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The person you like is right here, right across from you. So close but also far away! So how can you start a conversation with someone you hardly know or with someone you really like? This is not as difficult as it seems, you just need a few advice from wikiHow. Start with Step 1 below to get into the intimate phase of kissing and holding hands!

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Prepare Yourself

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   Find out about the interests and interests of the person you like. Pay attention to what the person does that makes them feel good.People love to talk about the things they know and the things they like. You should also pay attention to the common ground between the two to have the right discussion topic.
   • For example, you can find out what the other person's extracurricular activities are or what they usually do on the weekends. You can ask their friends or just pay attention to what they say they did.

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   Feel your partner's personality. Are they timid? Are they sociable and extrovert? You can observe how the other person behaves socially, so you can get an idea of ​​how to approach that person.
   • For example, if the other person is shy, talk to them while around other people, if you show your feelings too openly it will scare them, so avoid doing so.

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   Understand the opponent's plan briefly. You can only start a conversation with them if you are in the same place at the same time. This gives you the opportunity to have a "friendly" conversation with someone you like!
   • In case you notice that capturing information also doesn't work, you can ask one of their friends for help. Good friends will want their friends to be loved. Just make sure the friend is trustworthy.

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   Pay attention to your good looks to feel confident. You want yourself to look your best to show someone you like that you always think they are worthy of your efforts. Feeling comfortable with your appearance also boosts your confidence! Be especially careful with:
   • Hair - Get a new hairstyle or give it a great look. You shouldn't change your hairstyle completely though ... it will look weird!
   • Clothes - Wear an outfit the other person might like. Most importantly, make sure the clothes are clean, fit and free of wrinkles or stains.
   • Looks Standards - Cleaning, shaving, and a pleasant body odor will give you your chance to go further!
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Part 2 of 3: Starting a Talk

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   Choose a time and place. Depending on what you've learned about your crush, choosing when and where to talk is also very important. If you want to have a two-person conversation, start talking while the other party is alone. If you are with a group or in a noisy place, the conversation will be more casual.

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   Talk with confidence. Speak clearly and make eye contact with the person. Your body language will say a lot about your interests. A smile also doesn't do any harm!
   • Remember that they are just human beings, just like you. You don't have to be nervous, even if things don't go as planned, in the end everything will be fine.

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   Ask open-ended questions. These questions cannot be answered with only yes or no. The goal here is to give them a chance to talk and get them to keep talking, so you'll have the maximum chance to respond, thus having a real conversation!
   • Open-ended questions often begin with "why" or "how", or cover complex topics. For example, you might ask: "How did you feel when you grew up in Hanoi and then moved here?", "Why do you like to register for this class?" or "How do you like doing this _____?"

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   Listen actively and pay attention to your partner's body language. Try to ask questions that follow the subject of interest. The tone of your voice and body language can tell you where this conversation is going.
   • If they don't seem interested or distracted, stop when it's your turn to speak. You shouldn't leave the impression of being a super weird person. Just apologize ("Sorry, I forgot to call Aunt for happy birthday!") And try again next time.

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   Allow yourself and your opponent to be the key. As the conversation progresses, express your opinion and excitement while giving the other person space to talk about themselves. Just make sure you focus your conversation on the other person when you first get to know each other. You shouldn't make them feel you are self-centered. advertisement

Part 3 of 3: Talk Initiation Topic

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   Should talk about what happens at school or at work. You can start a conversation on a topic where you're sure two people have something in common: school or work (it depends on how well you two know each other).
   • "Do you study Math that Ms. Minh teaches? I am trying to find out so I can study next term."
   • "Did you hear that they will rebuild the guestroom? I'm looking forward to a new TV. What about you?"

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   Comment on what's going on around you. You can also comment on events that happened nearby, when the two of you stood side by side. Just don't criticize or insult others (because it leaves the other person a bad impression of who you are).
   • "Can you see? I hope many people will be so cautious. It's nice to see that."
   • "The way he talks to her is embarrassing. She deserves more respect. She has worked so hard."

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   Comment on the other party. Comment on what they wear, ask questions about its origin or story. Try to notice what they show their obvious pride, like a headband, a pair of nice shoes, or a logo t-shirt.
   • "This Burning Man shirt is so beautiful. Have you ever attended? I've always wanted to go there."
   • "This Sweet Adventure Time button. Which character do you like in there?"

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   Make a question. Ask them questions about what you think they might know. This is a great way to give a conversation chance, but the topic usually has to change pretty quickly if you want the conversation to continue.
   • "Do you know where the Lotte building is?"
   • "Do you know how to open this? I'm trying to open it but I wonder if it's because I'm too stupid or my arms are weak anymore."

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   Help me. Ask the other person for help with something very small, it doesn't take them a minute. People love to feel helpful and will give you a chance to talk while they feel positive.
   • "Are you thinking if I can get you that item on the other shelf? These chairs don't look very safe so I don't dare stand up."
   • "Can you help me keep this coffee cup for a second so I can pack up? I don't want to spill the coffee."

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   Ask about their past. Ask them why or how they felt when they were in a particular place. For example, if you are at a party, ask them how well they know the host. If you are at school and are hanging out with class or friends, you can ask them if they live in this neighborhood.

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   Talk about a recent event. You can tell what's happening in the news, domestically or in your area. This is a way to take more serious topics if you really want to get to know the other person.
   • "Did you hear about the rally this weekend? I am planning to participate."
   • "Did you hear about the city planning to split the highway? Traffic will be fatal disaster then."

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   Talk about a movie or TV show. Comment on or talk about a recent movie or TV show, something you love so much, or something you've never seen before. Take their opinion and use it as a reason to talk more. Even if they haven't seen it, you can turn the conversation into another great topic.
   • "Have you gone to see the new Spider-Man movie? I'm trying to find out if it's worth watching."
   • "Oh, let's say I watch the movie Game of Thrones, you need someone to get excited about! Don't you? You should watch ... great!", Etc.

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   Praise them! A compliment for your partner's good grades is a great way to start a conversation. Try to compliment them on something they have control over, like how they choose clothes or something they've done or made, rather than complimenting on something beyond their control. they are like hair or eyes. Complimenting the hair or eyes is a compliment that can be given to anyone, not especially for them.

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    Honest. Tell the other person that you want to talk to them because they are interesting or funny and that you want to get acquainted.A lot of people will appreciate being honest, especially charming people and there have been many other people who have tried to solicit or make love to talk to them. advertisement

Advice

• Do not force the conversation. If the person you like isn't excited, that's why you should stop. You should try it again.
• Although you want to get to know the person you like before you talk to it, you don't have to everything about them. Knowing too much about a person (and how the information is used) can make the other person feel uncomfortable.
• Need to be patient. If the moment isn't right for you, stop and think.
• Always respect them and praise them with courtesy. Example: "You look so beautiful today".