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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Recognizing Signs of Infatuation
• Method 2 of 3: Checking Your Compatibility
• Method 3 of 3: Revealing Deeper Feelings
• Tips
• Warnings

Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference between sympathy and the fact that you just like the idea of ​​a relationship with someone.Finding a great partner is the first step in figuring out how you feel about the person, and it's important to be honest with yourself.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Recognizing Signs of Infatuation

1. 1 Determine if you are returning from a date elated. One of the best ways to find out if you like a person is to spend time alone with them. If the conversation flows naturally, you laugh together, and after the date you feel satisfied and happy, this is a pretty clear sign of sympathy for the person.
   • If you feel uncomfortable around the person or seems aloof during a date, you may not have sparked between you.
   • Don't be discouraged if you feel like ending it all after a bad date. In the end, this will save you both time and effort.
2. 2 Think about whether you are happy when this person writes or calls you. If you immediately run to the phone when you receive a message and never miss his calls, this is a sure sign that you like him. No matter how busy you are during the day, you should be tempted to text him just so he knows what you think of him!
   • If he writes to you, but often you have no desire to answer or just have nothing to say, most likely, you see in him only a friend.
3. 3 Take note if things remind you of him. If you constantly come across things that remind you of a person, this is a good signal that you really like him. Pay attention to how many times a day you tell him something that is pleasant or interesting to him, and how often you tell your friends and family members funny facts or stories about him.
   • If you don't think about him much throughout the day, you may only need him to keep company when you are lonely.
4. 4 Spend time with other people to see if you miss him. Walking with friends or hanging out with your family can help you surround yourself with people you like and enjoy spending time with. If you want this person to be there at the moment or want to write to him and ask how he is doing, this is a sure sign that you are not indifferent to the person.
   • If you don't think about this person when you are around other people, ask yourself why. Perhaps you were too busy to think about him, or you only need him to brighten up your loneliness. Try to be honest with yourself about your feelings.
5. 5 Notice if he is the first person you write to when you receive good or bad news. Having someone to enjoy the good news with you and help you cope with the bad news is an important part of a relationship. If something serious happens in your life, pay attention to who you write or call first. If this is him, chances are you trust and respect him.
   • It's perfectly okay to make exceptions for people like your parents or the best friend you might turn to first. However, most likely, this person will be one of the first people you write to if something happens in your life.

Method 2 of 3: Checking Your Compatibility

1. 1 Find out if your values, interests, and desires are the same. Many people have stumbling blocks that indicate that they absolutely cannot date someone with whom they have different views on marriage, personal interests, and more. Ask the person you are dating about their values, hobbies, and future plans. This will most likely help determine your compatibility and identify possible problems.
   • For example, you might ask, "What do you value most in friendship?" or "What shouldn't be joking about?"
   • If convenient, you can ask more directly: "What do you expect from the relationship?" or "What does your ideal partner look like?"
   • Remember, details are very important.You might ask, "What do you like to do on the weekend?" or “What would you choose: a hike in the mountains or a trip to the sea?” to see if your common interests coincide.
   SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA

   
   
   Relationship Coach Jessica Ingle is a relationship coach and psychotherapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Founded Bay Area Dating Coach in 2009 after completing her Master's degree in Counseling Psychology. She is a licensed family and marriage psychotherapist and registered play therapist with over 10 years of experience.

   Jessica Engle, MFT, MA
   Relationship coach

   Spend as much time together as possible. Jessica Ingle, psychotherapist and director of the Bay Area Dating Coach, says: “When we start dating someone, we often make assumptions or idealize them. Both the good and bad news is that over time our fantasies about people prove to be wrong... The more we see and communicate with a person, the better we know what he really is and how we really relate to him, and not to our idea of ​​him. "

   
   
2. 2 Touch his arm or shoulder to test your physical attraction. It's hard to be in a relationship with someone if you don't have physical attraction to them. By gently touching his hand, you will know if he is comfortable with you. In addition, you will understand how you feel during intimacy. If you have no desire to touch the person, you might be better off being friends.
   • If you touch a person and he seems uncomfortable, this is a clear signal that he is not ready for a relationship.
   • Listen to your gut feelings and intuition when it comes to physical attraction. If you have no desire to touch or be around a person, this is a sure sign that you don't like him.
3. 3 Think about whether you are attracted to his personality and value his opinion. There are a large number of outwardly attractive people in the world, but in addition to physical compatibility, it is a great luck to find someone whose opinion is important to you. If a person's kindness and intelligence are the first things that come to your mind when you think of them, this is a good sign that you like them the way they are.
   • There is nothing wrong with finding an outwardly attractive person if you are interested in his personality and mental qualities. If the only thing you can think of is his body, chances are you are experiencing a feeling of lust that will evaporate over time.

Method 3 of 3: Revealing Deeper Feelings

1. 1 Discuss your feelings with someone you trust. Set aside time to talk with a close and trusted friend or family member. Sometimes a person from the outside can bring more clarity to the situation, because he is not involved in it. Tell him about the feelings you have around that person, and ask him what he thinks about it.
   • It is better to choose a friend who does not know the person in order to avoid possible scandals or disclosure of secrets.
   • Try not to get upset if a friend says something unpleasant that you might not want to hear.
2. 2 Ask yourself if you are afraid of being alone. Many people find it difficult to come to terms with the idea of ​​loneliness, even for a short period of time. If you don't like spending time alone and are looking for someone to keep you company, then your feelings may not be real. If you've just moved to a new city and don't have any friends, you may be just looking for a companion.
   • If you want to deal with it, learn to enjoy being alone. Sometimes this is the best way to find out if you like someone, because being alone gives an idea of ​​how you feel without that person.
3. 3 Learn to talk about your feelings of jealousy. In many cases, jealousy is a sure indicator of whether you like a person or not.Feelings of jealousy can be unpleasant and overwhelming. If you get upset or angry when this person is spending time with someone they might be romantically interested in, that could be a clear sign that you really care.
   • Jealousy is sometimes helpful, but it can quickly develop into control over your partner. Try not to get too upset if the person you like is spending time with other people, because most likely they are thinking about you!
   • If you have had problems with jealousy in the past, or if you feel your anger is spiraling out of control, consider learning how to deal with jealousy before starting a relationship.

Tips

• Always be yourself and be honest with someone you like. Be real yourself, don't wear masks.
• Try to be casual at the beginning of the relationship so that you don't hurt anyone. Take your time and get to know the person well before making any serious commitments.

Warnings

• Don't end your friendship with someone if you decide you don't want to date them. Give him freedom, but also show that you hope to remain friends.
• If you are in doubt about your attitude towards a person, try to respect his feelings and do not mislead him by promising to date him.