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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Sexual harassment is words or actions of a sexual nature, said or done with the intention of creating a hostile or offensive atmosphere, humiliating or embarrassing a person. Perhaps we are talking about an isolated case. When sexual harassment becomes commonplace, the victim's life can turn into a nightmare. If you are a victim of sexual harassment, you need to take action. First, you need to tell your abuser to stop the inappropriate behavior. All future activities that could be considered sexual harassment should be reported to the school counselor, teacher, or principal. In the United States, there is a criminal penalty for sexual harassment, in Russian legislation there is no such definition, the closest thing to this concept is the definition of Article 133 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation "Compulsion to acts of a sexual nature."

Steps

1. 1 You need to understand what sexual harassment is. Sexual harassment, bordering on coercion into acts of a sexual nature, is not legal in the Russian Federation. Any sexual harassment, whether verbal or expressed in action, is illegal in many countries in Europe and the United States. Sexual harassment can be of many kinds, and it can come from a teacher or other students. Sexual harassment includes the following actions:
   • Touching personal parts of the body (other than hands)
   • When you are cornered.
   • When someone sends you sexy messages or photos.
   • When sexy images or graffiti are sent to you.
   • When you are shown sexual gestures.
   • When sex offers or rumors of a sexual nature are made about you.
   • When your clothes are taken off.
   • When the other person takes off their clothes in front of you.
   • Or when you are forced to kiss someone or do some other sexual act.
   • When you are forced to have sexual intercourse.
2. 2 Find out if you are the only victim. Your abuser may have been sexually harassing other students. Talk to them and take the necessary steps together.
3. 3 The abuser should know that his behavior and comments towards you make you feel uncomfortable, that you want him to stop such actions. This should be done immediately after the incident. Tell them that you don't like what this person is doing, that you want them to stop. This will give him a fairly clear idea of ​​what is causing you discomfort. You can say this in front of other people who will be your witnesses. When you say this, you do not need to smile, do not laugh, do not give the impression that you are joking.
   • If you feel fearful and fear confrontation, if you think you may be in danger, skip this step. Don't smile or laugh when sexual harassment occurs.
4. 4 Write down everything that happens to you. Write down the date, time and event that happened to you with details. Write down the names of people who witnessed this.List any attempts you have made to communicate to the abuser that their behavior is making you uncomfortable or uncomfortable. Save the notes or photographs you receive as evidence. Write down how you feel about the events that happen to you. Write down changes in your life, emotional stability, and your ability to do well in school.
   • For example, write: "June 15, 2007. Today, at about 2:30 pm, I, as always, walked down the hallway from room 13, where the history lesson is taking place, to room 2b on the 3rd floor. I passed John Smith and his friends, Ralph Thomas and Joe Teldora. ”She shouted," Prostitute! " I walked by. Then I turned, looked them in the eyes, and they laughed and pointed at me. Two people who left the room on history - Mary James and Christina Jones, watched what was happening, but did not say or did anything. I started crying, I was ashamed. I turned around and ran away. When I was sitting in the lesson, I could not concentrate, because all my thoughts were about what had happened. I could not pass the test well, because it was difficult for me to get together with thoughts. "
   • This will allow you to get rid of the abuser and similar treatment of you. You need to show the recordings to adults.
5. 5 Go to an adult and ask for help. You can go to the school nurse, psychologist, or teacher. If you are not comfortable talking to them about this topic, you can talk to your favorite teacher or other school employee. Ask them to write down when and what exactly happened to you.
   • If the person asks why you didn't talk about it earlier, tell them that you were scared and ashamed to talk about it. Tell them you waited for this behavior to happen again.
   • Tell more than one person, tell your parent, teacher, or school nurse.
6. 6 Write a letter to your abuser. Describe their behavior that confuses you, tell them you don’t like it, ask them not to do that anymore. Keep a copy of the letter for yourself. Ask a trusted adult to hand over the letter to the abuser.
7. 7 You can file a complaint if none of the previous steps helped you. If the abuser's behavior has not changed, you can write a special complaint to a child rights organization or other public organization. This should help you.

Tips

• Never blame yourself. It is not your fault that you are offended. You should never ignore what is happening. If you are experiencing these kinds of things, if you are the victim of sexual harassment or harassment, then you definitely need to take action. If you do nothing, it can have negative psychological consequences, change your life for the worse and even completely ruin it.
• Know that you are not the only person in the world to be bullied in this way. In the United States, thousands of people are convicted every year for engaging in sexual harassment.
• If someone touches you or threatens you, you can contact the police. If someone is harassing you or constantly harassing you, you can go to the police and sue that person. In some cases, it is fashionable to open a criminal case against the abuser. Even if you don't win it, chances are the abuser will stop his behavior.
• If someone is flirting with you and you don't like it, tell them not to do it again. If they continue to do this, they will engage in sexual harassment.
• If you do any of the above things, stop immediately. You bring pain to another person.
• Sexual harassment can be of both a woman and a man. A man can pursue another man, woman, or vice versa.
• You can enroll in self-defense courses if you think you are in danger. If you are afraid for your health or life, contact the police.
• Find people who trust you and know what is happening to you. Talk to them about what is happening, do not keep all the emotions to yourself.
• The actions of adults and teachers in your school depend on the severity of the situation. If the situation is serious enough, appropriate action will be taken. Your abuser may be suspended or expelled from school.

Warnings

• If you do nothing, the sexual harassment or harassment will continue, and it will most likely get worse and worse. It is necessary to take some steps and take appropriate measures.
• Sometimes adults or other authorized people do not solve the situation in any way. In this case, you need to take matters into your own hands. First, write down everything that happens to you. Secondly, file it with the police if something is illegal. Third, sign up for self-defense courses and learn how to defend yourself and your honor on your own.
• If you are lying to law enforcement or adults about sexual harassment, know that it is a criminal offense.