself a necessary person by doing special work in your assignment. This method will keep you busy and avoid colliding with a troublesome colleague.
   • Help colleagues. If you help them achieve their goals by reducing their stress, they'll see you as an ally. This doesn't mean you have to do their job. But if you find that you can help them in an area they need and you have time to spare, consider supporting them.

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   Show respect to your bosses even if they don't treat you in the same way. Sometimes, the person who has the most disagreement with you is your boss.
   • Don't allow your supervisor's negative attitudes or heavy demands to upset you. If you want to form a happy co-worker relationship, you need to understand that people have specific behaviors for their own reasons, and there's nothing you can do about it. You should become a better person by responding with respect and courtesy to negative behaviors.
   • If your supervisor's negative actions go beyond the limit - if they harass, discriminate against, or unlawfully target you - you can go to the human resources office to look for steps that can help. you prevent them. For a small company that doesn't have a human resources department, your next source of trust will be hiring a lawyer.
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Method 2 of 3: Relationship improvement

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   Examine yourself. In any contradictory situation, everyone involved tends to blame the other party. Consider what you can do differently to improve your work relationship.
   • Do you have a strong personality? Occasionally, you can be overly assertive, and others will react by retreating or becoming defensive, even if you mean well. You should try to minimize it or give someone some space.
   • Do you often criticize people? Even if this is part of your job, your criticism can be constructive or viewed as a personal attack. People with a more sensitive personality tend to take everything except for the mildest criticism.
   • Don't hesitate to take responsibility for the conflict, and correct it. You can use "my subject line" to deflect a probable sense of defense, like "Maybe I'm over my role", or "I worry my criticism might looks too strict ".

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   Get to know your colleagues. Learning more about your colleagues' interests, situations, and families will help you resolve some conflicts by understanding their personalities, goals, and priorities.
   • Invite them over to your home for a barbecue, or to a pub or restaurant after work. You can get to know them in a stress-free environment, and help them see you as a whole person who also has a life outside of work.
   • Remember that negative and conflicting people will often experience stress. They may have struggled with an illness, had trouble paying their bills, or dealt with family problems. Think of them well in the same way you would expect other people to be nice to you when you had a bad day.
   • Be mindful of your colleagues' personal boundaries, and don't feel offended when they choose to distance themselves from you. They may decline the offer or expect to maintain absolute professionalism in a work relationship, and that's fine.

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   Try to be kind to everyone. You're not everyone's best friend, but you can work hard to be kind, polite, and easy to cooperate.
   • Never engage in conduct that is perceived as harassment, for example, making a comment that provokes a sexual element, gesture, or joke about a subject of race, culture, or gender.
   • Consider sending a letter of appreciation to a colleague, or buying a cake for the office once a month. You can also help your colleague with the little things at the right time, and only if it doesn't increase your workload like: grab a printout of a printer for them, buy them a coffee if you're on your way there, or fill up the soapbox. Any small actions will contribute to a happier working relationship.
   • Being kind does not mean that you allow them to trample you or take advantage of your help. It is simply about treating everyone in the company fairly regardless of whether you like them or not.
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Method 3 of 3: Intervene in a bad situation

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   Realize the contradictions of wing nature. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you cannot get along with some personality that conflicts with your own qualities.
   • Stay away from troublesome colleagues. If you tend to encounter similar conflicts with the same person every day, you should consider making small changes to your schedule so that you can avoid them at specific times (like when you have to wait. elevator in the morning, during recess, or lunch in common area).
   • If possible, you should request to change seats or change groups. You should only use this as a last resort, as you won't want people to see you as being out of place.
   • If you can't avoid them, avoid conflicts by ignoring them. Bully people often target people who react to them, so you don't have to respond, they will leave you alone.

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   Chat with colleagues. If you have a conflict or misunderstanding, the first step is to have a calm, one-on-one discussion with the person.
   • Talk to the person privately, keep your emotions and tone of voice calm, and only discuss real events instead of your own opinions or feelings. Start with the attitude you want to find solutions and improve your productivity, not to prove your point or resolve personal grievances.
   • Be upfront, but don't accuse. Don't say, "You were mean to me this week. I saw you roll your eyes when I gave a speech this morning. What do you mean?". Instead, turn the problem into something you both can fix: "There seems to be tension between the two of us. I see you roll your eyes as I am presenting my ideas in the process. Meeting this morning. Did I do something wrong? How can we solve this problem? ".
   • Your colleague can provide a reasonable explanation for the conflict, such as a misunderstanding or something they overheard at the break room. In this case, you should explain or apologize, and then work together to maintain the professionalism of your future work relationship.

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   Stand up for a colleague who is being harassed or bullied. Unfortunately, workplace conflict often looks childish and can turn to teasing, ridicule, or discrimination. This is illegal behavior.
   • Similar to when you advise your child about dealing with a bully at the playground, consider your options: stand up and cope with the bully, change the subject or divert your attention. that person, or seeks interference from superiors on behalf of your colleague.

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   Take note of any incidents at work. If you are being harassed, bullied, or simply feel a heightened conflict, it is best to keep a detailed record of all interactions with the person.
   • Your notes can be used as evidence if the conflict is submitted to management pending resolution. Write down the date, time, and action or words used by your coworkers. Avoid using overly descriptive or emotional language; just tell the truth.

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   Know your rights. You have a right to a work environment free from harassment or bullying. You can report colleagues' behavior to management as a last resort.
   • You should make sure that company policy and / or your rights are being violated before you act. In Vietnam, you have the right to unilaterally terminate your employment contract if the employer is mistreated, forced to work, sexually harassed, etc. (according to Article 37 of the Labor Code).
   • Referring to the company's rules for employee behavior, you may have to report the situation to the company's operating system. Depending on the company, they could be your line manager or Human Resources.
   • Be sure to report the problem professionally. Start with a conversation with an explanation like "I don't want to disturb my boss, but my problems with my coworkers are so high that I think I need to talk to my boss about it."
   • Don't be overly emotional, hostile, or accusing. Just explain the facts about the situation - who did what and when.
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