Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 4: Managing your online presence
• Part 2 of 4: Dealing with it at school
• Part 3 of 4: Dealing with situations at work
• Part 4 of 4: Dealing with more serious matters
• Tips
• Warnings

A conflict has occurred between you and another person and now you or that person should or want to avoid it. The reasons for your dislike can range from minor annoyances to life-threatening circumstances. When you have to deal with a conflict, being close to the person you dislike, you can prevent the situation from worsening and avert future disputes by avoiding that person. Dealing with this in your online world, at school, at work, and in your family requires practical strategies that can be learned, provided you don't ignore the call to action.

To step

Part 1 of 4: Managing your online presence

1. Delete your profile from social media channels, stop following and unfriend. Any form of social media allows you to remove a person from your contacts, fans and friends list. Not only will this disconnect you from the person, but it will also prevent the person from viewing your messages.
   • Check that your security filters are in line with your intention to avoid the person.
   • You may need to stop using social media and close your accounts. You may not like this, but sometimes there is no other way.
2. Block emails. To prevent receiving messages from the person in your inbox, you can delete them from your address book. Setting up spam filters will allow you to check if the person is trying to send you unwanted emails. You can always click the delete button or save the email to a folder if you want to gather evidence of something more serious, such as stalking, cyberbullying or harassment.
   • There are times when you need to check someone's course so that it can be used in a potential lawsuit. Documented evidence can make a case stronger.
3. Do not call or text the person. It may or may not be difficult not to call or text the person. You may want to pass on something negative to him or her or you may be struggling with the urge to repair the relationship. Either way, both calling and texting lead to extra and unwanted communication that can worsen the situation.
4. Do not respond to calls, texts or emails. Find the strength to ignore the person's communication. This can be easy. However, he or she may be trying to trick you into communicating with them just to do more harm. Silence ensures a clean slate of communication and is an absolute way to prevent unwanted contact.

Part 2 of 4: Dealing with it at school

1. Drop a class or switch to another class. If you are unable to stay calm or you really need to get away from the person, take action. Penalties may exist for dropping a course, if you have already passed any applicable time limit. If the circumstances are severe enough, drop the box.
   • Explaining your situation may induce school management to accept it.
2. Talk to the teacher or mentor. These conversations should be private, so call, email, or ask your teacher for an interview. You may have to make an appointment first. You may also want to talk to the mentor. If you are younger than 18, a parent must be present.
   • You can say something like, "It is getting harder and harder to be in the same class with ___ and I would like to be transferred to another class. Or he should move to another class. What can be done about this and how soon?"
   • Instructors and administrators can attempt to resolve the issue without removing you or the other person from the class. Stay calm, but stand up for yourself and make sure your needs are met.
   • Be prepared to tell them exactly why you are making this request.
3. Take a different route. Most campuses are large and have many paths leading to various destinations on campus. Find the path of least resistance. If you are familiar with this person's walking patterns, take a different route. Yes, it takes a bit more time, but you want to avoid the person.
   • If you happen to see the person from a distance, just turn around and walk the other way.
4. Avoid direct eye contact. You may unexpectedly bump into the person. You can avoid unnecessary contact by averting your eyes and moving elsewhere as soon as possible. Be prepared for the unexpected.
5. Ask friends to help you. Life gets a lot easier when friends are looking after you. A friend can be a barrier or provide the distraction you need to get out of the way unnoticed. Make sure you can trust someone who is willing to help you.
   • Start a conversation with someone at a party. Approach a person and say, "I'm going to talk to you now because I'm trying to avoid someone. Is that okay?" Not only will this help avoid the person, but you may actually start a nice conversation with someone.
6. Be ready to use a simple "way out" of a situation. There will be times when you pretend to be on the phone or lose your glasses or keys. This tactic can be used on the spot to avoid even the most annoying of people.
   • If someone walks up to you that you don't want to talk to, take out your phone and pretend you're having an important conversation. You can then turn your back on the other person and walk away.
   • If you're talking to someone and you just want to end the conversation, pretend something scares you and make an excuse to leave, like, "Oh, damn, I forgot my keys. Sorry, I have to go now . " You have made up your own "exit" to remove yourself from interacting with someone you want to avoid.
7. Appreciate positive qualities and learning experiences. There are those who believe that people, even bad ones, come into our lives to teach us something. Each experience makes us smarter and more in tune with what we want to get out of life.
   • Sit down and list the things you have learned from your experience.
   • Also write about all the positive things that have happened. Sometimes a bad situation can lead to something positive.

Part 3 of 4: Dealing with situations at work

1. Change jobs. Whether or not you have the luxury of being able to switch jobs, it may be the best way to avoid someone at work. Circumstances can range from a minor misunderstanding to something serious like an allegation of sexual harassment. You may want to keep your job because you enjoy doing the work, so you may need to look for other options.
   • Report any serious allegations to the human resources department, which is there to resolve disputes between employees.
2. Ask to be transferred to another department, location, or supervisor. The office or factory space may be limited, but if you need to create a distance between yourself and another person, then you should ask. Don't ask yourself to listen to someone or be around someone you hate. Otherwise, you will certainly feel less inclined to work and probably get more stress.
   • You will be asked to substantiate your request for a change, so be prepared. Write down your concerns in advance and bring supporting documentation with you to the meeting.
   • You will not be the first or the last person to ask for a different workplace. This is common in any office.
3. Focus on productivity. Concentrating on your job and the things you need to do to be productive will help you avoid a person at work. You have the right to a conflict-free work environment in which you can feel safe. Isolation can prevent interactions with others who may misinterpret your words or behavior.
   • Take breaks to tidy up your desk drawer, get some exercise, or read a magazine.
   • Enjoy your own company. Use the time to meditate, practice yoga, or write poetry. This can help you control the stress you may be experiencing.
4. Work around the other person's schedule. Many employers hire employees to work shifts that vary in length and the number of days worked per week. If you are in this situation, you can request another service. If you work in a standard work environment from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, it is difficult to stick to other times. However, you can factor in someone's coffee breaks, toilet visits, and lunch breaks.
5. Do not accept invitations. Be discreet, but decline invitations in front of the other person. Depending on the seriousness of the situation, it is better not to end up in an uncomfortable or harmful situation yourself.
   • Organize your own meetings if you want to spend time with colleagues.
6. Never worry about getting out of a certain situation. It is terrible to feel trapped in a certain social context. You may feel pressure when your boss is around, or you fear what your colleagues will think or say about you. Give yourself the freedom to say, “Hey guys, I'm running again. It is still a long drive home. ” Or give another reason.
   • You may say you want to go to the bathroom and then just leave without telling anyone. This is also acceptable. The goal is to get away from the person you are trying to avoid and remove yourself from the situation.
   • If you leave without telling anyone, text someone you trust and was there to tell you that you left. You don't want anyone to worry about you, especially if you've had a conflict situation with someone.
7. In case of an unexpected meeting, be polite. Chances are that you have to communicate with the person about work-related matters. Use the following rule of thumb: stay calm, polite, and focus on the task ahead to avoid conflict. Don't respond to the other's attempts to provoke you.
   • Keep your cool until the contact is over. Congratulate yourself for doing well.
   • Stay positive. Keep things "light and light," which means, don't talk about deep thoughts, discussions, problems, or complaints when you interact with that person. Be an image of calm and optimism that cannot be broken by the negativity or discomfort of the situation.
   • No one can take power away from you if you stay positive. By responding to an irritating comment, you transfer power to the other person. You control and are responsible for your own feelings and actions. It is an important task.
8. Broaden your perspective. It's important to keep things in perspective. Once you see that there is life after an argument with someone, you can let go of your anger and enjoy feelings of relief. You can let it go and adjust your priorities.
   • If you are trying to let go of something, but the situation continues to weigh on you, you will likely have to process other feelings as well.

Part 4 of 4: Dealing with more serious matters

1. Set your limits. Whether you have a conflict with your mother-in-law, or your cousin has a drug addiction or you have an uncle who treats your child improperly, you will need to make your intentions and expectations as clear as possible. Your decision to avoid this person is likely prompted by ongoing problematic contact.
   • If you live with the person, you could say, "I want you to know that I am going to distance myself as much as possible from this conflict that we have. I think that a healthy distance between us is the right thing to do. we agree not to get in each other's way? "
   • If the other person lives at a different address, it is much easier to control conflict. You can disconnect by not calling, texting or emailing. Avoid any contact.
2. Do not go to family gatherings. Many families experience increased stress levels and more conflict at family gatherings. If you want to avoid a person who is undoubtedly going to be a real problem for you, apologize and don't go there.
   • Schedule and hold separate meetings. However, avoid overlapping matters to avoid your loved ones having to choose between the two of you. This will only add to the current friction between you and the other person.
3. Only make contact under supervision. You may have a family member who you don't trust for some reason. You may not want to be alone with this person. Whatever the reason, always bring a witness if you are forced to communicate with this person. Safety is always of the utmost importance.
4. Seek professional help for controlling your emotions and thoughts. If you are experiencing the anxiety associated with dealing with this person, you may benefit from talking to a counselor. Search for a psychologist or psychiatrist in your area via the website of the Netherlands Institute of Psychologists (NIP) and the Dutch Psychiatric Association.
5. Seek legal advice, if necessary. If the situation escalates, you may need the help of a lawyer. Conflicts vary in severity and there are times when it is best for you to avoid contact with a particular person. The nature of lawsuits is such that one side is pitted against the other. Anything you do or say can be used against you. Your attorney will guide you through this process.
6. If necessary, ask for a restraining order. The person you are trying to avoid may have serious problems. If you feel that you may be in danger, request a restraining order for that person to limit contact. If he / she violates the ban, you can call the police, who can then intervene.

Tips

• You can always make up an excuse to remove yourself from a situation.
• Don't let the situation take over all of your thoughts. You have other things that are more productive to think about and do.
• Get on with your life. Whatever the reason for avoiding the person, you will have to pick yourself up and leave the conflict behind.
• You may be surprised by face-to-face situations. You can then say something like, "hello" and move on, or say nothing at all. Be prepared for both options.
• Staying calm in all situations will promote a positive outcome.
• If you or someone you know is being bullied, contact the appropriate authority to raise your concern.
• Make safety your number one priority. Never put yourself or someone you care about in the way of someone to be avoided at all costs.

Warnings

• If you have been given a restraining order, there will be legal consequences if you violate the ban. The law is meant to protect you and others. It is best to respect the authority of the action directed against you and vice versa.
• Let the seriousness of the conflict be the driving force behind your answer. If you are in a legally contentious situation where communication is prohibited, you should exercise the utmost self-control by not saying anything to the person.
• Laws to prevent stalking vary by country. If you are being stalked, you should report your concerns to a person in authority, such as a parent, teacher, pastor, police, or attorney.