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You can propose to your boyfriend if you want your relationship to turn a new turning point. If you've decided to get married, plan a romantic proposal so your boyfriend can see how much you love him. Decide on the basics, choose where and when to propose. Keep your proposal a secret until the big day. When that day comes, relax and ask him questions. If he disagrees then you must accept and continue to be a couple.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Deciding the basics

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   Make sure he's ready to get married. Before deciding to propose, make sure the marriage is considered by the two of you. Even though you don't want to lose the surprise, at least make sure your boyfriend wants to get married. Include marriage in conversations to get a sense of whether proposing is an idea or not.
   • You can raise the issue directly. For example, say, "Do you think we will get married someday?"
   • When discussing marriage, mention the topic of the proposal. For example, you could say, "Do you like a formal proposal?". Some people prefer to be formally engaged.
2. Find out what his dream of an engagement is. Does he like a surprise engagement, wants you to propose to him, or likes to talk first. You can bring it up for a while, so that you both know what you like about your engagement day.
   • You should say, "What do you imagine when you are engaged to your girlfriend?" or "Do you have a friend who's been through a great engagement?".
   • If your boyfriend doesn't like a traditional surprise proposal, then you should think of a way for the two of you to mark this special occasion together. For example, maybe he wants both of you to pull out their engagement rings.
3. Add a little more to your boyfriend's wishes. Think about what your boyfriend wants from your proposal, he probably mentioned this topic before. Try to fulfill his wish, but make some adjustments so that not only will you keep your surprise, but also spice up his wishes. This is especially good if the proposal is not really a surprise. For example, if the two of you agreed to get engaged in a certain time frame, he may have anticipated your proposal.
   • Perhaps boyfriend always dreamed of getting engaged on a romantic vacation. As such, go on a trip with him, but don't propose during the trip. Instead you should turn this question on on your flight there.
   • Sometimes a boyfriend wants to be proposed in a coffee shop where you first met. If so, just ask a question right there and surprise him with a group of friends holding a board that says "Will you marry me?".

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   Choose place. First, you need to determine where you want to propose. Think about your boyfriend's wishes and find a place that is special to you both. Where was or was that special to both of you?
   • Boyfriend wants to be proposed in a crowded place or private place? If he wants to be alone, choose a special place to propose that won't be seen by other people. You can propose at home, but be sure to decorate with candles and pictures of you two in advance. You can also go to a private place like walking in a secluded area where the two of you used to meet on a date.
   • If your boyfriend wants to be proposed in a public place, choose a location that you both enjoy. You can propose at a cafe where you are going on your first date. If your boyfriend dreams of proposing in front of a friend or relative, you can propose at dinner with your friends.
5. Choose the right time. Think about the important dates. Choose a date that is meaningful to both of you, like your boyfriend's birthday or your anniversary. You can also choose a date that makes sense for your future plans. For example, if you want to get engaged before his cousin's wedding date in March, consider proposing in January or February.
   • Try to think of a special day if you want something memorable. Instead of choosing a date for your anniversary, choose another important date. For example, propose to him on the anniversary day when you adopt a kitten.

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   Think if you want an engagement ring. Would your boyfriend like getting engagement rings? Today many suitors do not use rings, but if your boyfriend likes, you should buy one that fits his hand.
   • If you don't want to buy a ring, many people choose something to symbolize a proposal. You can buy jewelry like watches or raise a gift to mark the occasion. Think of a meaningful gift he really likes, like an instrument he wants to buy a long time ago.
   • You then use it as your proposal gift. For example, stick a piece of paper that says "Will you marry me?" on the guitar you bought.
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Part 2 of 3: Successful proposal

1. Create the right space. Think about what you want your surroundings to look like. If you can control the space of your proposal, try to set it as you wish. Remember, you cannot control everything, but you can approximate it according to your imagination.
   • If you propose at home, decorating is easy. You can dim the lights and light a few candles, embellishing pictures of you and your boyfriend.
   • If you propose in public, you will hardly change much. However, there are a few things you should do to customize the space as you like. If you're planning on proposing on a hiking trip, start with a good time to get there at sunset. If you plan to propose at a restaurant or coffee shop, try to find the right table location.
2. Take out a ring or a gift if you are prepared. If you want to propose by ring or gift, you should find the appropriate way out. You can hide the ring in your pocket or purse and take out the box when you're ready. At a restaurant or cafe, ask the waiter to take a ring out of a drink or something else. Depending on the item, you should choose a creative way out.
   • For example, if you buy a watch to propose, ask your boyfriend to close his eyes and put it on his wrist.
   • If you use rings, think of a more fun way. For example, you arrange the objects in the house so that he is directed to the ring.
3. Make a question. Proceed in a simple way. Look your boyfriend in the eye and say you love and respect him, then say "Will you marry me?".
   • Some people like to propose by letter. You can write a note and put it in his hand. Write at the end of the letter the words "Will you marry me?".

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   Graciously deal with rejection. Sometimes things don't go as planned. If your boyfriend refuses, this should not be the end of the relationship. There are many reasons why people don't want to get married, some of which stem from practical concerns. For example, boyfriend wants to wait until the financial problems are more stable. If he says no, calmly talk and determine where to start.
   • Remember, it is better that your boyfriend rejects you when he is not ready than saying "Yes" just to make you happy. He'd better think ahead to make sure that's what he wants.
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Part 3 of 3: Keep things a secret

1. Only to a few best friends. It is also a good idea to have some of your best friends participate in the plan. This is especially important if you need to ask someone to take your boyfriend to the desired location at the right time. However, if you want to make music however, minimize the number of people who know your plans. You should only let a few people know, who can keep it a secret.

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   Distracting. In the days leading up to the proposal, distract your boyfriend so he won't guess anything. Find a way to create a job for your boyfriend so that he won't realize you're busy with a plan.
   • Encourage your boyfriend to join new activities. You can join him in a new activity if it doesn't interfere with his plan. For example, learn to cook together or start a new exercise regime.
   • Ask your friends for help. Ask a friend (who knows your plan) to take him out more in the weeks leading up to the date of your proposal.
3. Have a few reasons ready to make an excuse. Your boyfriend may sense that something is going to happen, so you need to clear his distrust with stories. Come up with explanations for your unusual behavior. For example, if you have to go out to buy an engagement ring, ask a friend to tell you they're taking you shopping together.
4. Don't plan too long. Try to minimize your planning time for the event. The longer it takes your boyfriend to suspect that something is going to happen. Trying to only plan for a week or two before you formally propose can also help relieve your stress. The marriage proposal should be a joyful event to mark the success of your relationship. advertisement