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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Let go of the relationship
• Method 2 of 3: Take care of yourself
• Method 3 of 3: Connect with Others

When negative emotions are overwhelmed, it can be very difficult to recover from a breakup. You can literally force yourself to get out of bed and go about your daily activities. You can recover faster if you take care of yourself and get the support of friends and family. In addition, you can get professional help from a psychotherapist. Also work on letting go of your past relationships. Thanks to this, you will be able to move on.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Let go of the relationship

1. 1 Avoid contact with your ex. Give yourself the time and space it needs to recover from a breakup. Don't call or text your ex. Remove him from your friends on social networks.
   • Tell your ex that you don't want to hang out with him for a while. You can say, “I need time for myself. I would be very grateful to you if you don’t try to contact me. I need time to understand myself. "
2. 2 Get rid of things that remind you of your ex. Do not store items that belong to or remind you of your ex. If you want to cope with the painful feelings, you need to get rid of the things that make you remember the person with whom you broke up.
   • Ask your ex to collect their belongings. When he arrives, you can ask a friend to give these things to your ex.
3. 3 Think about starting a new relationship. While many may not even allow themselves to think about starting a new relationship, it can actually help to cope with painful feelings. Communication with a person of the opposite sex often helps to forget the former partner. In addition, new relationships make you feel more desirable. What's more, meeting a new partner will make you feel more independent and relaxed.
   • You can ask friends and family to introduce you to the right person. Online dating can also help.
4. 4 Wait until you are confident that you are ready for a new relationship. If you feel that you are not ready for a relationship, take your time. Instead, focus all your attention and energy on taking care of yourself and spending time with good friends and family. Develop as a person. When you're ready, try building a new relationship.
   • Expect it to take time to heal from a breakup. It will be difficult for you to build new relationships right away. Be patient and don't demand quick mental healing from yourself.
   SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   

   Sarah Schewitz, PsyD

   
   
   Licensed Psychologist Sarah Shevitz, PsyD is a clinical psychologist with over 10 years of experience licensed by the California Board of Psychology. She received her degree in Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychological counseling service that helps couples and individual clients improve and change their love and relationship behavior.

   Sarah Schewitz, PsyD
   Licensed Psychologist

   The waiting period is the time for growth. Relationship psychologist Sarah Shevitz explains: “After a breakup, take some time to work on yourself and learn from previous relationships. Let yourself be grieved, do not start a new relationship too early, just so that overshadow the feeling of pain... Otherwise, if you part with a new passion, feelings will cover with double force, and it will be much more difficult to survive ”.

   
   

Method 2 of 3: Take care of yourself

1. 1 Keep a diary, in which write down your thoughts and feelings. Journaling is a great opportunity to pour out your heart. Write what you think. It is not worth correcting what is written. Just let go of the thoughts and feelings that weigh you down. This will help you recover faster and put your feelings and emotions in order.
   • You can reflect on the following questions: "What problems were in our relationship?", "How do I understand that the relationship is over?", "How do I feel now?"
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   Amy chan

   
   
   Relationship Coach Amy Chan is the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a recovery camp that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after a relationship ends. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of people in just 2 years of work, and the camp has been noted by CNN, Vogue, The New York Times and Fortune. Her debut book, Breakup Bootcamp, will be published by HarperCollins in January 2020.

   Amy chan
   Relationship coach

   Make a diary entry as a morning ritual. Amy Chan, Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, says: “This ritual will allow you to set goals and appropriate moods early in the day, before you even have time to look at your phone and start interacting with the world around you. For example, write one goal for the day in your journal every morning. But instead of “I have to”, use “I can” or “I will do” better. "

2. 2 Take up a hobby. Maybe you enjoy drawing or reading. Perhaps you enjoy playing sports or knitting. Instead of letting negative thoughts destroy you from the inside out, devote your time to what you enjoy. This will help you relax and focus on the present instead of constantly reminiscing about it.
   • Sign up for courses that teach what you like, such as knitting or painting. Or join a sports team like soccer or volleyball if you love sports.
3. 3 Set aside time for sports everyday. Exercise can help you deal with the painful feelings after a breakup. Set aside some time for a run in the morning. In addition, devote 30 minutes to daily sports. If you have the opportunity, visit the fitness club several times a week.
   • If you find it difficult to play sports yourself, invite a friend to join you. This will make it easier for you to stay motivated. You can also invite a friend to go jogging in the morning.
4. 4 Practice Deep Breathing Technique. If you are anxious or stressed, start practicing deep breathing techniques to help calm and relax. Find a quiet, secluded place where no one and nothing will distract you. Breathe in and out slowly for a few minutes.
   • You can also attend classes where you can learn how to do these exercises correctly. This will keep you calm.
   • As a rule, deep breathing techniques are practiced in yoga classes. Practice yoga with slow exercises that promote relaxation.
5. 5 Repeat positive affirmations. Positive affirmations can help you view life positively, even when you feel upset or depressed. Try saying positive affirmations in the morning after sleep or in the evening before going to bed.Repeat affirmations that make you feel strong.
   • For example, you can repeat, "I'm fine," or, "I'm strong." You can also repeat the following statement: "I will experience this," - or: "I am above this situation."
6. 6 Avoid behaviors that can be harmful. As a rule, after a breakup, a person experiences deep mental pain. Some, being in this state, begin to do things that threaten their health and even life. Try not to do anything that could harm your physical or mental health. Resist the temptation to take drugs or drink alcohol to ease your pain. Also, do your best not to date your ex, and don't isolate yourself from others. By doing this, you are destroying your personality.
   • If you have a desire to harm yourself in some way, contact a relative or friend. Take up a hobby you love or write your thoughts and feelings in a journal.
   • Seek help immediately if you have thoughts of hurting yourself.
   SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   

   Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC

   Family therapist Moshe Ratson is the executive director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a psychotherapy and counseling clinic in New York City. He is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) certified by the International Federation of Coaching. Received a Master's Degree in Psychotherapy in Family and Marriage from Iona College. He is a clinical member of the American Association for Family Therapy (AAMFT) and a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF).

   Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC
   Family psychotherapist

   Allow yourself to feel the pain of a breakup without judgment. Family Therapist Moshe Ratson says, “The sooner you accept these feelings, the faster you can let go of the pain. Then, having gathered strength, you will be able to move away from the feeling of guilt, to understand the meaning of what happened, to find new goals and opportunities for growth in the future. "

Method 3 of 3: Connect with Others

1. 1 Spend time with a close friend or family member. Get the support of friends and loved ones as you try to recover from your breakup. Keep in touch with your friends. Dine together or spend time wherever you like. Also, don't forget about your family members. Spend quality time with them.
   • Being around people who love and care for you will make you feel better and less lonely.
   • Don't isolate yourself from others. Even talking to one friend can help you deal with your feelings.
2. 2 Help those who need it. This will keep you from feeling lonely. Bring food to a sick friend or take a sick relative to the hospital. Help a friend who needs help.
   • You can also volunteer by joining a charity that provides assistance to those in need.
   SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   “Giving back to the community can help you heal your wounds faster and increase your self-esteem.”

   

   Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC

   Family therapist Moshe Ratson is the executive director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a psychotherapy and counseling clinic in New York City. He is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) certified by the International Federation of Coaching. Received a Master's Degree in Psychotherapy in Family and Marriage from Iona College. He is a clinical member of the American Association for Family Therapy (AAMFT) and a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF).

   Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC
   Family psychotherapist

3. 3 Start pet. A pet can help you distract yourself from painful feelings. Pets are great company. In addition, pet owners feel incredible comfort from the presence of their pet.You can get a pet from a pet store or take it from an animal shelter.
   • If you cannot afford to take care of your pet all the time, you can help a friend care for their pet.
   • Before purchasing a pet, you must be sure that you can provide it with proper care. You will have to set aside time and money to take care of your pet.
4. 4 Consult with a psychotherapist. If your emotions and feelings can't be controlled, don't be afraid to seek professional help. Find a professional who can help you deal with the painful feelings. See a school counselor or ask your doctor where you can get help. Make an appointment with your therapist and tell him about your condition.
   • You can also use the services of a psychologist or psychotherapist who conduct sessions online.
   • You can ask loved ones and friends who see a therapist if they can recommend such a specialist for you. It will be easier for you to trust a person in whose competence you are confident.