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• Method 1 of 3: Let someone go
• Method 2 of 3: Get rid of obsessive thoughts
• Method 3 of 3: Get rid of compulsive acting

Whether you are obsessed with a particular person, video games, watching TV, or just can't get rid of certain thoughts; realizing that something is taking over your life doesn't feel right. But most obsessions are just a phase - once you've decided to do something about it, it's only a matter of time before your brain fills with other thoughts, distractions, and more pleasures. If you are ready to become independent again, uncontrolled by insignificant things, now is the time to start!

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Method 1 of 3: Let someone go

1. Limit yourself in the number of times you contact someone. If you find yourself being perceived as being gooey or obsessed, it's a good idea to stop. The easiest way to feel more independent and carefree is to do your own thing. Sure, you can stop by now and then, but you are too busy with your own life to pay attention to the other person all the time.
   • This includes calling, texting, Facebook, and even treating them as preferred tweets. Stay away from them for a while to make it clear that you can live just fine without them.
2. Just look them up every now and then. If you keep running into them “by accident”, this will come across as suspicious. You may think you're cunning, but standing outside the men's room is anything but subtle. Make it a point not to do everything you can to see the other person - if you "do" just bump into that person, this will really come across!
   • You may need to work on your daily routine, if only to make it easier for yourself. If you take the same route, choose a different one. Do you come to the same places? Go at other times. This will be a bit inconvenient at first, but eventually you will get used to the new regularity.
3. Write your thoughts on paper. Sometimes just thinking about something won't make it clearer to you. You will have to put them on paper to see how ridiculous they are. Write them down and don't forget the details. Then crumple the paper and throw it away. This will make your brain think they are gone too.
   • When you read, “Hellen is a unique snowflake. She floats as if on a cloud. I love her as I have never loved anyone else and will never love anyone more than her. I think about her 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I dream of her and wake up thinking about her, and the moments without her are full of pain, ”then it is a little easier to see that you will have to pull the brakes for a moment.
4. Laugh at yourself. If you take a serious look at yourself and your thoughts (which is easier by writing them down), it will be easier to enjoy your own behavior and see that your obsessive behavior is a bit strange after all. You will be able to become more objective this way, especially when it comes to your own thoughts.
   • We all have our quirks and this is yours right now. If anyone else spoke up about a woman like that, you'd be roaring with laughter, so go ahead and laugh at yourself. You will start to feel a lot better about the whole situation.
5. Stop the obsessive thoughts when they come up. Sometimes it may seem that our thoughts and ourselves are the same, but they are not - after all, you can view your thoughts from a distance and agree or disagree with them. When thoughts come up about this person, say no. Very easy. You don't want to think about that, so you're not going to do that either.
   • It can help to interrupt yourself. When you find yourself thinking about the other person, immediately try to think of something else to distract yourself. eventually your brain will forget that there was an obsession.
6. Find a friend to talk to about your obsessions. This helps for a number of reasons: Hearing yourself talk out loud about your obsessions can help you see them in a different light - and you'll feel a lot better knowing that you can get your heart out on someone.
   • Good friends will help you see your behavior from a different perspective. He or she will be able to point out certain aspects that you have not yet thought of and help you see a different way of looking.
7. Keep yourself and your thoughts busy. We all go through times when we are so busy that we literally forget to worry about what annoys us. The same goes for obsessions - if your brain is so busy with something else, the obsession just won't come up. There is no time for it.
   • Do you need an excuse to finally take up that hobby that you believe you will become good at? Then now is the time! Whether it's a guitar or a bocce, go for it. The busier you are, the less often you will be available to your obsessions, and so will your mind.

Method 2 of 3: Get rid of obsessive thoughts

1. Recognize your thoughts. Regaining control of your thoughts and resulting behavior is extremely difficult if you don't know what you're looking for. Do you keep breaking down on yourself when something goes wrong? Are you obsessed with your appearance? Do you always worry about what others think of you? When you know what is going wrong in your brain, you can start controlling it.
   • Also try to find out the source of these thoughts. You can't get rid of a tree just by cutting the trunk? By identifying the source of the problem, you can tackle the obsession at its root.
2. Stop the obsessive thoughts. Negative thoughts are very hard to stop, especially when they keep racing through your mind. Instead of trying to screech these thoughts, put them in reverse. For example, say something like, "I'll start thinking about this tonight after work," or "I can worry about this for 15 minutes every night, but no more." Your mind can relax because of that, because you have reached a compromise.
   • You may find that once the time comes, you don't need it anymore. After work, you socialize with your friends, or you go to the movies and don't think about the obsession at all. Any day you spend without the obsession is a win.
3. Take responsibility. The great thing about it all is that you do it yourself - so you can stop doing it! These obsessive thoughts are your own and you are the only one who can stop the cheerful obsession. Once you have accepted that you are turning the wheel, you can take back control of your own mind.
   • Don't forget: this is a good thing! If it were someone else's responsibility, you wouldn't have any power over it. Since this is your duty and your responsibility, you can take the necessary steps toward mental independence right now.
4. Imagine the worst. Sounds a bit counterintuitive, but remember this way: when you think of the slightest scenario, reality can only be better. Are you worried about what you look like at that party tonight? Imagine walking around there in filthy clothes and you haven't washed in weeks. Then it becomes a lot easier to convince yourself that you look great!
   • Only use this tactic when you are having an obsessive moment, otherwise it will only degenerate into negative thinking. You should use this to calm yourself when you're floating on the edge, not to bring yourself down.
5. Let the negative thoughts motivate you. The only way we can change ourselves is with the right motivation. And that only happens when we are unhappy with a certain situation. These negative thoughts are telling you exactly that - there is something you want to change yourself. So cherish these feelings and let them work for you! This may just be the push you need to improve yourself.
   • Imagine you're constantly putting yourself down because of your weight. Now turn these thoughts into something positive. Let your thoughts become a reason to go to the gym or change your diet. Write down what changes you want to make so that they go away.
6. Seek support from a close friend or friends. Whether you're obsessed with a person, a thing, or ourselves, we all need a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. Otherwise, it seems like we have to fight this battle all by ourselves. To ease your mind, consult a friend or a relative you trust enough to help you get back on track.
   • Be honest with your friends about how you feel - don't downplay it so they can form a real picture of what you're going through. It may make you feel a bit vulnerable, but once you have thrown it out, it will take a load off your shoulders.

Method 3 of 3: Get rid of compulsive acting

1. Make time for the obsession. Obsessions are hard to give up - in fact, they are quite addictive. Rather than letting the activity affect every aspect of your life, you put restrictions on yourself, setting a set time for the obsession as a kind of reward. Now put it aside for later. If it is later, you may even have forgotten it again.
   • If you notice that you have an intense craving for the habit, you agree with yourself that you can do this at 8 a.m. or after class. Your brain is then reassured in the assurance that it may obsess over something at some point, so that you can unwind without actually engaging in the obsession.
2. Keep yourself busy. If your mind and body are busy with something else, then there may not be time for the obsession at all. Keep yourself entertained by going to friends and taking up a hobby and thereby sidelining the obsession.
   • The good thing about such an obsession is that it can also motivate you. Think of it as a diet: To keep yourself from eating chocolate, eat anything in the house that can be found in the fridge. Only in the case of an obsession are you going to do all the things that you have wanted to do all the time, by not being busy with the obsession all the time. Avoiding the obsession can make you highly productive.
3. Hang out with friends who have different values ​​and standards. Whether you are addicted to video games, marijuana, or something else; it is not inconceivable that your friends also contribute to your addiction. To counter this, you need an environment where you are less likely to be tempted - an environment with other people with different habits. During this time, make sure to hang out with friends who have nothing to do with the obsession you're trying to get rid of.
   • Are you only in those circles? Then you might be better off relying on your family. Take the opportunity to mend and revitalize relationships. You can rediscover people you have missed in your life, making that life better.
4. Think about how it will affect your life. Any obsession or addiction, no matter how it manifests itself, is harmful if it negatively affects your life. Does it put pressure on your relationships? Is it holding back your productivity? Does it affect your work? If so, that could be the motivation to quit. If this happened to someone you love, what would you say to them?
   • Awareness is often the first big step. A little bit of self-knowledge can bring you a lot - once you understand what the actual problem is and where it comes from, you can start doing something about it.
5. Realize that you are the one who controls. Your thoughts are yours. If you decide not to be so obsessed, then you aren't. You can shake off the trifles. You have nothing required. It's just that your mind is now convinced of the opposite. It is your task to change your mind.
   • This is very, very important. Because you are at the helm, you decide which way the ship goes. When you are ready to free your mind, you will succeed. By taking responsibility and thinking positively, your obsessions don't stand a chance.
6. Gradually reduce it. Trying to get rid of an addiction or obsession cold turkey is often too much to ask. Instead of trying to move mountains, take it easy. For example, allow yourself an hour today to be obsessed. The day after 45 minutes. The day after 30 minutes and so on.
   • Everything in life is a form of routine, getting used to the situation you are in. Though it may seem impossible now shall your mind eventually get used to whatever routine you impose on it - and remember, you are the one at the helm.