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• Method 1 of 3: Put others first
• Method 2 of 3: Strive for humility
• Method 3 of 3: Control your body language

You scare people away with a condescending attitude. Disdain can take many forms, but generally it involves talking condescendingly about others and acting as if you are more intelligent or important than them. This type of behavior can lead to a person becoming without friends and thus lonely. However, by remembering to put others first, practicing humility, and monitoring your body language, you can suppress behaviors that come across as condescending. You can learn to put others first and practice humility by actively listening to what others have to say and by considering other opinions. In addition, speak at a normal pace and don't use impatient body language when talking to others.

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Method 1 of 3: Put others first

1. Listen more. Instead of dominating a conversation by talking all the time, try listening more to the opinions of others. Don't just listen, but actively listen to what the person is saying. Concentrate on understanding the argument that the other person is making, and take a few minutes to process the information. Instead of coming up with your answer, listen while the other person talks, then give an appropriate answer.
   • For example: "So what you say is that by being a vegetarian you are also environmentally conscious. That is a very interesting point. I've never thought about it from that point of view. "
   • Practice active listening by maintaining eye contact with the speaker, nodding occasionally, and asking clarifying questions when the speaker is ready.
2. Recognize others. It's normal to want to feel good and take credit for an achievement. Chances are, however, you haven't achieved it all on your own. There is always someone, such as a friend, family member, mentor, or colleague, who has helped you reach your goal by supporting your efforts.
   • Take the time to give your supporters the credit they deserve. For example: "I worked very hard to get into law school, but I couldn't have done it without the support of my friends and family. They were always there to cheer me up when my motivation was low. "
3. Take other points of view into account. Always positively acknowledge other points of view. Hold off on judging by letting the speaker finish and do not interrupt with counter-arguments. You gain or add nothing by attacking or knocking down the speaker. When it comes your time to respond, be honest, open, and sincere with your response.
   • For example: "That's an interesting point. However, others argue that dogs, especially pit bulls and German Shepherds, are not inherently aggressive. Instead, it depends on their social development and training. What do you think of that?'
4. Offer a helping hand. Rather than feeling better because you know how to do something better than someone else, you can feel better because you helped someone get better. Helping others can make lasting friendships.
   • For example, if a colleague is having trouble writing, offer that person to read and edit their work, and provide insightful feedback.

Method 2 of 3: Strive for humility

1. Know your self-esteem. Disdain usually stems from insecurity and fear of rejection. However, knowing your self-worth can help you feel more confident about yourself. When you feel more confident, you are less likely to put others down.
   • Sit down and list your strengths, weaknesses, achievements, and failures. Knowing them will help you gauge your self-esteem and find your inner confidence, as well as your humility. For example, one of your strengths may be that you are highly motivated, while a weakness may be that you are quick to ignore opinions that are different from yours.
   • If you need help, ask a friend or family member which qualities they most admire in you and which ones they think you still need to work on.
2. Don't compare yourself to others. Disdain often arises from envy, and the feeling that you can only feel better about yourself by feeling superior to others. Remember that your life experiences, your strengths and weaknesses are unique to you. Therefore, comparing yourself to other people is not productive, because their experiences and circumstances are not the same as yours.
3. Put yourself in perspective. If you are good at something or have qualities that you are proud of (e.g. good looks, intelligence, or skill in a certain area), it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you are better than other people . This is called illusory superiority. Acknowledging your sense of illusory superiority doesn't mean you should feel bad about yourself or minimize your own good qualities. Just realize that many other people also have these qualities, and that they do not make you inherently superior to others.
4. Be open-minded. Try to realize that you don't know everything and that your opinion is just an opinion. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and you should not look down on someone just because their opinion is different. Instead, you need to have an open mind. Look for similarities between you and others rather than differences.
   • For example, if you have a negative opinion about a religion or culture, talk to someone from that culture. You are supposed to listen and learn rather than argue or confirm your suspicions.
5. Watch your language. Belittling others undermines your ability to collaborate and develop relationships with others. It also creates a tense atmosphere in which others feel inferior while you feel superior. By monitoring your words and actions, as well as the reactions of others, you can become more aware of condescending language and its effects.
   • Try to avoid condescending phrases like, `` Oh, you just figured that out, '' `` Let's see if I can explain it simply, '' `` We've already thought of that, '' or `` What she's trying to say is ... '
   • Instead, say things like, "Maybe I wasn't clear enough," "Do you mean that vegetarians are also environmentally conscious?" And "Yes, that's an interesting and valuable point. We record it. "

Method 3 of 3: Control your body language

1. Speak at a normal pace. Slowing down your speech so that others can "understand" you better makes the listener feel inferior because it is the way an adult speaks to a child. When explaining something to someone, don't assume that he or she is the problem. You are more likely to not explain it clearly or correctly.
   • For example, don't say, `` I'm going to ... study ... how ... people ... in ... groups ... interact with ... each other ... '' Instead, continue normally say, "I'm going to study the way people interact with each other in groups. Let me explain what I mean by" interacting. "
2. Don't try to refer to yourself in the third person. Referring to yourself in the third person gives you an air of superiority. It's something to avoid if you don't want to appear condescending.
   • For example, don't say, "She won a prestigious award for her article" when you refer to yourself.
   • Also, try not to emphasize the "mine" and the "me" in your speech, for example, "According to me is my book better. "
3. Keep your head and chin horizontal. When talking to others, always keep your head and chin horizontal. Pointing your chin up and your forehead back as you look down your nose will make you appear superior. This main position indicates that you think you know more than the other, and that your opinion is more important and valuable.
   • Also avoid impatient body language, such as loud sighs, rolling your eyes, constantly checking your watch or phone, drumming your fingers, and yawning.