Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Identifying jealous feelings
• Part 2 of 3: Tackling jealousy from within
• Part 3 of 3: Learning to trust and let go
• Tips
• Warnings

Does the guy you like spend a lot of time flirting with other girls? Has one of your friends started talking to other people and spending less time with you? Being jealous is pretty natural in those situations, but it will only break you up. Here's how to get your mind back to health and how to stop being jealous. Just take a deep breath and remember it's their life and not yours.

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Part 1 of 3: Identifying jealous feelings

1. Identify the situation that provokes your jealousy. You can be jealous if:
   • The guy or girl you like spends time with other people, which makes you feel neglected.
   • Your best friend seems to prefer to spend time with other people.
   • One of your parents starts to spend time with a new partner.
   • One of your children seems to prefer to be with the other parent than with you.
   • Someone else gets the recognition at work you deserve or gets credit for something you did in a school club.

Part 2 of 3: Tackling jealousy from within

1. Work on your confidence. Jealousy is usually a byproduct of insecurity and low ego. You may have a fear of being abandoned or rejected by someone close to your heart. Or you can get your whole identity out of just one thing (work or school), so that if that doesn't go well, you really start to question yourself.
   • The best way to build your confidence is to act the way a confident person would. Make decisions as if you have all the confidence in the world. Ultimately, your feelings will align with your actions.
   • When confident people are left behind or made fun of, it doesn't affect them. They know that people are sometimes shortsighted and they don't blame them.
   • You're good enough. Even if you messed up, see it as an opportunity to learn something new. That's what confident people can do best. Nothing can stop them.
2. Avoid comparing yourself to other people. Make friends with someone you think you have it all, and you will find that even this person is fighting their own battle.
   • Even famous and beautiful celebrities are fighting a painstaking battle that you cannot see. They can be turned down for movie roles they want or they can lose a big game or they can struggle with a drug or alcohol addiction. It's not because someone looks great on the outside, things are going great on the inside.
   • Rather than focusing on your shortcomings, think about the positive qualities, skills, and personality traits you can provide. It all goes back to having more confidence. You have so many good qualities and physical qualities that no one can take away from you.
3. Do the opposite of what a jealous person would do. If you feel jealousy is taking over, don't react in a destructive way by making accusations, ignoring someone completely, or dropping little sarcastic hints. Instead, try to act as a counselor would do in your place.
   • If a friend is going to spend time with someone else, recommend a good movie or restaurant, for example.
   • If the guy or girl you like is talking to someone else, join the conversation in a friendly manner.
   • If someone else gets the job you want, be friendly instead of being sneaky or trying to undermine the other person. Instead, congratulate the person and offer them your help on their way to success.
4. Recognize the paranoia that is part of your jealousy. Jealousy makes you react to a fantasy scenario created in your head. In actuality, the bad things you imagine may never happen. And when they do happen, you are strong enough to get through. You have other people in your life that you can count on, and you will become a better person because of this.
   • Your boyfriend or girlfriend may call an ex to express sympathy when something terrible happened, such as when his / her mother died. Don't go crazy about this. First of all, the person you love is therefore no longer directly in love with an ex. Second, your boyfriend or girlfriend is nice and considerate, which is one of the reasons you love him or her so much.
   • Your child can form a strong bond with other adults. You may think that your child loves someone else more, but that suspicion probably isn't true. It is the entire community that your child is raising and your child deserves love from as many people as possible.

Part 3 of 3: Learning to trust and let go

1. Have faith. This is easier said than done. If you get jealous easily, your trust has probably been broken in the past. You have to stop thinking about the past and put yourself in the present. Look at the person who is making you jealous. Has this person ever given you any reason to distrust him or her?
   • If the person has never disappointed you, then you should start from the good of this person, not the bad. A good friend will try to support your lack of confidence, but only for a period of time. You will likely transfer your own fears about someone to a great person. And trust is a risk. You have to learn to accept that you can also be wrong and have faith that something is right.
   • If someone is repeatedly hurting you, then it is clear that you should avoid this relationship. In this case, you really have a good reason to distrust this person. Get on with your life! You deserve better.
2. Listen to your feelings because they tell you something valuable. When you are jealous, your feelings are telling you that something is about to happen and you don't like it.
   • Your boyfriend or girlfriend may be more flirty with other people than you would actually like. Limits must be set so that both of you know what is appropriate and what is not in terms of communicating back and forth with other people. Ask your partner where he or she draws the line (flirt or kiss on the cheek or fleeting kiss on the lips or shoulder massage or dancing?), And see if your partners boundaries match your preferences. If not, talk about it until you agree. And once you've come to an agreement, trust your partner and don't let your jealousy get the better of you.
3. Have reasonable expectations about how much time someone can spend with you. If your child or partner does not have a a few spend time with you, then you have a valid reason to be concerned. But if someone spends a lot of their time with you and you feel like it's never enough, then you're too demanding.
   • Look at yourself. What makes you feel so miserable that you cannot be happy unless that other person is around you?
   • Develop and spend more time with other people, or find an activity that makes you happy. Sometimes you just need to take better care of yourself instead of focusing all your energy on someone else.
4. Develop an optimistic view of people. Jealousy is ultimately a fear-based behavior. You worry way too much about something bad that hasn't even happened yet and may never happen. You are unfortunately creating a situation where bad things can happen as a result of all your negative feelings. Ironic, isn't it? It will be a self-affirming prediction mentioned. If you believe in someone, believe in them completely. Good people deserve the benefit of the doubt.

Tips

• Remember that feeling that you are not good enough for someone can cause you to project your fears onto people you care about, which can cause jealousy. Instead, focus on what's good about you, and don't try to compare yourself to others.
• Believe you are good enough and unique enough. When you do, it can help you calm down and relax. When you feel really jealous and can't take it anymore, take a deep breath and think about something good. Try to go for a walk, meditate, or do something good for yourself.
• Change focus by working on a few personal projects.
• Find a positive way to deal with what comes your way. You may have to admit that the person who got the promotion at work actually outperformed you, but that doesn't mean you have nothing to offer. Learn from your mistakes and remember that everyone is at a different point in their life - focus on what you need to work on. The next promotion will be for you.
• Sometimes it can even help to tell that person. It can enable you to set useful boundaries and work through them together.
• If you don't have anyone you can trust, try writing in a journal or notebook.

Warnings

• Never let your feelings of jealousy lead you to abuse anyone, verbally or physically. If you can't control your anger, then you need to seek help.
• You can ask friends you trust or someone who knows how to keep your anger away.