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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: How to act decisively
• Method 2 of 3: How to Get Rid of Fear and Embarrassment
• Method 3 of 3: How to Build Self-Confidence

If a person scares or embarrasses you, it's always scary to talk to them. Everyone has to deal with a bossy boss or cocky classmates. The simplest decision may seem to be the decision to ignore the person, but often such a conversation simply cannot be avoided. You can speak confidently in any situation. To do this, you need to raise self-esteem, behave decisively, and get rid of feelings of fear and embarrassment.

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Method 1 of 3: How to act decisively

1. 1 Prepare for the conversation. Plan your words ahead of time to cope with your emotions.If you are anxious before discussing a project with your boss, don't be idle at the workplace, meet deadlines, watch out for the little things, and don't miss out on mistakes. Imagine what kind of questions your boss might ask to think through the answers.
   • You might even ask a coworker to review your work to identify flaws.
2. 2 Maintain eye contact. In moments of excitement, people tend to look at the floor so as not to maintain eye contact. Confident people make eye contact as they talk. Make eye contact, but not indifferently. Nod, laugh, and smile when appropriate in the conversation.
3. 3 Speak slowly. A frightened person may speak quickly or stumble. Slow down the tempo of your speech. Consider your words and watch your pronunciation. You are in no hurry, and the interlocutor will understand you better if you speak in a measured manner.
   • Practice reading aloud to yourself or others.
4. 4 Watch your tone of voice. It is important to control not only the tempo, but also the tone of speech. A high-pitched voice, too low or too loud speech is inappropriate. Speak in your natural voice and be aware of the surrounding noise.
   • For example, during tea drinking, you do not need to speak loudly, but at a concert it is better to raise your voice.
5. 5 Smile. If you're not sure, start pretending. It has been proven that thanks to any, even a strained smile, the mood improves. Give the person a short smile before answering and start talking.
6. 6 Watch your posture. You don't have to hunch over, drag your feet and stare at the floor. Take up as much space as possible to express confidence. Sit upright and do not cross your legs or rest your ankle on your knee. When standing, keep your back straight and feet shoulder-width apart. It's best to never cross your arms.
   • In a business setting, greet the person with a firm handshake.
7. 7 Correct imperfections. If you notice that your voice is trembling or you made an inappropriate remark, then ask a question to pull yourself together while the other person answers. You can also go to the restroom and wash up.
   • You can ask: “I heard about your work with Ivan Andreevich. Tell us about it? "
   • You can also say, "I'm sorry, I need to go away for a minute."
8. 8 Go away. If the person is acting hostile, you have the right to walk away. No one deserves to be yelled at or rude at. Say, “We’ll talk a little later, when you’re calm,” and then leave.

Method 2 of 3: How to Get Rid of Fear and Embarrassment

1. 1 Assess the source of the fear. People tend to overestimate threats and underestimate their potential and their strengths. This is useful in moments of real danger, but it prevents us from communicating with arrogant individuals. Pay less attention to the source of your fear and focus on the things that please or delight you. It will improve your mood, give you confidence, and dispel your fears.
   • For example, don't dwell on one insult and think of five compliments you received yesterday.
   • Keep in mind that sometimes suppression is part of the personality or culture and is not directed specifically at you.
2. 2 Find similarities. You may find that you have more in common with the person than meets the eye. The more you look alike, the less you will be afraid. Consider these traits and use them in subsequent conversations.
   • So, you both can love football, live in the neighborhood, or watch a certain series.
3. 3 Take a few deep breaths in and out. Use the deep breathing method before speaking. It will allow you to pull yourself together and act more confidently. Inhale slowly through your nose, then exhale through your mouth. Repeat until you feel calm.
4. 4 Imagine the person in a funny situation. Before interacting, imagine the other person in a funny costume or in a funny situation. This will help you relax and improve your mood a little.
5. 5 Practice talking to strangers. Connect with strangers to develop your social skills and learn how to interact with intimidating people. For example, talk to a salesperson in a store, or talk to the person on the bus.
6. 6 Show professionalism. If you are afraid to talk to your boss, then you should behave like a professional. Don't scream or lose your temper. Don't gossip about your boss. If your boss is bullying you, contact Human Resources.
7. 7 Think several steps ahead. Perhaps you are intimidated or constantly criticized by a teacher or boss. Try to anticipate their reaction before speaking. Review your homework or work project and think about what you might have missed, what should be improved or developed in a different direction. This will make you ready to talk.
   • Complete all tasks in advance so that you have time to check everything.

Method 3 of 3: How to Build Self-Confidence

1. 1 List your accomplishments. Think about the things you have achieved. Thoughts like these can help boost your self-esteem and help you communicate comfortably with others. List good grades, promotions, awards, and positive reviews from classmates or colleagues.
2. 2 Set and implement short-term goals. A quick way to build confidence is to come up with and implement a simple goal. For example, set a goal to go to the gym after work or work out for an hour after class.
   • Feeling confident after completing small tasks will make it easier for you to do more complex tasks.
3. 3 Choose your friends wisely. Sometimes our closest people lower our self-esteem more than others. If your friend constantly humiliates, criticizes, or insults you, it's best to distance yourself from her. Answer calls less often and spend less time together. Surround yourself with caring and kind people.
   • If a family member treats you badly, it will be more difficult to avoid him. Ignore the person or walk away when they are rude.
4. 4 Watch your appearance. Another quick way to boost your self-esteem is to look good every day. Take a shower, wear clean, wrinkle-free clothes, and take care of your hair.
   • Take a look at yourself in the mirror or at the phone screen before talking to the intimidating person so you don't have to worry about your appearance.
5. 5 Take care of yourself. When a person is feeling good, he or she behaves more confidently. Aim for at least seven hours of sleep every night, exercise three times a week, and eat fruits, vegetables, and proteins.
6. 6 Do what you love. A confident person is almost always happy. Make time for at least one favorite activity every day. In anticipation of such pleasure, any conversations with scary people will seem like minor obstacles on the way. Plan to watch your favorite TV show, meet friends, dine at a restaurant, or go shopping.