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No matter how great your relationship with others is, at some point things can get boring - routine work, old annoying habits, predictable experiences. predict. This is normal when two people have been together for a while, but it doesn't mean there's no way to refresh things. By identifying problems and mixing new experiences with old hobbies, you can keep the relationship fresh.

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Method 1 of 3: Light up the old flame

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   Cherish your past, but don't idealize it too much. Research has shown that couples in a passive relationship are less likely to recall the exact time they were together. They often overemphasize or exaggerate good times to avoid existing difficulties and disappointments that are becoming more and more severe in the present.
   • For example, reimagining the habit of eating dinner and then watching movies as it was in the beginning of a relationship and hoping that things will return to the way they were before is unrealistic, and ignoring the ups and downs that come with the cycle of getting to know each other.However, using these memories to think about the qualities that brought you closer together in the first place is a great way to capitalize on past experiences.
   • Relationships always start with excitement and energy, and trying to recreate some of the original charm is a good way to refresh things. However, trying to recreate unrealistic idealizations of the past will only disappoint you more.
   • The goal of this process should be to rebuild some of the happy early memories together while still realizing that you and your partner are different from before. The past must be a ray of light to help progress this process.

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   Revive the relationship you had in the beginning. Recreating your first date will be pretty cool, from flowers to a decent dinner at the best restaurant you can afford to a clumsy goodnight kiss. Use it as a reason to see your loved one in a fresher look.
   • Planning a “date night,” and doing your best to do it will be a fun way to spend time reconnecting with the person in person. This is especially helpful when you have children.
   • Take turns planning your date so you can both enjoy the process of trying to outdo each other in brainstorming the ideal date.

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   Flirt, kiss, and get a little naughty. All unnecessary habits become dull. Try to kiss your partner every day - not a cheek kiss, but a passionate kiss in love.
   • Try to try flirting techniques that you haven't used in a while. Even if the result will be the two of you laughing together instead of heading towards the bedroom, this is a fun and easy way to make the day a little more alive.
   • Over time, love can become the presumed factor. Be sure to make sure you're not just talking, but expressing it, even through the simple act of holding hands or looking deeply into each other's eyes. You should also try to express your love through words and actions during sex, whether it's cuddling, talking in a "gaggle" style, or whatever is appropriate. with both.

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   Show gratitude for your ex's presence. During the early part of a relationship, you tend to cherish the moment you are together. Later, however, it will be easy for you to forget all the reasons why you are grateful for each other.
   • Say thank you for small tasks that you value, like taking out the trash or balancing check books. Or leave a cute note on your ex's refrigerator or in her work bag.
   • If you need help boosting your gratitude, think about life without your ex. If you feel as though things are going to get better now, your relationship is having bigger problems than dullness.
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Method 2 of 3: Light a new flame

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   Let's try new things together. Reviving old memories won't be enough to renew your relationship. You need to establish new memories together, so that you can build feelings of excitement and surprise.
   • Do something new as a team, whether it's skydiving, cooking class, or a bowling tournament. If it makes the move easier, you should take turns choosing a new activity to do together. However, you should choose things that you both love.
   • "Try out something new" that can extend to the bedroom. You can try oil, candles, new poses, role-playing, or anything that can spice up your sex routine.

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   Celebrate each other's victories. Use the good news of one of you as a reason to show respect for each other and to have a good time - promotions, awards in the community, even savings. Get a lot of money from car insurance.
   • Never assume your spouse knows how proud or happy you are for them. You should let them know. But remember that either of you will win for the team.
   • Celebrate your best efforts, even when things didn't go as planned. Nearing completing a cross country race or getting into the final round of interviews for a dream job is worth a night out.

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   Create surprise for each other. Sticking a note of encouragement in a person's laptop, or leaving a sexy text in his or her voicemail can serve as a small emotional reminder and your respect. Any surprise out of your routine will help you keep everything fresh and interesting.
   • While you can text each other about dinner plans or work anxiety, a sudden expression of love or appreciation can be successful.
   • Of course, classic gestures like giving flowers, buying tickets to an event when there are no tickets, holding a surprise appointment, or simply cleaning the house when the person is away will also bring. result.

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   Separate yourself from your children for a little while. Basically, having children will change you and the relationship between you and your significant other. Even if you cherish every moment with them (or almost every moment), the change they bring and the time your child possesses will often make a relationship problem. more serious.
   • Sometimes, just getting more sleep can make a difference. This may seem like a pipe dream if you have young children, but resting and maintaining more alertness will help people feel better, and make it easier for you to see the positive. as well as making positive changes.
   • Take a moment to pity on your stress of having to take care of your children relentlessly or deal with their struggles with toys, TVs, etc. You should also share your good experience. Explain to each other that both have to bear the same situation together.
   • Make time for fun things and for romance. You can ask your spouse's parents to come home for a short period of time, or pay the babysitter overtime. Grab free time whenever possible, or plan ahead (this can serve as a stimulus for stressful parents!).
   • Don't feel guilty about spending time alone together, as a strong, healthy, and fresh relationship between you two will also benefit your child.
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Method 3 of 3: Identify the problem

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   Consider your commitment. People often view specific causes such as stress or disagreement related to money, work, children, and sex as the reason for the relationship to wobble. Deep down, however, a common problem such as imbalance in level of commitment is often the problem.
   • If a person lacks commitment to important aspects of the relationship - such as paying a penny to pay off debts or spending time with family activities - conflict will turn each day into a relentless battle.
   • By talking to each other and identifying weak ties together, you can begin the conflict resolution process. So, both of you need to commit to trying to fulfill your commitment.

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   Consider "emotional transparency". Of course, healthy relationships are built on honesty, but how a person expresses sincerity is also important. Lack of both can ruin a fresh relationship.
   • Ask yourself if you are hiding anything from your crush, whether it's selfishness, fear of hurting them, or any other reason. Is persistent avoidance or excuse stressing your relationship?
   • If being honest isn't your problem, consider whether your way of presenting the truth is too fuzzy or too judgmental. Can you speak the truth in a kinder way?

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   Research on how to share your responsibilities. While maintaining identity and self-awareness in the relationship is important, you should also be willing to share a lot of things with each other, including the problems you are facing. Usually, you can't say it's "yours" or "mine", but it's "our".
   • For example, if your spouse is looking for work, money will look more like his problem than yours, especially when it comes to their spending habits. However, frequent blaming destroys all relationships.
   • Similar to a baseball club, when "mistakes" appear in a relationship, the whole team has to deal with it and try to overcome it.

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   Analyze your expressions of appreciation. Whether your relationship has lasted for six months, six years, or six decades, chances are you won't look into the eyes of the person you love and say "I love you", or "thank you. you "as often as in the beginning. Over time, the relationship's focus often shifts from showing affection and appreciation to solving problems - busy with kids, paying a mortgage, and more.
   • Solving problems together is essential in maintaining a relationship, but you should be careful not to let this process interfere with how you show genuine respect for each other.
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