How to tell your child where babies come from

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Method 1 of 3: Preparing for a Conversation
Method 2 of 3: Conversation
Method 3 of 3: Open communication
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The first conversation with a child about sex and reproductive function can be difficult. However, it is better for the child to find out about this from you than to receive incorrect information from their peers. Prepare for the conversation ahead of time, research various sources of information as needed, and be prepared for questions. If you prepare well for the conversation, the child will begin to understand what sex is, sexual orientation, and where babies come from.

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Method 1 of 3: Preparing for a Conversation

1 Think about what you want to talk about. You will need to talk to your child about various aspects of sex life, sexual orientation and childbirth, and there will likely be several conversations. You should consider in advance what you should tell your child first.
- What is the easiest thing for you to talk about? It is easier for some parents to talk about the technical side, while others do not know how to explain it correctly. Some parents are comfortable talking about relationships, consent, willingness to have sex, but others feel awkward. Think about what you can tell yourself without additional material.
- You should tell the child what you are comfortable discussing on your own and seek help from various sources of information in what is difficult for you to explain.
- Consider the age of the child. You should always answer your child's questions about their body, however, you may prefer to postpone talking about sex and having children under 10-12 years of age. Some questions may wait until the child reaches puberty. At the age of 10, you can explain to your daughter what menstruation is and what it is for, but it may be appropriate to talk about safe sex and sexually transmitted diseases a few years later.
2 Find sources of information. As stated above, you may need sources of information to discuss certain aspects of your sex life.
- Book How I was born (authors Katerina Janush, Mervi Lindman) will help parents explain to their child how children are born. If you do not know how to explain everything so that the child understands, you will find useful tips in the book.
- Look for information about not only the physical but also the emotional aspects of sex. When the child reaches adolescence, you can invite him to study this information on the Internet on his own.
- Check out the different opinions on how to conduct a conversation about sex with children.
- Ask your doctor for leaflets to help you prepare.
3 Remember that your child may already know more than you think. Many parents underestimate the amount of information a child learns about sex even in their early years. Try to be calm and not react emotionally if your child already knows something about the topic.
- If your child's school has a sexuality education program, find out what it said. Review the material the child brought home, but it is best to talk to the teacher and ask him to show the lesson plan.
- Even young children have an idea of what sex and sexual behavior are. Children receive information through television and other sources and discuss it among themselves. Older children can tell young children about things they don’t know, and the child can ask you to explain or confirm what the child has heard from others. Take such requests calmly.
- If the child says that he already knows something of what you are explaining, remain calm. The conversation should take place in a comfortable environment so that the child knows that you can ask questions. Monitor your reactions so that the child does not feel shame or fear.

Method 2 of 3: Conversation

1 Talk to your child about important things from time to time. You should be prepared to answer questions about sex throughout your child's life, but you should initiate conversations from time to time. This may be needed when the child reaches a certain age, when sexuality education begins at school, or when changes occur that will raise the child's many questions about sex, sexual behavior and childbirth.
- Tell your child ahead of time that you want to talk to him about sex and having children. Find the right words so that he doesn't get scared. You can put it this way: "You are getting older, so it's time for you to learn something that you don't already know about the adult world."
- It is best if your child hears about sex for the first time, so try to talk to him about it as early as possible. As mentioned above, think about which topics it is too early to touch on, but try to discuss all the most important before the age of 10.
2 Talk to your daughter about your period. Menstruation can begin as early as 10 years old, so you should prepare yourself for possible questions about this.
- The child should know what physical characteristics of the body are due to menstruation. An anatomical drawing of the female reproductive system can be used. If you are unsure of your knowledge of all processes, use supporting literature.
- Your daughter should know that she can and should come to you when her first period begins. You will be able to find the right hygiene products for her and help to cope with the emotions caused by the first bleeding.
- Your daughter may already know what menstruation is (or at least she's heard the word). You can ask her how many girls in the class have already started their periods and see what she says. Invite her to ask you questions during the conversation.
3 If you have a son, talk to him about erotic dreams, ejaculation, and erection. Children as young as 10 may not need to know about safe sex yet, but boys may have arousal and erections as early as 9 years old. Talk to your child about this as early as possible so that he knows that this is a natural part of the growing up process.
- Many boys have an idea of what an erection is, as they have seen it in other boys or heard rude jokes about it among their peers. Ask your child if he or she knows about an erection, and then explain what causes arousal, erection, and ejaculation.
- Boys need to understand that an erection is a hormonal response. This is a normal part of adolescence and the growing up process. You should talk to your son as early as possible, since in boys, the first ejaculation may occur in a dream during an erotic dream, which may make the child not understand what happened, or even get scared.
4 Don't be afraid of uncomfortable conversations. Many parents are embarrassed to discuss many issues when talking about sex and having children. However, it is better for a child to learn everything from you than from a teenager who does not have all the information himself.
- The most difficult topics should be postponed until the child reaches adolescence. At this time, many of his peers may begin to have sex life.
- On average, teens lose their virginity at 15, so create a family environment that allows your child to ask you questions about sex. You should discuss safe sex, contraception, sexually transmitted diseases, and oral sex with your child by this age.
- Talk about the emotional aspect of sexual relationships and sexual behavior. The child should understand that sex affects the emotional state, especially when the person is young. He should know that he should not settle for something if he is not emotionally ready yet.

Method 3 of 3: Open communication

1 Tell your child that he or she can come up to you with questions. It is important to maintain constant communication, since it will be impossible to cover all the issues in one conversation. Your child should know that he can ask you questions about sex, sexual behavior and childbirth.
- Remain calm during these conversations. If you can answer questions calmly and without judgment, it will be easier for your child to ask new questions in the future.
- The child should know that this conversation does not have to be the only one. At the end of the conversation, say this: "If you have questions in the future, do not hesitate to ask them."
- Give your child age-appropriate material to read. Invite him to read a brochure, article, or information on the site if there is too much information, and remind him that he may ask you questions.
2 Look for opportunities to talk about sex. Don't be limited to short answers to questions when a child has them. Look for opportunities to educate your child about sex in your daily life.
- Point out the pros and cons of sex and relationships in movies, TV shows, or the news. You can learn a lot about reproductive function from nature documentaries.
- Topics such as wedding, divorce, pregnancy and childbirth can raise questions. Always answer questions honestly and clearly. Remind your child that families are different and that this is normal.
- If you notice stains on the bedding (due to erotic dreams, masturbation or menstruation), use this as an opportunity to discuss some issues with your child. Don't judge the child. You don't want him to think that you are unhappy with him.
3 Promote healthy attitudes in your child about sex and relationships. In order for the child to have the necessary knowledge and not be ashamed of his body, try to form in him a healthy attitude towards sex life.
- If you have a spouse or partner, always treat him / her with respect and be gentle with him / her. Stop fights, but if a fight does happen, show the children how you make up. Children need to understand that petty fights are normal in romantic relationships.
- Sometimes children first learn about sexual relations when they accidentally stumble upon pornographic pictures or tapes of their parents. In some respects, pornography is a normal part of a couple's life, but children should not have access to it. Try to keep this material out of the reach of children.
- If you are a single parent, talk to your child about relationships. Introduce him to a new partner only when he is ready, and explain to the partner how he should behave in the presence of the child.

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