Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Making an action plan
• Part 2 of 3: Asking a person you already know out
• Part 3 of 3: Asking a person you just met or want to meet
• Tips

Everyone fears rejection, but we have to take the risk of rejection once in a while to get the things we want. Read this article to learn how to ask someone out without losing your self-esteem and confidence!

To step

Part 1 of 3: Making an action plan

1. Determine if this person is already in a relationship or not. This will save you a great deal of shame and unnecessary effort.
   • Don't ask anyone who is already in a relationship. It is inappropriate and unfair to that person's boyfriend / girlfriend, and it reflects badly on your moral nature.
2. Be confident but prepared for rejection. Determine in advance what you will do or say if the person says no. This is especially important if you plan to ask a friend out, as it will reduce the chances of damaging the friendship.
   • Being prepared for a rejection will avoid looking physically defeated to the other person if the answer is negative.
   • While you want to prepare yourself for the possibility of rejection, don't let it get in the way of your confidence. On the contrary, let it build your confidence by accepting the fact that being rejected is not the end of the world.
3. If necessary, find out what he or she likes. This will help you think of a great date idea. If this person likes music, find out what kind of music they like and invite them to a concert. If they enjoy movies, invite them to the theater and so on.
4. Decide how you want to ask the person out. If you're too shy to ask the person in person, consider sending a text message, a Facebook message, or an email.
   • Text messages are a great option if you're too scared to ask in person. This way, you will at least be able to hide your disappointment from the other person.
   • If you've just met the person and don't have their phone number, you'll have to ask in person, but don't fret! Asking in person is romantic and can be very rewarding if the person says yes.

Part 2 of 3: Asking a person you already know out

1. Start a conversation. Starting with a casual conversation will make it easier for you to ask the question afterwards and will lessen any potential nervousness.
   • Send a friendly text like "Hey, how are you?" If you are asking the question in person, approach the person and say hello. Make sure to smile and make eye contact as this will show that you are interested.
   • Instead of asking them out right away, ask them what they are doing tomorrow, next weekend, and so on. This will serve as a transition to ask the person out and make the conversation more natural.
2. Ask them if they want to go on a date. Suggest an activity that you think they will be interested in based on what you know about the person. If you can't think of something, here are a few ideas:
   • Ask them to have a cup of coffee or a drink together.
   • Ask them to have dinner or lunch together.
   • Ask them if they would enjoy going to a party / dancing with you.
   • Ask them to have an ice cream or frozen yogurt together.
3. Let them know that you are as good of friends as they say no. This will help eliminate any awkwardness in the future, especially if you've just asked a close boyfriend / girlfriend out and plan to keep seeing them on a regular basis. More importantly, it will show the person that you are confident and mature enough to handle a little rejection.

Part 3 of 3: Asking a person you just met or want to meet

1. Make eye contact and smile at the person. This shows the person that you are interested in them and gives them the opportunity to respond to the gesture, showing that they are interested too.
   • If the person is looking away or not smiling back, they may not be interested. However, it could also mean they are too shy to answer, so don't give up completely just yet.
2. Approach the person and introduce yourself, if you haven't already. Make sure to act confident, even if you're shivering inside. First impressions are very important and confidence is an attractive trait in both men and women.
3. Start a casual conversation. This can be anything from complimenting the person, talking about what's going on around you in the room, or asking them a question. If you can't think of a reason to talk to the person, try these things:
   • Ask the person what time it is.
   • Ask the person where they are from.
   • Ask the person what they are reading.
   • Compliment the person for the clothes they wear.
   • Talk about the music being played or anything else going on around you.
4. Ask the person out. Once the conversation has started, let the person know that you think they are interesting and would like to get to know them.
   • Suggest meeting for coffee, lunch, dinner, etc. These are all very common dates with a low commitment rate, in case you don't get along.
   • Avoid asking them out to the movie on the first date, as it won't give them a chance to get to know each other better.
5. Be diplomatic when they say no. If the person says no, smile and say something like, “Well, it was worth a try. Nice to have met you!" and then leave them. Do not continue to bother the person once they have said no and certainly don't keep trying to convince them to go out with you. This will make you look desperate and make the other person feel uncomfortable.

Tips

• Try to look your best when asking someone out. Not only will this give you the best chance of scoring a date, it will also help you feel more confident and will be reflected in your behavior.
• Know how to take a hint. Some people are too nice to just say no to you and will instead say that they are too busy and no time for a date. If the person says they are too busy without trying to reschedule the date, they probably aren't interested.