Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 5: Dress to impress
• Part 2 of 5: Breaking the ice
• Part 3 of 5: Having conversations
• Part 4 of 5: Asking for a date
• Part 5 of 5: Scoring a date in a different context
• Tips
• Warnings
• Necessities

Depending on how you feel about it, scoring a date can be incredibly difficult or a piece of cake. The most important thing is to be yourself and to have self-confidence. To attract that special woman you have to believe in your ability to look good, be interesting, and have a conversation. If you master these simple things, and combine them with other tactics found in this guide, you will be well on your way to melting that one woman's heart.

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Part 1 of 5: Dress to impress

1. Brush your teeth and shower regularly. Your personal hygiene shows to others how well you take care of yourself and how much attention you pay to yourself. A woman can see how well you take care of yourself, and will imagine how that would reflect on how you care for yourself her will take care.
   • Women have an extremely keen sense of smell, which is much better than that of men. They are very sensitive to the aroma of the man, and can smell even the mildest of sweat from a meter away! That's why it's so important to wash sweat, dirt, and other unpleasant smells from your body. Once you start talking to her, you want her to like your scent, not try to avoid it.
   • You should also keep a close eye on the smell of your breath. You will often talk to get to know each other, and the smell of your breath is therefore the body odor that speaks the most. Brush and floss your teeth regularly. Gargle with mouthwash to create a nice, fresh breath that lasts the entire conversation.
   • Be careful when you put on a fragrance. Here, "less is more" applies. An odor that is too strong is just as unpleasant as your natural body odors.
2. Comb your hair and trim your facial hair. Surprisingly, male facial hair is closely related to female preference in partner choice.
   • Most young women are attracted to light stubble rather than full grown beards. If you have a significant beard, consider finding the perfect balance between bearded and clean-shaven.
   • A clean shave is the safest option if you are unsure of the length of your facial hair. While most women prefer light stubble, clean-shaven faces also rank high on the preference list. In fact, when the woman's ovulation cycle is drawing to a close, she prefers a clean-shaven face to light stubble.
   • Beards score the lowest, but that doesn't mean women can't find them attractive. Like the hair on your head, that on your face should be well groomed and trimmed. Hair that grows in all directions and has tangles appears untidy. Try to avoid appearing as if you just got out of bed - this indicates how much attention you are paying to yourself.
3. Trim your nails and moisturize your hands. You could shake hands, or even dance together late into the night. Either way, make sure your hands look good and feel soft.
   • Make sure your nails are not too long. Women can regard long nails as decorative, or even feminine; or they consider long nails as evidence of a lack of hygiene.
   • Use a file to get the dirt out from under your nails. Dirty nails can be quite repulsive. For some women, long, dirty nails are an absolute turnoff.
   • Choose hand cream instead of lotion. Lotion, while an excellent hydrating agent, can be greasy to the touch.
4. Wear a long-sleeved shirt. How you dress reflects the degree to which you respect yourself and the degree to which you respect the woman.
   • Chances are that you will approach the woman in a place where an implicit or explicit dress code applies (a bar, restaurant, etc.). If you're wearing a worn-out T-shirt and ripped pants, it won't just show a lack of outward seriousness. It also shows that you show no respect for the standards of women.
   • A stripe pattern is the safest alternative, but you may fall off a bit with this. If you really want to stand out, opt for a more subtle pattern like a small diamond. A plain shirt is of course also good.
   • Avoid neutral colors such as beige, brown, black, white, and gray. These colors work well in a business setting because they don't attract that much attention. Your goal, however, is to get the woman's attention without distracting her. Instead of bright pink or brand red, you can choose burgundy, forest green, or cobalt blue.
   • Avoid shirts with large logos. These are most likely too casual for the setting where you want to score a date.
   • If your shirt is short, you probably don't need to tuck it into your pants. If you decide to wear a jacket or sweater over your shirt, you might want to. This way you create a neat, semi-formal look.
5. Wear clean, ironed, dark jeans. Dark jeans are almost always good. They come across as semi-formal without being too casual.
   • Navy is the ideal choice when it comes to jeans. They can appear formal enough under a nice shirt, but not too formal like suit trousers, for example.
   • Make sure your dark jeans have no rips, holes, or fraying. To make your pants appear semi-formal, they must be in top condition. This means you have to iron your pants and hang them up to prevent them from creasing or crumpling.
   • Your jeans should fit right. Pants that are too wide, no matter how dark they are, seem too casual. After all, they are too wide and do not fit properly.
   • Do not wear khaki pants. Most people think kakis are the golden mean between casual jeans and smart trousers. However, many fashion experts disagree. Khakis give the impression of "casual work trousers", and are therefore not as suitable as nice, dark jeans.
6. Wear a nice pair of sneakers or boots. Don't wear shoes that you would wear to the office, you don't want to look too formal.
   • Experts state that almost all footwear is suitable with dark jeans, provided they are in good condition. Polish your shoes to remove scuffs, remove dirt and dust from the shoes, and use fresh laces.
   • If you choose sneakers, choose sneakers that you could possibly wear to the office. Think of sneakers with no more than two colors, and without logos or text. Like dark jeans, such sneakers go well with shirts and other semi-formal garments.
   • You can even wear a cool cowboy boot. Just don't overdo it.
   • While boots are generally a good addition to the semi-formal look, they can easily cost over $ 100. Business casual sneakers, on the other hand, can also be quite pricey. But the cheaper variants of sneakers, between fifty and one hundred euros, can also look great.

Part 2 of 5: Breaking the ice

1. Introduce yourself and have a reason to approach her. The direct approach often works best because it is conservative and straightforward.
   • Use your introduction to give a subtle compliment. For example, say, "Hey, I'm John. Sorry to bother you, but I just had to tell you how beautiful your earrings are."
   • Avoid rude compliments like, "You look great in that dress," or "I can't believe how gorgeous you are." While these can flatter her, they often come across as too aggressive, especially in the early stages of the conversation. Wait until you've gotten a feel for each other before giving this kind of low-subtle compliments.
   • Don't just imagine yourself assuming the woman will talk to you right away. Compliment her or give her a reason why you approached her. Give her a reason to be interested in a conversation. This increases the likelihood that you will learn more than just hair.
   • While the direct approach is the safest, it is also the most mundane. If your goal is to get her attention a little more daring, humor is often a great way to break the ice.
2. Tell a good joke right away, instead of introducing yourself to her. There is no equal merit in a good joke, as it will most likely remember you all night long.
   • Walk up to her and stand next to her as if it were the most normal thing in the world. Turn around, point to her shoes, and say, "What beautiful shoes. I have the same pair at home."
   • If you're serious, try to avoid hackneyed opening sentences. If your goal is to be deliberately hackneyed, mocking the way most men try to hit on women - then bad opening lines are okay. Just make sure she understands you're doing that in a satirical, funny way.
   • For example, you could say, "Hey, now I should look at the card in your dress, and then you ask me what I'm doing. Then I'll tell you to check if you're really made in heaven. That all seems rather cumbersome to me, can I offer you something to drink instead? "
   • It's okay to be a little silly, as long as you don't seem immature. Women generally like boyish charm, but not if you act like an immature boy all the time.
   • Be careful, because you can also throw a spanner in the works with this approach. Women lose interest after bad jokes, and that decreases the chance that you will be able to start a conversation with her.
3. Combine the introduction with humor. The first impression is everything. Introducing yourself in a funny, unique way is guaranteed to leave a lasting impression. .
   • Seriously ask her, "Hey, do you know how much a penguin weighs?" If she looks at you a little confused, say, "Enough to break the ice. Hey, I'm John (reaching out your hand)."
   • Point to any group of guys and say, "Hey, I lost a bet with those guys over there, and now I have to have a chat with the hottest girl in the bar. I'm John." (Put the exaggerated, sarcastic emphasis on "must" as if it were a real chore. This will provide your comment with funny irony, and will make her laugh.
   • Or you can put a funny twist on offering a drink. Instead of asking the waiter for an alcoholic drink, ask him to bring her a glass of water. Ask him to add that it was "paid by that gallant man at the bar". When she's looking at you, raise your own glass of water. Look a little cocky, as if you offered her an expensive drink. After a few minutes, walk up to her and introduce yourself.
4. Tell her, "I think you like magic," and do a simple magic trick. Fascination and mystique is a great way to get a girl interested in you. It also shows that you have talent.
   • If you're nimble, you can conjure up a little flower from scratch. Offer her the flower.
   • Avoid magic tricks that require too many steps or require her help. The goal is to "enchant" her with a simple yet enigmatic illusion. If, before introducing yourself, you ask her to "pick a card," then the conversation will be over before it even begins.

Part 3 of 5: Having conversations

1. Continue with some simple questions. People usually like to gradually start talking to new people. So be patient and start with basic questions about her hobbies and interests.
   • After complimenting her shoes or earrings, ask, "Where do you buy clothes? You really have a sense of style."
   • Observe her attentively, but as inconspicuously as possible. Pay attention to little things about how she behaves or dresses. This can greatly affect the type of questions you ask. If you see that she has an Ajax key ring, you can say, "I love football. I assume that you are for Ajax?"
   • Whatever you ask, try to get her to talk about herself. Most people love to be in the spotlight. The conversation will start more easily if people can talk about themselves.
   • Ask open questions. Give her the space to go deeper into the matter. This ensures that there will be as few uncomfortable silences as possible. For example, instead of, "Do you like rock music?" Ask, "What is your favorite band? Why?"
2. Maintain eye contact and mention her name regularly. These are acts that show respect and attraction, and can even be reciprocated by it.
   • Don't stare, but don't look away either. Even if you are nervous, looking at the floor or past her gives the impression that you are uninterested or lacking in self-confidence. Ultimately, self-confidence is an important issue for most women; it shows strong character, security, and safety.
   • Our name is an important part of our identity. Hearing our name confirms us as human beings. As a result, she will probably like you more if you repeat her name every now and then.
3. Smile, nod, and repeat words. These are reassuring acts, and show that you are actively listening to her.
   • Nodding is a behavior many people try to mirror and can influence whether someone agrees with you. When you talk, nod. Try to get her to do the same. This will increase the likelihood that she will agree with what you say.
   • Paraphrase what she said, don't repeat it word for word. Paraphrasing shows that you are actively listening to her. Repeating word-for-word is akin to "parrots," and could be taken as insulting or condescending.
   • Smiling is a small but very important act. Smiling is often contagious and can evoke happy feelings. Try to smile every now and then during the conversation.
4. Name something small, such as the color of her eyes or the way she straightens her hair. If you emphasize things that most women think don't stand out, you can take her off guard. She will realize how much attention you pay to her.
   • Be subtle, but choose things she might appreciate. For example, say, "Hey, I can see there is a little green in your eyes. Very cool!"
   • Or you can say, "I like the way your nose puckers up when you smile. That's cute."
   • These are not so much compliments as sharp observations. Don't emphasize obvious things like "your hair is red" or "you smile a lot". Make your observations unique so that you can show her that you are not just making general or artificial comments.
   • If you can, emphasize something you have in common. For example, say, "Look at this! We're both left-handed." This not only highlights something about her that admires you, but also establishes the possibility that you have something in common.
5. Ask her what's on her mind. This is a similar question to what she does for her job, but takes into account things that are not work-related.
   • Instead of asking her "What do you do for your job?" or "Where did you study?", a broader question like the one above could include both questions, and much more. Thus, she will not feel uncomfortable or offended if she is out of work or has not studied.
   • Answer her comments with reassurance. For example, if she tells you she likes knitting, say something like. "Ooh, I like knitted scarves. I like them a lot better than the scarves that hang in the store.
   • You don't have to lie if you do. For example, if she tells you that she dropped out of college to pursue her career, you could say it was a bold, courageous choice. That comment may be true, even if you don't entirely agree.
6. Watch for signs of attraction or openness. Most women display certain, subtle behaviors that can tell you whether the conversation is going well or not.
   • Notice if she "puts herself in the fold". This is when she tries to restore her bodily appearance, and usually indicates attraction. Behavior like this includes brushing through her hair, or adjusting her clothing / jewelry, for example.
   • See if she imitates your body language. If you cross your arms, see if she does too. Mirroring indicates that she is comfortable with you, and that she feels a click.
   • "Open" body language indicates both interest and attraction. If a woman has her chest, face, and feet facing you, chances are she's comfortable with you.
   • You may notice these signs immediately, or not at all. Don't get discouraged. It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like you. It could also mean that you have to talk a little deeper before she loosens up.
7. As soon as you feel more comfortable with each other, ask her more personal questions. "Feeling at ease" is very subjective, and for this you have to rely on your intuition.
   • Watching for signs of openness and attraction can help you, but ultimately you decide when to start asking more personal questions.
   • Pay attention to four things: family, career, fun, dreams. For example, you can say, "Wow, you are really funny. I wonder what the rest of your family is like." Or say something like, "So you like to knit? That's really cool. Have you ever considered selling your self-knitted scarves?"
   • Avoid topics that may involve conflicting opinions or feelings. Consider, for example, politics, the economy, or religion. While it's not a taboo to bring up at the first meeting, you'll generally want to save these deeper topics for when you actually go on a date.
8. Sprinkle some knowledge on the conversation. You don't have to provide encyclopedic descriptions of things, but little tidbits can show her that you are intelligent. This can make her curious about you as a person.
   • For example, "You know, the Russians would be offended by the way you drink vodka. In Russia they don't drink it soda, and they cherish the pure taste."
   • Or, "Your red hair is a truly unique feature. Did you know that that beautiful hair color will probably not be there in 100 years?"
   • The more obscure the information, the more you will pique her curiosity. Try to avoid information that doesn't fit the context. Rather, state facts about things related to the setting you are in. Reciting random facts can come across as pretentious, and may portray you as a "know-it-all."
9. Compliment her personality when you've gotten to know each other a little better. Now that you have emphasized her idiosyncratic physical characteristics, it is time to show that you appreciate her inner qualities.
   • Say, "I like that you aren't afraid to be yourself. That's a trait not many people have these days."
   • Or, "You really like to laugh. I like women with a good sense of humor."
   • Try to avoid overly general compliments. "You're so interesting," sounds contrived, and can offend a woman if she feels you're not being sincere.
   • Avoid sexual compliments as well. Some women are very happy with this. Things like "You look really sexy with your hair like this," or "Your figure really comes out in that dress," can be provocative. So it is better to ignore them at the first meeting.
10. Don't be afraid to tease each other back and forth. Sometimes the conversation can end up in the realm of flirtage. When this happens, use subtle humor to direct the conversation.
    • For example, she might compliment you and say something like, "Well, you sure are charming. I've never laughed so much with new people." To that you can say something like, "Just think how much you'll laugh when I get old!"
    • Or, "Wow, it's already 9.30. I better ask you on a date before this place closes."
11. Hint that you are interested in dating her. Don't be too direct, and make sure you create a smooth transition before actually asking the question.
    • Example: "It was great fun talking to you for the past half hour. I would like to get to know you better."
    • Even bolder: "I could, really, spend hours listening to you laughing at my awful jokes. You're probably the nicest person in this whole restaurant."

Part 4 of 5: Asking for a date

1. Question, "Hey, do you know a nice Italian restaurant around here?“An indirect approach takes some of the pressure off the 'date questions', which makes it easier for the question to flow out of the conversation.
   • This technique also gives a woman the feeling that dating was partly her own idea. If she responds with, "Mario's pasta is great! You'd love it," take the opportunity to make it a concerted effort. Respond with, "That's a great suggestion. Since you like it there so much, shall we get together sometime?"
   • Or, if you feel like you are already fairly attracted to each other, you can be a little more suggestive. For example, you could say, "Yes, Marios sounds good. We should definitely go there sometime. When is it suitable for you?"
2. Ask her about her weekend plans. If she tells you that, you can offer to give her a treat in the near future.
   • For example, if she says she's going to bowl, say, "That sounds fun. I like bowling too. Maybe I can order a court sometime, and we'll go together?"
   • If she says she doesn't have any plans yet, she may be hinting at the fact that she's open to a date. Say something like, "That's funny, neither am I. Would you like to go to the movies with me on Friday night?"
3. Phrase the suggestion in such a way that it appears to be in her favor. This is different from bribing her or offering to pay for a free meal. It puts the question in a different light, namely that of "Why not?" If you do it right, she has no reason to say no.
   • Say, "You know, the weather should be really nice on Saturday night. If I'm not mistaken, there is a fireworks display in the park at 7am. I don't see any reason why we shouldn't go."
   • Or, "That one coffee shop on Vijzelstraat has the best espresso in town. I'm sure you'd love it. I should treat you to it some time."
4. Emphasize how much you have in common and say that dating is a logical next step. If a woman sees how well the two of you are together, she is more likely to say yes.
   • For example, you could say, "You know, I just realized we both love horror movies a lot. Wouldn't it be great to go to the premiere of that new one Saturday together?"
   • Or, "I like to dance myself. There is a great club that plays the absolute best dance. We should go there when you are free."

Part 5 of 5: Scoring a date in a different context

1. Try to score a date with someone who attends your school. Scoring a date with someone at your (high) school or university can be even easier. You already have one activity in common: studying.
   • You will also inevitably meet if you take the same lessons / subjects. Use those moments to introduce yourself and get noticed.
   • If you want to date someone who attends your school, it can be helpful to get to know her friends first. That way you will have an idea of ​​what she is like, what she likes, and what she dislikes. This is useful to know before approaching her.
   • You can use extracurricular activities, such as sports or clubbing, to get to know her better. Show her that you share the same interests and passions as she does. Show off your talents to impress her even more.
2. Score on date through an online dating site. Sites like Lexa.nl and Pepper.nl link people based on their interests and how well they fit together.
   • Dating sites have the added advantage of providing security to their users. Since you know that the women out there are looking for men to date, you don't have to worry.
   • Dating sites match people based on what they like, dislike, preferences, personal attitudes, and other criteria. That way, you don't have to worry that you two have nothing in common or that it will "click".
   • You also have several options; unlike when looking for a date in person. If a woman decides that she wants to date someone else besides you, chances are there are other suitable women out there too.

Tips

• Don't speak up all the time, especially about yourself; ask open questions that require more explanation than a simple yes / no question.
• Don't swear, get up your nose, spit, or act in other ways that are anti-social or downright nasty. Your date may tolerate your rude behavior, but she will never appreciate it.
• Never interrupt the other. Let him / her finish before you respond.
• Don't say / do things to impress the other person. They will see through this and lose interest in you. The most impressive person is someone who doesn't have to go out of their way to impress.
• Make sure your breath is fresh and you are clean (shower, wash your hair, keep your nails short and clean).
• If you have strong opinions, don't try to impose them. It can be very overwhelming and annoying.
• Give the person space - don't like stalkers.
• You may want to ask a friend to help you if you are quite nervous.
• Be nice! People see how you treat other people. When you go out for coffee with your date, be nice to the cashier, waitress, or waiter. Tolerate his / her friends (to some extent, of course). Smile, remember names, and don't embarrass yourself or your date. The moment you walk out the door they will be talking about you. Don't let your bad behavior or hygiene be the main topic of what they say.
• Someone will think that you are the very best, most beautiful, most charming, sexiest, and most wonderful person on the planet. At some point you will meet him / her and you will think the same about him / her. But in order to cast the protagonist in the movie that is your life, you have to watch a bunch of auditions first. Some you will like, others less, some will love you but you will not love them, and so on. One day everything will come together.
• Good eye contact shows self-confidence and assertiveness.
• Tell the person about yourself.
• Try not to embarrass your date by being rude or asking very personal questions in public.
• Take a deep breath, speak loudly, speak clearly.
• The person will find you more attractive if he / she notices that you adhere to certain standards. If he / she does something that you don't like, show your indifference.
• When starting a conversation, make sure you know something you want to talk about. Icebreakers like "Hey, are you okay?" and "What are you drinking?" are absolute killers. When you are at a concert, you already have something in common.
• Try to break the ice by talking.
• Watch how he treats his mother. The way he treats her is the way he will treat you. Don't ask if you can kiss him; rate his body language, and work with it.
• A wingman can be a good idea. Research has shown that people are more attractive in groups.

Warnings

• If they let you down, there's no point in getting emotional! Be self-assured! They are the losers here, not you.
• Don't cry if you get rejected!
• If you are rejected, remember that it is not the end of the world. Lift yourself up and move on.
• If they're not saying no, but something that implies no in a nicer way, don't sulk. If you really like him / her, please try again later when you've gotten to know him / her a little better. This will strengthen the bond and increase the likelihood that he / she will say yes.
• If they say no, that's no problem. Just because one person rejects you doesn't mean they will all do that.
• Ignore "opening sentences". "Here I am. What are your other two wishes?"; "Does God actually know that you escaped from heaven?" Talking about the cows and calves is difficult, but clichés are absolute turn-offs.

Necessities

• Clean teeth and fresh breath
• Money to go out
• Nice / beautiful clothes
• Makeup can boost your confidence
• Chewing gum or mints
• Neat and clean hair
• A present for your date (optional)