Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Work on yourself
• Part 2 of 3: Find yourself a girlfriend
• Part 3 of 3: Show the girl that you are interested in her
• Tips
• Warnings

If you're shy, it's not easy to start dating a girl. As for shy people, it is more likely that they will not ask the person out at all than that that person will refuse. Fortunately, there are many ways to boost your self-esteem and confidence, ask a girl out on a date, and get her to start dating you.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Work on yourself

1. 1 Get started! Try to feel comfortable around other people. You won't be able to be confident until you start to feel comfortable around strangers.Therefore, you need to start working on how you communicate with others. Then you will most likely start to feel more confident and less shy. So, try making the following changes:
   • Refresh your wardrobe. Throw away all the old, worn out clothes that you have grown out of and that are out of fashion a long time ago.
   • Watch yourself. If your facial hair is growing, come up with something with it or start shaving every day. Also, keep your hair clean at all times, especially on the back of the neck and behind the ears.
   • Get in shape. If you are very shy because you don't like your body, take the time to fix it. Run a couple of times a week or join a gym. Believe me, very soon you will start to feel better physically and become more confident in yourself!
2. 2 Monitor your posture and body language. Poor posture immediately makes you feel shy and squeezed. Straighten your back, look forward, extend your arms to the sides and down, smile if you like. Observe other people: how they stand, how they walk, watch their body language. Pay special attention to the behavior of people you admire, who you find attractive and successful.
   • Try not to hunch over.
   • Don't fidget, grip your hands, or keep them in your pockets all the time.
   • Watch your hands as you walk.
   • When talking to people, do not cross your arms and do not assume any "defensive" postures.
3. 3 Learn to be polite and behave like a gentleman. Being rude and rude will only alienate the girls you like. Instead, learn good manners and try to act like a real man. Not only will this help you feel more confident, but it will also keep the girls interested. In addition, if a girl sees that you are polite to other girls, it will be a signal for her that you are a good guy, and perhaps she wants to become your girlfriend.
   • Keep the door open when needed.
   • Listen carefully to the girl and do not interrupt her while she is speaking.
   • Be nice to people who are kind to you.
   • Let her choose.
   • Don't be too annoying.
4. 4 If you don't have a natural sense of humor, work on it! Humor helps you relax in a tense situation. If you're not good at jokes on your own, try developing a sense of humor so you can use it in awkward situations. Try to work out for yourself:
   • Situational humor - humor, thanks to which you can get out of an awkward situation and draw attention to its absurdity.
   • Self-humor is incredibly useful, especially if you're confident. If you doubt yourself and are afraid to get nervous, it is best not to resort to humor.
   • Do not get carried away with dirty jokes, do not joke about religion and politics, about other people. Such a sense of humor may not be appreciated, and you will seem rude and mean.
5. 5 Chat with girls in a friendly manner. You need to gain experience with girls, even if you are just friends. Make friends with one of the girls with the intention of just chatting and being friends. Have fun, spend time together, get to know each other. You need to understand how girls think, how they act, how their behavior differs from that of guys.

Part 2 of 3: Find yourself a girlfriend

1. 1 Improve your communication and dating skills. Practice will help you avoid common mistakes when dating, communicating, flirting, and meeting. That way, when you find a girl you really like, you can be much more confident. So try the following points:
   • Flirt with the girls you meet at the bar.
   • Smile at the girl on the street.
   • Meet the girl at the bar, chat, and then return to the friends you've been with.
   • If you know that the girl is unlikely to be happy with your flirtation, you should not flirt with her.
2. 2 Find yourself a friend in your social circle. Chances are, among the people you hang out with, there are girls you might like. These can be your friends and acquaintances or friends of your friends. If you think you like a certain girl, consider showing her your liking.
   • Don't be afraid to show your interest in her.
   • If you are refused, accept the refusal politely. You don't want to ruin your reputation among friends and acquaintances.
   • Think with your head and do not flirt with girls who clearly do not like your flirting.
3. 3 Try dating online or through a website. Dating sites can be a great chance to find yourself a girlfriend. One of the advantages of such sites is that the girls with whom you will communicate are free, they are also looking for relationships. The tricky part is finding someone you like and who will like you.
   • Don't be discouraged by rejection. Remember, the sea is full of other fish.
   • Sign up on multiple dating sites.
   • Be honest about who you are and what you want.
4. 4 Think about where you could meet a girl. Spend time there. This can be any place where there are a lot of girls and where you feel comfortable enough - this is enough for a start. Think about which place is best for you: a public place (where there is music, various performances are held) or a secluded place for quiet conversation. So, get out of the house and try to have a good time!
5. 5 Try not to sound nervous or indecisive. When looking for a girlfriend, try to be confident and not nervous. Otherwise, the girls will feel your insecurity, and this can alienate them. Plus, guys who are always staring at girls and walking around them seem too intrusive to girls.
6. 6 Force yourself to start a conversation with the girl. When you're trying to get social and find a girl, don't back down because of your shyness! You have to force yourself to talk to as many girls as possible. This will help you not only hone your communication skills, but also meet many different girls. You will soon realize that shyness is a thing of the past!
7. 7 While you are single, try to date and interact with girls as often as possible. Perhaps because of your shyness, you convinced yourself that you don't need it now for one reason or another. But this is a trap, because while you are not dating anyone, your communication and flirting skills may gradually deteriorate and your shyness may become stronger. So try to connect with every girl you like.
   • Do not be discouraged if you are refused.
   • Try to arrange at least a couple of dates a month.
   • Try not to date multiple girls at the same time. Of course, it's perfectly okay to schedule a couple of dates a month even at around the same time, but if you're asking a girl out on a second or third date, it's best to stick with that girl and not date others until you're ready for a new relationship.
8. 8 Don't look for the “perfect” girl. Because of our shyness, we come up with an excuse for ourselves that we do not communicate and do not date girls just because we have not yet met the "perfect" one, good enough for us. This is a bad excuse. You won't understand a person's strengths and weaknesses until you talk to them and get to know them better (this can take several dates).
   • Therefore, chat and date with as many girls as possible.
   • Don't let the idea of ​​"perfection" get in the way of dating and flirting.
   • Trust me, you don't get to know a person until you spend time with them.

Part 3 of 3: Show the girl that you are interested in her

1. 1 Show the girl your sympathy, tell her about it. The best way not to get directly into the "friend zone" is to initially show the girl your romantic mood.When you're convinced that she also feels sympathy for you, tell her how you feel.
   • Tell her that you want to get to know her better.
   • Compliment her for looks or other qualities.
   • Find out her phone number and give her yours.
2. 2 Try to show her your interest with non-verbal cues. This is one of the ways to figure out the relationship and understand how the girl will react to the fact that you ask her out on a date. Try not to overdo it. You need to figure out very quickly if she likes you. So:
   • Look the girl in the eyes and smile. This will show your interest and respect for her, and she can reciprocate you.
   • If the girl accepted your look and smile, gently touch her back, accidentally touch her hand. Such unobtrusive gestures demonstrate your affection and interest, give her the opportunity to reciprocate you.
   • If your attempts to get closer to her are ignored, it is worth stopping. The girl may mistake your persistence for sexual harassment or stalking.
3. 3 Talk to her. Talking to a girl is the best way to improve communication. Find out what you have in common, smile at her, and tell her something about yourself when she says something interesting that you might have to do with. Don't try to pretend to be someone you are not. You may think that you will like her if you behave the way she wants you to behave, but in the end, she will understand everything anyway.
   • Listen to her carefully.
   • Don't brag.
   • Avoid vulgar comments and jokes that offend other people, and don't try to look your best at the expense of others.
4. 4 Ask her out on a date. The best way to overcome shyness and find a girl is to simply ask her out on a date. Anything else is unlikely to lead to the fact that you start dating. So here are some examples:
   • Tell her that you want to take her out for coffee or lunch to get to know her better.
   • Set up your first date somewhere where you can talk and get to know each other better. For example, you can go out for coffee or have a picnic in the park.
   • Try to ask her out as early as possible. If you delay too long, in the end, you may remain just her friend.
5. 5 Call her the day after your date. Be sure to call her either the next day, or the same day, but in the evening. This conversation is key to taking your relationship to the next level. Plus, it's an opportunity to ask her out on a date again. So what you need to do:
   • Have a little chat with her in messages after talking.
   • Compliment her and tell her that you had a great time.
   • Tell her that you would like to meet again.
   • Make a second date
   • Do not text or call her immediately after the date (unless she text you first, or if you have not agreed to do so in advance). You don't want to sound too intrusive.
6. 6 On a second date, try to get to know each other better. The second date should be easier because you've already learned a little about each other. On the second date, you should enjoy each other's company while continuing to talk about yourself and learn about her. Remember that communication is the best way to go from “maybe” to “meet”:
   • On a second date, you can invite her to dinner and a movie (not just a movie!). You can continue to get to know each other over lunch or dinner, and then watch a movie together.
   • Take a walk around the city. You can walk in beautiful places (on foot or by car) - this is a good way to spend time together and share your impressions.
   • Try not to rush into the relationship. It is still not very tactful of you to invite her to various vulgar films.
   • The third date should be similar to the second, but a little more intimate.
7. 7 Chat when you're not together. After a few dates, if your relationship is going well, chances are you will start dating. This does not mean that you have to be in touch every minute, but most likely, you will communicate every day or every other day.
   • Make sure the girl is also supportive.
   • If you want to be with her, always answer her phone calls and messages.
   • Try to build a deeper, stronger bond and trust from this communication.
8. 8 Continue to keep your communication level while you are dating. Play by your own rules, keep improving, try to get rid of shyness, work on self-confidence, and keep hanging out with girls until you are in a relationship and feel good about yourself. After all, this is one of your main goals. Do not give up!

Tips

• Don't compliment your girlfriend too much. Praising a girl is good, but if you do it too often, she may find it strange or intrusive.
• Don't tell your friends her secrets and other personal information that she shares with you. If she wanted to tell someone of her friends about it, she would share with them, not with you. Therefore, try to keep what she tells you secret.
• Do not express yourself in front of her if you are not sure that she will take it normally.
• Be honest and straightforward with her. Girls appreciate being honest when you tell them how you feel.
• Remember, guys don't have to look like Brad Pitt to start dating a girl. Don't think of yourself as a freak, pay attention to the guys of other attractive girls, and you will realize that none of them are perfect.
• You are beautiful on your own. It is you, not someone else.
• Remember that girls show their sympathy pretty quickly. If you feel like you can't find anyone you like yet, move on!
• Don't overdo it with flirting. Girls may not like this.

Warnings

• Don't chase her! Otherwise, the girl will get scared and lose interest in you!
• Be patient and try not to ruin anything!