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Women in the "red light" days often have many symptoms: abdominal pain, flatulence, constipation, headache and mood swings. You may be at a loss from feeling helpless when you see your loved one hurting, but there are actually things you can do to make her feel better. Treat her symptoms first with pain relievers and high-fiber foods, then lift her up with a gentle, considerate attitude and help with chores around the house.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Reduce physical symptoms

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   Give her ibuprofen or aspirin. Women who have periods often have cramps, and ibuprofen or aspirin can help relieve the discomfort. If she doesn't have the medication available, go to the pharmacy to buy a bottle of pain reliever she likes to take. Ask her if she needs medication, and if she doesn't, leave it on the table where it can be accessed later.
   • The ibuprofen 400 mg or aspirin 600 mg can be taken every 4 to 6 hours as needed.

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   Give her a hot pack. If she prefers natural remedies over medicine, help her to put a compress on her lower abdomen to relieve the pain. You can buy disposable hot packs at a pharmacy, or make a reusable pack by pouring rice into a sock and tying the mouth of the sock.
   • Heat the rice sock in the microwave for 1-2 minutes.
   • Homemade hot packs should not be left for more than 30 minutes at a time, but commercially available disposable hot packs can last up to 8 hours.

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   Choose foods high in fiber. Menstrual women are sometimes constipated, so cook food or buy snacks that contain high amounts of fiber for her. Give her raspberries, pears, broccoli, lentils, brown rice and whole grains, but don't press them if she doesn't want to. If she craves more starchy foods, make a waffle with a few slices of fruit on top.

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   Stay away from salty foods and alcohol. Certain foods will cause dehydration, bloating, and worsen menstrual symptoms. If you're shopping for food and cooking, avoid alcohol and salty foods like french fries. However, if she has a craving for those things, don't refuse to treat her like a child. You just need to suggest more healthy options.

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   Encourage her to drink plenty of water. Dehydration can make contractions worse, so make sure to keep water within her reach. Pour more water when the bottle is almost empty, or just pour a glass of water and place it on the table or nightstand before sitting down to watch TV.

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   Massage her. A back or foot massage will help relieve your girl's pain, while also proving that you still want to be with her. Ask her if she likes a massage, but don't get angry if she refuses. Maybe she just doesn't want anyone to touch her right now.

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   Ask her for a walk. She may not want to exercise at this time, but physical activity can help ease menstrual symptoms. Instead of going to the gym, ask her if she wants to go for a walk with you. Don't explain why going for a walk, however, as this may upset her by thinking she is being forced to practice.

Method 2 of 2: Uplift her

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   Show understanding. Don't make fun of her behavior and symptoms, and if "a woman's story" makes you uncomfortable, don't let it out. She can talk about what she's going through or not. Wait for her to speak, and when you do that, act mature when you talk, asking about symptoms as they relate to her health and mood.
   • Listen if she complains about "red light" days and says that you sympathize with what she is going through.
   • Never use words like "crazy" or "insane" to describe her behavior during this time.She may be more emotional due to the hormonal changes, but no less intelligent or less rational than usual.

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   Ask if she wants to be alone. Sometimes in "those days" she might want to curl up on your lap on the sofa, but there are times when she wants her own space. Don't assume you know what she wants. Ask in a nonjudgmental tone if she wants to be alone for a day or two. If not, stay with her whenever possible so she won't feel lonely.
   • If she wants to be alone, respect that desire, but also let her know that you still miss her through the sweet texts when you're not together.

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   Reduce social activities. Chances are your girl isn't in the mood to socialize much during her menstrual days, so don't push her out with you during this time. Instead, order the foods she likes and watch movies together at home. If the girl is more tired than usual, suggest that you both go to bed early.
   • If you are close enough to keep an eye on her menstrual cycle, avoid planning important activities or big events for the week when she gets “red lights”. Avoid camping or going to the beach, avoid even dressing up events.

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   Chores and chores. If menstrual cramps are severe, she may not be able to do housework. Change the dishes for her, wash clothes, buy food, cook and clean everything. Even if she doesn't hurt much, the things you do make her feel loved and appreciated.

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   Compliment her. Women often feel bloated and less attractive while they are menstruating. A few compliments can help her feel more confident. Don't over-compliment, like flattering that she looks great (she might think you're lying), but find small occasions to give compliments.
   • For example, when she cries over a scene from a TV series, say you love her sensitivity and compassion.
   • If she doesn't want to go out, tell her that you are comfortable and relaxed with her.

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   Please be patient. These days can be difficult for both her and you. Don't get angry, even if you think she's being mean, and don't run away. Take a deep breath as she acts puzzled, knowing that it will be over. Most menstruation lasts only about 3-5 days, although some women have a period for up to a week.
   • Practice meditating once or twice a day to ease frustration, if any.