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Have you ever wanted to ask someone a question, but are not sure how they will respond? The “21 questions” game is a great game if you are trying to get to know someone, playing with a group of friends who want to know more about each other, or want to learn about someone you like. Unlike the popular "20 questions" game, the questions in this game are often more personal, must be answered fully and honestly (after participants agree to play).

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Understanding the game

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   Choose who will answer the question. The aim of the game is to ask someone (a person, or a member of a group) 21 questions, and all of these questions must be answered honestly.While you can play with close friends, it's often best to choose someone you don't know, or someone you want to dig deeper into.
   • If you do not have a novice or loyalist, correct the questions accordingly to make it easier to get to know someone.

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   Determine what you want to know. After choosing who you want to ask, determine what you want to know about them. If you choose a friend, do you want to know more about their background, or are more interested in their future plans? If you choose someone you love, do you want to know about their dating history, or how they feel about your relationship?
   • If they are playing in groups, the group can decide together what types of questions to ask. Questions can be tailored for each person, or there can be a general theme for the game.

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   Write a list of questions. There are two ways to play: one is to have people ask whatever question comes to mind, and ask randomly. The second way is for a pair (or group) to come up with a list of questions that will be asked of each person.
   • Writing a list in advance is easier to do, because people know what to ask and it's easier to agree to answer. Asking at random may be a more enjoyable choice, but also risk invading your privacy or being more inappropriate.

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   Consider the context. If you decide to play this game with a stranger or someone you know in a certain location, you will likely need to be mindful of the context when making a list of some or all of the questions.
   • If you are meeting a member of a book club or group of writers, you might ask questions like, "What's your favorite book?" or "If you could become any fictional character in any book, who would you be?"
   • If you are meeting with a church group, consider questions such as "What is your favorite Bible chant or story?" or "When was the first time you became interested in religion?"
   • If you are meeting a new acquaintance at the cafe's grand opening, you might ask questions like, "What would you like to eat while drinking coffee?" or “If you had to choose, would you quit coffee for a month or shower for a week?”

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   Show respect. Whether many people play 21 questions for the purpose of scrutiny or in other words asking inappropriate questions, respect the privacy of the person asked — especially in a large group. If they want to avoid or answer ambiguously, let them do so.
   • The golden rule is an important thing to remember when playing this game. Treat the respondent the same way you would like to be treated on your turn later.

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   Determine if the question is too much. There are some questions that should not be asked under any circumstances. Before starting the game, determine which questions are ungainly, unintentional, or rude if asked.
   • These questions can be in a wide range of areas such as sex and intimacy, or it could be specific questions like, "Have you ever committed a crime?"
   • You can also create a rule for the question depending on the location. Example: If you are playing a 21-question game with a group of young people at church, you can claim that at least half of the questions must be religious related.

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   Set up a rule for ignoring questions. There may be questioning questions that are unduly intrusive or intrusive if someone answers. To avoid getting someone off the hook, set a rule for these questions before starting the game.
   • There can be a simple rule that the respondent is allowed to skip the question, but must be asked an alternate question, or the respondent is allowed to ignore the question, but loses the right to ask the other question in the next round follow.
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Part 2 of 4: Group play

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   Decide on the sequence of "respondents". In a group, there will be many people being asked and many people asking, so you need to choose the right method to decide who will be asked first, second, third, etc.
   • Dice is a good way to choose sequence. Each person will roll once, and the person with the lowest number of dice will be the first to be asked, then the person with the second lowest number of dice and so on.
   • You can also play the game “Hammer, Bag, Scissors” to decide who gets asked first, and use it again before every new game.
   • You can also play in circles to decide which sequence is asked. After the first person is asked, the person on the left will be the next person asked, and the circle continues until everyone is asked.

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   Ask in turn. Now that the person being asked and the sequence has been decided, each member of the group will take turns asking questions for the questionee. You can divide the questions according to the number of people in the group (for example, if a group of 3 asks each of them 7 questions), or you can play in a circle and each person asks one question.
   • If the 21 questions cannot be divided equally by the number of people, sit in a circle and ask someone to start asking. In the next turn, the person on the left will ask, and so on until everyone has a chance to ask.

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   Continue to ask questions of the next respondent. After asking all 21 questions, ask the next respondent questions in the set sequence, or take some time to decide who the next respondent is with a game of Hammers, Sacks, Pulls or tosses. advertisement

Part 3 of 4: Play with two people

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   Agree on before and after limits on play. When playing this game when there are only two people, you can ask more personal or informal questions in group play. For this reason, both of you should agree on the limit before playing (see which questions are too much), as well as after playing (such as “We won't treat each other differently later). when answering the question ”).
   • This game can quickly affect friendships and relationships without discussing certain things in advance. Don't ask questions that you don't really want to answer.
   • If you are unsure whether a question is appropriate, simply ask and give your partner the opportunity to accept the answer or ask to move on to another question.

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   Select the person to be asked first. The easiest way to choose a respondent with only two people is toss a coin. After you toss a coin, understand that it will be your turn after the respondent has finished answering the questions.
   • Do not use this game to gather information and refuse to play after the respondent has finished answering. This game should be played in a fair way.

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   Make a question. Ask 21 questions to the respondents based on a pre-agreed list of excess questions. If you're playing with a friend, ask questions that help you get to know your friend, his friend's friendship and interests. If you're playing with someone you love, ask questions about your life, background, relationships and their needs.
   • This game can be very suitable for new lovers who want to learn more about each other quickly and easily.
   • This game is also suitable for erasing the feeling of being unfamiliar to a novice, and you should ask basic questions in a familiar or harmless manner rather than profound or personal ones.

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   Execute your turn. After you have finished asking the questions, do your turn! You will either answer the questions you have asked yourself, or answer completely new questions. Let the askers see exactly what they have for you and answer questions honestly and succinctly.
   • If you don't feel comfortable answering a question, feel free to ask for another question. This game was played for fun, not anger or emotional trauma.
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Part 4 of 4: Asking questions

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   Ask basic questions. To get started, ask basic questions about what color they like, the first celebrity they adore, or where they grew up. At first, you need to ask small, easy-to-answer questions to build trust between the asker and the person asked.
   • Ask "favorite" questions like, "What is your favorite age?" "What is the favorite place you would like to visit?" "In school, what interests you?" "What is your favorite travel style?"
   • Ask “what if” questions. You might ask, "What would you do if you could go back to a certain point in the past?" "What would you do if you could fly?" "What would you do if you had a finger on your leg and a toe on your hand?"

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   Continue based on the questions asked. After asking basic questions, you can ask more personal questions, or ask questions based on the questions you received and the answers you received.
   • To ask based on the response you get, listen to the answer and ask related questions like: “Your biggest fear is spiders, so what would you do if you move in A house with spiders everywhere? "
   • To ask more personal questions, you could say something like: “The person you most want to meet in the past or present is Susan B. Anthony. Why is she so important to me? "

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   Ask questions that require creative answers. Some questions may be simple (such as “What is your favorite movie and why?”), But there are also questions that require a little thought. Even if you're asking seriously, ask questions that require a bit of creativity or dexterity when answering.
   • Ask naive questions like, "Will a hair stylist ask another stylist to cut his hair or cut his own hair?" or "If an ambulance accidentally causes someone to have an accident while rescuing someone else, who will the ambulance choose to save?"
   • You could also ask serious questions like, "If the world ends and you have to save someone, who will you save?" or "If your relationship begins to show signs of going down, what will you do to try to save the situation?"

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   Ask about family and background. Regardless of whether you're playing with a friend or someone you love, you can always get to know someone else's family and background. Asking about the family can help you get to know the person's habits and traditions, while asking about the background can help you understand cultural differences or interesting ideas they might have.
   • When asking about your family, you might ask questions like: "Who raised you?" "Is your family tight?" "Do you have any special traditions during the holidays?"
   • When asking questions about your background, you can ask questions like: "Do you know where your ancestors came from?" “Did you celebrate any special holidays while growing up?”
   • When it comes to family and background, remember to exercise sensitivity, as these are all very personal topics, requiring intimacy and open-minded attitudes.

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   Ask about old love and hobbies. Questions about old love can be naive, interesting, or informative. When deciding to question your old love, consider the purpose of the game. Are you playing with the purpose of more engagement with your fellow players, or get rid of boredom at the weekend?
   • If you want to bond more with your partner, you can ask questions like "Who did you give your first kiss to?" "When was your best date and why was it the best?" "Are you dreaming of something?"
   • If you're asking a few naive questions, you could ask something like: "How was your awkward kiss?" "Have you ever sneezed in the face of your lover?" "According to you, how long have you known each other, you can fart close to your lover?"

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   Ask about goals and ambitions. When asking about your goals and ambitions, be very subtle too, as you shouldn't laugh or look down on other people's dreams. When asking these kinds of questions, you can keep a cheerful attitude, but avoid making fun of your partner's answer.
   • Some light-hearted questions such as: "When you were 5 years old, who would you like to be?" "What do you think you will be like in the next 10 years?" "Do you hope to become famous one day?"
   • Some more serious questions about goals can be mentioned such as: "What do you want more than anything else in the world?" "If you could do anything without worrying about money and life, what would you do and why?"
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Advice

• Although the 21-question game is built on a 20-question game, the two games are very different. In the 20-question game, people will take turns asking to guess something. In the game 21 questions, people will ask to know more about someone.
• If you don't want to answer a question, chances are the other person doesn't want to answer it either. So ask questions that you are not afraid to answer.
• It's always fair to be your turn as the respondent.
• Make sure you ask pleasant questions.

Warning

• Do not take advantage of this game to reveal secrets or secrets of others. This game should be played in a harmless and fun way to get to know someone.
• Do not use this game as an offensive weapon, or play while you are having aversion to the person questioned. You may both regret what you said.