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• To step
• Method 1 of 4: Find out whether or not he's cheating on you
• Method 2 of 4: Confront him
• Method 3 of 4: If you stay together
• Method 4 of 4: What drives someone to cheat
• Tips

Cheating can be enough for you to end a relationship, or not, depending on the circumstances. There are many different factors to consider and emotions that come into play. To determine how to deal with this, follow these steps.

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Method 1 of 4: Find out whether or not he's cheating on you

1. Do your research. Play a little detective and watch for suspicious behavior. Ask yourself the following:
   • Is he less intimate with you these days? If you notice that you are having less sex, he may get his comfort elsewhere.
   • Does he dress to impress? Men do this when they first become interested in someone, but as a relationship gets more serious, they tend to pay less attention to their appearance. If he suddenly starts exercising or has an unusual interest in his appearance, he may be trying to look good to someone else.
   • Does he have to work overtime more often? If you notice that the overtime is more frequent, or that he is away in the evenings "on business," then it is possible that he is seeing someone else. Unless he's overwhelmed with work, in which case he'd probably tell you all about specific things he's tense about. If he remains vague about his evenings and business trips and can't talk much about them, there's a good chance he'll meet someone else.
   • Does he check his phone often, and is he secretive about it? Some guys just take things more private than others, but if he gets defensive when you ask him who he's corresponding with, then he might have something to hide.
   • Is he keeping his personal accounts more private? More than usual? If he suddenly has a password installed on his cell phone or computer or starts intercepting the mail to keep bank statements private, he may be having an affair.
   • Has he been withdrawn and distant lately? If he's acting nervously around you, there's a chance he's having an affair. But remember, men can be aloof for many reasons, so be careful with your conclusions. But if he's unfaithful, he'll most likely be nervous, be it because of guilt or paranoia.
   • Has he been hateful to you in company? He can try to justify his infidelity by convincing himself that you are the bad guy.
   • Has he been talking about a female acquaintance or colleague much more recently? This could mean he has a crush on her, even if he doesn't even know it yet. The good news is that if he's still talking to you about her, he may not have acted on those feelings yet, as they only excite him. If he went too far, he would probably never mention her again.
2. If you know or suspect who she is, ask the woman who is having an affair with you. Most women will empathize with you and tell the truth. Often times, however, this is exactly what she wants - for you to know. She may want you to leave him so she can have your husband all to herself. Many women are offended at being someone's secret love or second choice.
3. Ask him. He may not answer honestly, but you can still tell from his response if he has something to hide.
   • If he responds defensively or nervously and ardently denies all accusations, then he may have something to hide.
   • If he doesn't answer your questions, it's usually because he doesn't want to lie to you, but also doesn't want to tell you the full truth. If he asks you a question back instead, such as, "How can you think that of me? Don't you trust me? "He may just be trying to avoid your questions.
   • If he does clean up, it is for two reasons. Either he tells you because A) he wants to leave you, or B) he goes under the guilt of the affair. If he breaks down and cries, or holds his head down when he tells you, it's because he's ashamed and regrets his actions. Ask him if he tells you this to work things out together or not.

Method 2 of 4: Confront him

1. Prepare for every opportunity. "Deception" is not always black and white. Depending on how many times he's cheated on you, how long he's been unfaithful, how much he's invested in his affair (s), and how many wives he's had, it may be possible to save your relationship.
   • If he hangs out with a particular woman exclusively and sees her often, buys her things, and does romantic things with her, it means he's in love with her and your relationship is over.
   • If he's cheated on multiple occasions, but always with different women (no repetition) that he doesn't care about and hasn't kept in touch with, there may be something else to save, as it means that you apparently still have something to offer him. something those other women can't do. But something will have to change to keep him from relapsing into his behavior or it won't work.
   • If he cheated on you once, and it was strange behavior that doesn't suit him, and he's genuinely and completely sorry, then you could give him a second chance.
2. Decide for yourself what you find unforgivable. Where do you draw the line? When you find out how seriously he cheated on you, at what point are you done? How willing are you to forgive him and move on?
3. Realize that you may be partly responsible. Obviously, such actions are inexcusable, but they can be the result of something deeper that you may be a part of. Ask yourself if you chased him away from you. Maybe you lashed out at him, put too much pressure on the relationship, wanted to be serious too quickly, or you weren't serious enough. It could be any number of things, but you may not meet all of his needs, and if you want to fix things there may be aspects of yourself that you need to change.
4. Confront him calmly. If you talk to him angrily about this, he will immediately become defensive and not be rational or honest with you.
   • Be as understanding as possible. Let him tell his story. Listening to him can ease some of the tension that prompted him to cheat on you in the first place.
5. Specifically ask him how many times he cheated on you.
   • How many times?
   • How many women?
   • How often?
   • How long has it been going on?
   • Has he displayed such behavior in previous relationships?
   • How serious is he with these women / this woman?
6. Ask him what his intentions are for your relationship. Does he want to stay with you? Or was cheating an easy way out of your relationship? Is he in love with someone else?
7. Decide if you are willing to work this out together or if you are done with it. Should you stay or should you go?
   • If you can't forgive him completely in your heart, and you don't expect to be happy if you keep him happy, then it's not worth all the misery to work on the relationship, no matter how much you wish it could.
   • If you continue to believe in him and trust that he will be faithful to you from now on, consider giving him a second chance.

Method 3 of 4: If you stay together

1. Tell him what to do to regain your trust.
   • You may find it necessary for him to quit Facebook or delete some of his female contacts from his phone.
   • Be careful about forbidding contact with someone completely, as this can actually lead them to want to do so.
   • You are fully justified in asking him for his phone password. If you think it's necessary, you can ask him to give you his Facebook password or to access his personal email, but this can make him feel trapped and lead him to cheat again.
2. Ask him what he needs from you. There may be something missing in your relationship that has caused him to distance himself.
3. Communicate. From this moment on it is clear that you cannot let tensions escalate. Trust is based on openness and honesty.

Method 4 of 4: What drives someone to cheat

Cheating can be avoided if you know what causes it. Avoid the following:

1. Give him space. Don't smother him. If you're clingy or possessive, he could start pushing you away. If he feels trapped by you, he can use cheating as a means of freeing himself.
2. Don't be afraid of intimacy. If he feels that something is missing in that area, then he can look for a way to provide it, and if you can't meet these needs, he can find someone else for it.
   • Dare to be adventurous and be open to the things he wants to do as long as his demands are reasonable.
   • Dull or repetitive sex can prompt the partner to find someone else to meet certain needs.
   • Really enjoying intimacy makes all the difference. If he doesn't think you're getting aroused, then he can try to save his ego by proving elsewhere that he's good in bed.
3. Be careful not to blame him for everything. Blaming guilt and criticizing him for every little thing will prompt him to seek acceptance elsewhere, not just physically, but emotionally as well.
4. Do not start a power struggle. Love is not a competition, so you don't have to try to win. Dismissing anything he says or condescending to him will prompt him to countermove.

Tips

• Openness, honesty and communication are the keys to a successful relationship.
• Be willing to hear his side of the story. His motives do not excuse his actions, but they can help explain them and help you come to terms with yourself.
• Trust your gut. If you can forgive him, stay with him and work together on your relationship, which will grow stronger as a result. But if deep down you still don't trust him, don't stay with him.
• Be willing to change for him. Cheating is often the result of underlying problems in a relationship.