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• Method 1 of 3: Helping a friend through an off day
• Method 2 of 3: Support someone during a divorce
• Method 3 of 3: Comfort someone who is in mourning

It can be difficult to cheer up a loved one if you can't see them in person. Distance or circumstances can sometimes prevent you from being able to support someone personally. Then it can be good to send an uplifting text message. Whether they just had an off day, are in a divorce, or just lost someone, try to make your loved one feel better.

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Method 1 of 3: Helping a friend through an off day

1. Be a good listener. Although you are separated by phone screens, there are ways to show that you are actively listening and open to your friend's problems. While your friend tells his / her story, you can send back short messages that let him / her know that you are paying him / her attention, such as "That's awful", or "Sorry for you".
   • Make sure your words are sincere. Let the other person lead the conversation. Don't rush to offer help or propose solutions. Just be there for your friend.
2. Make him / her laugh. If a loved one is having an off day, you can cheer them up with some cheer. Even if you're not together, you can still send him / her something funny. Take a crazy photo of yourself and add it to your post. Or send a link to a hilarious YouTube video.
   • Before making jokes, think about your relationship with the other person and how he / she has reacted in the past. Some people are more open to humor than others.
3. Challenge him / her to a conversation with only emojis. It is often said that with someone you know well, you don't need words to explain anything. Show your friend or partner how well you know him / her by sending messages with only emojis. If you don't use words at all, it can get really funny!
   • Tell them to answer only with emojis. You can start the conversation with just a smiley face, or with a picture of two friends. Then let your imagination run wild.
4. Send an encouraging message. Sometimes it can be difficult to find the right words when someone is feeling down. In that case, an inspiring statement can improve someone's mood. Send something related to how your friend is feeling.
   • For example, if your friend messed up an application, you could quote a quote from Victor Kiam: "Even if you fall on your face, you still move forward."
   • On this website you will find many inspiring quotes that you can send to friends.
5. Make an appointment to see each other. If you can visit your loved one, send a short text message to make an appointment. If your friend is feeling alone, the prospect of seeing you soon may be enough to give him / her a boost.
   • For example, you can text, "Hey, I know you had an off day. How about pizza tonight?"
6. End with something sweet. Instead of just saying "bye" when you close, think of something sweet. Try "I hope your dreams will be better than your day" or "Have fun tonight. I can't wait to see you again soon" or something like that so he / she might smile a little bit again.

Method 2 of 3: Support someone during a divorce

1. Remind the other person how great he / she is. One way to spice up your boyfriend after a divorce is to compliment him / her. Do this by saying three things about your friend that you love about them. Put it in a text message, write it down and photograph it or make a video in which you say this and add it to your message.
   • For example, you can text "" You're a great friend. I love your humor, you are always there for me when I need you and you make the best milkshakes in the Netherlands. I hope you feel better soon! "
2. Challenge him / her to look their best. Divorce can be terrible. As a result, many people live in their jogging suits, eat a lot of junk food and lock themselves up in their homes. Help your friend get out of this valley by challenging him / her to dress nicely.
   • You can say, "And now that jogging suit is done! Go to your wardrobe and put on your favorite outfit. Put on your hair and make up. Then send me a picture so I can see the result."
   • It's even better if you say you're going to dress up too so you can have lunch or go to the movies later. It may be good for him / her to get out of the house.
3. Find GIF animations related to his / her situation. A GIF is a moving picture. You can express your feelings very well with it in a text message. If a close friend, sibling, or other family member isn't feeling well after a divorce, find a fun GIF to cheer them up. Find a GIF of your favorite movie or series that has to do with a divorce.You can probably get him / her to laugh with that.
   • A great search engine for GIFs is GIPHY. You can find this app in your phone's app store, download it and then link the GIFs directly to your text messages.
4. Make him / her laugh with a funny ecard. There are all kinds of websites where you can find cards that you can send with your text message. Search these websites for a funny card about divorces. For example, at Someecards.com you will find e-cards that deal with divorces.
   • For example, there is a funny card that says, "Better to lose someone than being tied to an idiot for the rest of your life." With such a card you can let your friend know that he / she is probably better off without his / her ex.

Method 3 of 3: Comfort someone who is in mourning

1. Acknowledge his / her grief. When a friend has lost someone, it can be difficult to find the right words to comfort them. People often want to cheer up the other person too quickly, instead of first acknowledging that he / she is in pain. The best thing to do is to simply say that you see that the other person is sad.
   • Send a text message saying, "I know you and Fred were very good friends. You must be very sad. My condolences".
2. Be there for him / her. It can be painful to watch a loved one grieve. Another great way to respond when a friend is sad is to let them know that you are there for them. It can be uncomfortable, but make sure he / she knows that he / she can count on you if he / she needs your company.
   • For example, you can say, "I can't take your pain away, but I can sit next to you and hold your hand. I'm here for you."
3. Offer your help. A person who is grieving can lose himself / herself in his / her pain so much that he / she can no longer take care of everyday things properly. See what your friend needs, and try to offer your time or services. This could be by helping with chores, running errands, or making phone calls.
   • Send a text message asking, "How can I help you when you are having such a hard time? Tell me what I can do for you".
4. Send a link to an uplifting spell or song. People often say empty, meaningless clichés to others who have lost someone. That sometimes only makes things worse. Don't say things like, "He / she is in a nicer place now." Consider your friend's spiritual or religious beliefs.
   • Look for a suitable spell or song that can provide comfort.
5. Know when to get more help. If your friend's grief or grief doesn't seem to ease after a few weeks, take a good look at his / her behavior. Some people have a hard time getting over the loss of a loved one. Maybe your friend can no longer pick up his / her normal life and he / she will withdraw from other loved ones. Some people also stop eating, sleeping, or grooming themselves.
   • If your friend seems to be unable to get over his / her grief, he / she may need to seek professional help.
   • For example, you could say, "I'm worried about you. You are not eating properly and you are not doing your housework anymore. I think it would be good if you talked to someone."