How to be a good householder

Content

Steps
Tips
Warnings

"Householder" or husband in charge of the household is the term used to describe the father in charge of the primary care of the children and the household. The evolution of families has led to the fact that the practice of housekeeping by a man is becoming more common. In "modern society" this practice boils down to the fact that the wife or another family member is in charge of providing for the family, while the husband takes care of the children and the house. This is a beneficial practice from different points of view, especially if you are a craftsman and can do timely repairs and other work in the house to ensure the comfort of the family in the house.

Steps

1 Discuss expectations with your partner. Discuss realistic expectations and how you can meet them. The definition of a good householder depends on which house you live in. In addition, this concept is due to the characteristics of different cultures. Do not assume that your expectations coincide, otherwise you will find out the opposite the hard way (through quarrels). Sit down and talk. What do you need to do to keep your home in good order? What are the household chores? If you are responsible for keeping your home tidy, others may be responsible for cleaning up after yourself: taking dirty laundry into the basket, putting things out, taking out the trash, putting dirty dishes in the sink, etc. If you also take care of small children during the day, you will be surprised to find how difficult it is to maintain order at the same time. Other family members should provide assistance with food preparation and cleaning whenever possible.
- Keep in mind that housekeeping is not as easy as it sounds. Men who have not gone through the army may not have basic cleaning skills, or they may not even know what they are. If you've never organized a household, bought food or household goods, cooked homemade meals, or cleaned because your mom did all of this, your results will be much more modest than those of any adult woman. You will take longer to complete these tasks and the results will be less effective. If possible, ask your spouse to show you how she does each job.
2 Show love. Love is a very important ingredient in a successful household. Remind your wife and children often that you love them. Pay attention to them. For example, if your son is dying to go to the park to play football, give him as much attention as possible. If you do this, the family will feel that you love them.
3 Take charge of your household! Now you are the "mistress of the house" in your family. This means that it is your responsibility for the house to be a real home. Ensure that all systems are clean and functional. One of the great advantages of being a householder is that he can do all the repairs that he would not have had time for if he were constantly at work.
4 Watch your appearance. Unless you have a reason to "make an impression" in the office, it is very easy to stop looking after your appearance. Try to take some time each day to look clean and nice. Even if you have no plans to leave the house, there is no reason not to take care of yourself. When your wife and kids return home, they will be pleased to see your well-groomed appearance - not dirty and wrinkled.
5 DO NOT forget about cooking! Remember how pleasant it was to have a freshly prepared dinner when you got home from work. Now that you are a householder, you are responsible for ensuring that the family dines on delicious food prepared for them with love every day.
6 Plan a delicious dinner ahead of time so you can prepare it before your spouse returns. Microwaved food will not work, so find a recipe book and start experimenting. Preparing meals on time for the whole family is a good way to show that you thought of them. Good food can be an expression of love and warmth at home.
- Oven-cooked meals will give you the chance to do the cleaning and other household chores while cooking. However, they are usually very tasty.
- If you want your family to eat healthy, stock up on sweets for special occasions. Let the daily food include fruits and vegetables, and sweet desserts on the table on weekends and holidays.
- Another major challenge is budgeting for grocery purchases. Semi-finished products are more expensive. The more you cook yourself, the better and more economical your family will eat. The wholesale purchase of non-perishable products is always cheaper than retail.
7 Pay attention to the little things. Don't forget family members' birthdays, wedding dates, and more. Attention to detail is a sign of attention to the person as a whole, so you will have a happy marriage as a result.
- Remember the individual taste preferences of your family members. If you remember that your kids love to eat and regularly pamper them or surprise your spouse with a bouquet of garden flowers or a bathtub with candles, all this creates special moments in life. If you have these moments more often than only on calendar holidays, you are creating very valuable memories. You don't need anything pompous, just personal. Keep a record of what each member of your family likes, and do it in secret. And if any of them had a hard day, it's time to treat them with something they love or surprise with a massage.
8 Don't forget about errands! Remember, housework alone is not enough to make your family happy. Don't forget about important assignments that take time to complete. By doing one or two a day, you will be able to deal with them, and they will not accumulate and take up a lot of time or family weekends. Pick up clothes from dry cleaning when they are ready, stop by the supermarket if you know that something needs to be purchased, pick up parcels from the post office, and so on. In general, just make sure that things like this get done on time. Your family will appreciate it very much.
- If you don't like to go shopping and other places often, you can reduce the number of business trips by planning them in advance and doing them several times at once.If you want to keep fit, use a bicycle as transport, and use a car only when you need to bring something bulky and heavy.
9 Organize your time! Perhaps this work is not perceived as work, but it is no coincidence that half of humanity has been doing these things for so long full time. A huge number of different tasks for every day can be desperate, especially cleaning, where minor problems and breakdowns constantly arise. Something from the dishes breaks, while you are trying to glue or replace, you start to be late with dinner, suddenly something is missing that should have been, and now you have nothing to eat. It annoys people, especially if they take skills in this area for granted and believe that the mind is not needed for such a job. Experiment and guess how much time it actually takes to complete these tasks, then multiply that time by three to figure out how long it actually takes if something goes wrong. And everything happens in life.
- Budget small personal rewards for tasks you don't like. It can be something small, like a pack of gum, or intangible, like time to play at the computer. Or, just add a dollar to your piggy bank until you save up for something big you want. Small personal rewards make it easier to motivate yourself to do what you need to do, but you really don't want to. Or if you finished your household chores earlier than planned, put a "time note" in your piggy bank so that you can save up a few and spend half a day playing games or other activities.
10 Be happy! Anger explodes quickly. Remember the angry mom? The thought of this is terrifying! Happiness is an effective tool for your household and will bring peace to your home.
11 Show respect. When a child does something good - gets high marks at school, masters a new skill, etc.) - tell him that you are proud of him. Recognize the contributions of other family members, no matter how large or small.

Tips

Don't worry about your masculinity. Those who condemn or ridicule your new lifestyle are irrational and narrow-minded.
Laugh and joke - positive thinking is critical!
Remember: you strive for success in the same way as in a regular job.
Tell your family "I love you"
Find a balance between childcare and household responsibilities.
Organize your activities. One of the most wonderful aspects of this role is that there is no boss over you, you are in charge of yourself. One of the hardest aspects of being a good boss for yourself. It is much easier to either constantly spread rot on yourself, expecting too much, or too little to do. The better you plan your time, the more time you have left for what you really want to do.
Learn to do a thorough cleaning.
Make friends and communicate with those who share your interests. Isolation is a big risk for any person who is constantly engaged in household chores. Find hobbies and entertainment, and through this - an interesting community and social contacts. It is very easy to get caught up in chores and childcare responsibilities, which will eventually lead you to a state of boredom and depression and desire, as well as a willingness to throw it out on your family.
One way to maintain emotional health is through cultural engagement. It is especially beneficial for men to attend exhibitions, concerts, read good books, and spend time at other cultural events. It will also give you knowledge to share with your children and food for interesting conversations with your spouse.
Be a good example.

Warnings

Don't play video games without completing your homework.It is better to finish it as early as possible, except that it does not require execution at a certain time, and the game is allowed while the laundry is being washed in the machine (if you use this time for the game).
Try to control your anger.
Don't put it off until later. Very quickly, the situation deteriorates rapidly, a lot of cases accumulate, and then it requires a lot more work. It's much better to do more as early as possible and enjoy other things for the rest of the day.
Do not think that you yourself know how to look after the household if you have never had such a practice!