How to deal with being replaced

Author: Joan Hall
Date Of Creation: 28 July 2021
Update Date: 1 July 2024
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Do You Fear Being Replaced ? Three Strategies to Break Through!
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Content

Sometimes you will be with friends. or you will have only one friend and someone else will agree to make friends. The company will go crazy with a newbie and start to ignore you. Before you know it, you will be forced out and you will experience a lot of pain. How can you avoid this and make new friends?

Steps

  1. 1 Accept that it can be really painful and you will be unhappy. You will wonder what is going on and may not find the answers. If it hurts you, heal yourself of the pain, but don't blame yourself.
  2. 2 Find out the reasons for crowding out. Think it over and try to draw the right conclusions. If you're being pushed out just because the newbie is cooler than you, then these people weren't your friends. If you had a conflict front the arrival of a newbie, then you may not stay with them. Another option, if they had to choose who to be friends with, then these are not the best friends that you could have. A true friend will never supplant you.
  3. 3 Do not be angry. Remember, if you are not accepted for who you are, then they simply perceive your person or pretend. If these people cannot keep the mask, then they must be inhospitable to people not like them, they like the mask better than you.
  4. 4 Don't be jealous of a newbie. Don't contact him if you don't want to. But always remember that it may be supplanted one day, and possibly by the same company. Just know that everything will happen as usual and this will be the best revenge.
  5. 5 Make new friends. Try to find out everything about them as much as possible and walk with them whenever possible. Look for people with whom you have something in common. Be yourself, don't let the horrible mask fool people. When you apply the mask, you doom yourself to repression again.
  6. 6 Resist your friend (optional). If you tell your friends how you feel about it, they may think about how they made it feel. Rest assured, you are not the type to be wrong.

Tips

  • Always remember that a true friend will always accept you as you are, no matter what happens. And he will never oust you. It's about quality and quantity, and have patience to wait for a real friend.
  • Spend more time with other friends and have fun without thinking about it.
  • In case the newbie is a really good friend, help him get used to the company and to to you.
  • Be confident in yourself.
  • If you're having trouble meeting new people, don't be afraid to connect with your family or acquaintances.
  • Talk to others about your pain. You can speak out to someone who will listen to you and leave your pain a secret.
  • Talk to a counselor, friend, or family member.
  • When looking for friends, base your personality traits first. If you like the same shows or clothes, that's great. But if you have the same sense of humor, views, and so on, then that's even better.
  • When you are overcome by jealousy and a desire for revenge, keep the principles above in mind.It is a matter of time until this person is ousted, you will find yourself with him in the same situation (or found yourself). This will be the best revenge, and you did nothing to get revenge.
  • If you are into art and it takes a long time to find friends? Then you can go back to work and use repression as a source of inspiration for poems, drawings, stories, and so on.
  • Remember the principle of 'what you sow is what you reap.' This will help you when you bump into a newbie or make friends.
  • People who cannot tolerate your persona are very superficial. Who wants to hang out with such people?
  • Find the best way to deal with it.

Warnings

  • Not play displacement yourself. You will descend to the level of those people who displaced you - this is not good and is not a solution to the problem. Be nice and accept everyone and spend time with your friends.

What do you need

  • Paper napkins
  • Self-confidence