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• Method 1 of 3: Choose your words wisely
• Method 2 of 3: Build a good relationship
• Method 3 of 3: Appear confident

We all have times when we need something from someone else.Whether you want your best friend to give you one of their valuable assets or you need to convince an investor to put large sums of money into a project, it will help if you can be convincing. It's important to plan how you ask and to appear confident and organized. You also need to strengthen your relationship with the person you want something from. Once you build a relationship of trust, you have a better chance of getting what you want from that person.

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Method 1 of 3: Choose your words wisely

1. Wait for a good time. When you're working with other people, timing is important. If the person is in a bad mood, they will likely be dismissive and reluctant. You want to find him or her in a good mood and willing to listen to you.
   • It also helps to ask someone if they are tired. The person is less able to evaluate your request and is more likely to agree with you.
   • For example, if you want to talk to your boss about a promotion, choose your time carefully. Do not attack him or her with it as soon as it arrives on Monday morning.
2. Provide some background information. Telling someone what you need and why can help them understand your request. This shows that you have thought about what you are asking and that you think it is important enough to explain.
   • For example, you could say to your sister, "I really spent too much money last weekend. I'm working on better budgeting. Can you lend me some money for gas for now? Then I want to do some shopping for you in return. "
3. Ask politely. Being too demanding will lead to hesitation. People don't want to feel like they are being forced to do something. Show that you are polite and respectful by using words please and thank you.
   • For example, you could ask something like, "Please can I have your extra ticket to the concert tonight?" I love this band and would love to go there together. "
4. Be specific. If your request is vague, the person will be less likely to grant it. A vague request makes it difficult for someone to figure out exactly what is being asked. Even if someone does, you have to say exactly what you want.
   • For example, you could ask your boss something like "When will I get promoted to team leader?" Instead of "Do you think I'll ever get some sort of promotion again?"
5. Have patience. There are two reasons for remaining patient with someone. First, that person can eventually give you what you want. Second, even if you don't get it, you may still be able to get something else from the person later on.
   • Maybe your neighbor declines your request to build a fence on your shared property boundary. Instead of getting angry, give the other person some time to think about it.

Method 2 of 3: Build a good relationship

1. Be trustworthy. It's important that the other person thinks you are trustworthy. If you don't come across like that, someone may be reluctant to give you something. Be candid about your intentions and try to earn the other person's trust.
   • Your mom might be hesitant to lend you her car. Make it clear that you are responsible enough by adhering to set rules, getting good grades and doing your tasks.
2. Meet the other person's conditions. People often want to know what is gaining them. If they think you can meet their needs, they are more likely to give you what you want. Provide transportation, teach them a new skill, or be there for the person when they need someone to talk to. The more you promote the relationship, the more likely someone will give you what you want.
   • If you want to borrow your roommate's favorite sweater, offer to clean the bathroom when it's her turn.
3. Focus on profit for the other. The way you phrase things is sometimes more important than what you ask. In your question, focus on what benefits the other. For the other person, this may outweigh what he or she has to give up.
   • For example, you could say, "You know, Dad, if you help me buy a car, I can do some shopping for you on the weekend."
4. Get to know the person better. The closer you bond with this person, the more likely they are to want to give you something. If you don't know this person very well yet, spend some time building a relationship. This will help you understand how to communicate with them and earn their trust.
   • For example, if you want something from a colleague, try to establish a connection with them. If you notice that he / she has a picture of a cat on the desk, start a conversation about your own cat (if you have one, of course).
5. Spend time together. You may already know the person quite well, but you don't feel very connected to them. Do your best to spend some time together. This allows the other person to feel valued and realize that someone cares about him or her.
   • Ask your friend for dinner. Be genuinely interested in the other person.
   • Listen carefully. Pay attention to what the other person is saying and ask follow-up questions to indicate your interest.

Method 3 of 3: Appear confident

1. Relax. If you are overly stressed, you will not appear confident. You have to act calmly and in a controlled manner so that someone else can trust you and give you something you ask for. Take a few deep breaths and relax before discussing your wishes.
   • You can also give yourself a pep talk. Tell yourself, "I deserve to get a raise. I will be confident and respectful when I make my request. "
2. Be prepared. Take the time to organize your thoughts. You can take notes if necessary. For example, if you want to borrow several things from a friend, write them down so you don't forget them.
   • Your notes may also include why you are making the request and how both you and the other person can gain from it.
3. Speak clear. Avoid using filler words like "uhm" or "good". They don't help at all. Such words make your application less concise and you less confident. You have to say what you want as clearly as possible.
   • Instead of saying something like, "Well, um, I would really like if you gave me that poster?" You could also phrase it as, "Can I have that poster?"