Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Purposeful conversation has a big impact on mood and relationships. Deep and thoughtful communication cannot be learned just by reading an article, but these tips provide a good basis for your discussion.

Steps

1. 1 Pick a good person. This could be a friend, family member, or close acquaintance.
2. 2 Sit in a quiet place. During a conversation, you will not like the interruption due to ambient noise. Therefore, choose a suitable time to talk outside so that the noises of cars and birds do not overwhelm you.If you decide to stay inside, be sure to create a secluded conversation environment and prepare a chair or chair to be comfortable and not interrupted by severe pain.
3. 3 Pick a good topic. As long as you don't focus on yourself or show off, any topic is good. If you have difficulty expressing feelings, you should inform the other person about it. A conversation like this is a great opportunity to confess to something bad you've done, or to reveal any secrets you hold.
4. 4 Don't lie. In almost all cultures, lying language is one of the most abhorrent characteristics that a person can possess, and this is condemned by most philosophers as a vice. Many arguments lose their meaning if one person exaggerates, is hostile or defensive, or expresses unnecessary anger just to show that person is wrong. Don't let yourself become that person, don't let your emotions take over.
5. 5 Be prepared to accept whatever the other person has to say. Admitting deeply stored feelings can be painful, but no matter how overwhelming it is, stay calm.
6. 6 Look at the interlocutor. If your culture does not condemn this in certain situations, try looking directly into the other person's eyes because it builds trust. The eyes are truly the mirror of the soul, and your sincerity can be confirmed by your sincere expression. Avoid confusing messages by speaking seriously, but at the same time having a playful or indifferent expression.
7. 7 Don't mumble. Mumbling is a sign of hidden anger, resentment, disrespect, or sadness. If you feel uncomfortable during a conversation, speak without mumbling to avoid confusion.
8. 8 Do not be distructed. If the television is running in the background, turn it off if you know it is causing you to be unable to concentrate. Put away your cell phone and, respecting the other person, take off any kind of headphones while the other person is talking. Eliminating these distractions should help you focus.
9. 9 Try listening honestly. The general tendency for most people is to keep thinking about what they have to say when the other person is speaking. Try to really understand what the other person is trying to convey. This will make the conversation a "conversation" and will prevent you from interrupting too often and exhausting the other person.

Tips

• Don't interrupt the other person while they are talking. If both of you are used to interrupting all the time and don't mind it, you don't have to worry about it. Like bad manners, let the other person's comfort level prevail. If interrupts you often, just interrupt him again and think of it as having a conversation.
• Avoid gossip. Make sure your discussions are positive and uplifting, not criticizing or belittling others.
• Take care of the other person's emotional needs in the conversation. That is, be kind and caring, think about the other person and do nothing to hurt him or her.
• It is normal to use spoken language in everyday conversation, but do not use too much slang or harsh language in your speech if you are not sharing it with someone you trust. This will make you seem uneducated or impolite if the other person is not used to him. Otherwise, a sudden departure from harsh language and jargon can make it feel like you're creating emotional distance. Let the other person's slang level prevail.
• Try to avoid crowds when you have a deep, focused conversation.
• If you need to retire to the bathroom, you can delay the conversation or say, "Sorry," and go out.
• Don't leave when he speaks. This will show that you do not want to be around this person.
• Try not to start drunk conversations. Better yet, avoid drinking too much alcohol in social situations. You can say / do what you regret and the next day you will find that you have lost a friend.
• Sit up straight to show that you are alert, even if you don't usually have good posture. Or lean forward for close encounters.
• If you are a man and are talking to a woman, remember that constant interruptions are considered neglect of women. Also remember that women and men are accustomed to giving a woman only 1/3 of the lines in a face-to-face conversation. If you make an effort to control yourself, you can equalize that number and be fair to her. If you feel like she is trying to dominate the conversation, think about this proportion and before you rush to her, ask yourself if the woman is dominant or just behaves like you, taking up half the conversation the way a man would.

Warnings

• Some of the people who seem harsh and mean have important questions that either make them at odds with you or think they are. If so, try to figure out this emotional issue and come to an agreement on this issue. Defense usually has reasons.
• Don't put up with bullying or think of it as meaningful conversation, even if the bully says it is.
• Some people are naturally harsh and mean. They won't want to have anything special with you, no matter what you do for them. It's easy to part with these people. If you have said everything you can, you cannot do anything more.
• Don't assume that a long, detailed conversation about anything that feels wrong to you is deep and meaningful unless the content is truly constructive criticism. Personal criticism can be anything from helpful and inspiring to personal attacks designed to leave you feeling humiliated, hopeless, and insecure. The pressure to change anything in you, such as religion or alcohol addiction, may be well-intentioned, but if it is not, you may later find out other people's opinions. Distinguishing "personal criticism" from "well-disposed criticism" is difficult for everyone; don't be discouraged if it takes a few days to sort out what was said, especially if it was severely flagged as constructive criticism.