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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Start talking vulgarity
• Method 2 of 3: Be as specific as possible
• Method 3 of 3: Speak obscenities wisely
• Tips

Dirty talk is a great way to bond with your partner and take your relationship in bed to the next level. To master obscenities, you should gradually try to use them in an intimate setting and learn to feel comfortable in doing so. Talk about your movements in bed in a provocative manner. With a little practice, you can add more passion to your intimate relationship with lewd words.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Start talking vulgarity

1. 1 Work on your voice. Before you start talking dirty words, change your tone of voice a little so that it sounds more conducive to a sexual conversation. Try to speak slowly and softly. Don't use the same tone of voice you're asking if he or she took out the trash; find notes of sexuality in it.
   • Keep in mind that according to research from Albright College, women are better at deliberately adjusting their tone of voice in an erotic manner than men. So men are better off speaking in a normal voice.
   • Don't assume that the perfect tone of voice for obscene words will appear right away. Experiment. The more you practice, the easier and more comfortable it will be in the future.
2. 2 Start with gentle sounds. Before going directly to obscenities, let out groans and sighs, demonstrating the pleasure you are getting. If so, then great! If not, try adjusting to the situation with your voice, using it in the same way you use your body in the bedroom.
   • Encourage your lover to make sounds as well if he is still silent; you don't have to do it alone.
3. 3 Give some compliments. Start small. Tell your lover how great he looks or how good he is in bed. Just say, "You look amazing without a shirt" or "It's so good to be with you now." You can compliment some part of his body, such as "Your arms are so muscular" or "I can't get enough of your legs." Just let your lover feel sexy.
4. 4 Start using soft, vulgar language. Take a step forward by initiating lewd conversation. This does not mean that you have to say any words from a porn movie. This means you can start talking about how much pleasure you are having and what needs to be done to achieve a PG-13 movie pleasure rating. Here are some phrases.
   • "I want you so much."
   • "I wanted you all day."
   • "You smell so good."
   • "I've been looking forward to this moment."
   • "You look so sexy now."
   • "You always know what turns me on."
5. 5 Don't think of it as a performance. The easiest way to feel uncomfortable is to try to use dirty words as if you were playing for the audience. There is no correct way to pronounce obscene words; you must be sincere in expressing your feelings. Don't say what you don't want to say and what makes you uncomfortable.

Method 2 of 3: Be as specific as possible

1. 1 Tell: "I love it when you (verb) mine (body part)." This is the perfect formulation of the desired action that will definitely turn your partner on. There are many verbs and body parts you can insert into this phrase to turn your partner on. Here are some easy options, although you can use more intimate phrases:
   • "I love it when you kiss my neck."
   • "I love it when you touch my thighs."
   • "I love it when you lick my ear."
   • "I love it when you stroke my back."
   • Of course, you can change the places of the words used.For example, such a sentence can be changed into: "It's so nice when you (the verb) are my (part of the body)."
2. 2 Play the game. Describe what is happening and how exactly it happens. Imagine yourself in the shoes of a sports commentator, and you and your lover are the only players on the team. Just say “I love it when…” or “It's so nice when…” and add the action you want to add more fun to what is happening. Talking about what's going on in the moment will make you feel twice as good. Here are some of the phrases you can say:
   • "I love being on top."
   • "I love to watch you take off your shirt."
   • "I love kissing your neck."
   • "I love to strip for you."
3. 3 Ask if your lover likes what you are doing. During caresses and touches to him, ask if your lover likes what you are doing. You don't have to constantly ask, "Do you like this?" Instead, try to combine words with the process by asking your lover if he / she likes your actions. Here are some of the phrases you can say:
   • "Do you like it when I touch you here?"
   • "Do you like it when I kiss you like that?"
   • "Do you like it when I stroke you here?"
4. 4 Talk about how excited you are. Don't be afraid to tell your lover how good you are with him. Even the simple phrase “I'm so horny” can have an effect. Your partner will definitely get excited about this phrase. You can voice specific information about how you are now feeling, and even demonstrate intimate body parts as evidence.
5. 5 Continue to combine words with actions. When pronouncing vulgarities, remember that each time you need to look for new words to turn on your partner. Do not use one well-worn phrase, but use your verbal arsenal to the maximum. Try to be as resourceful as possible.
   • You should not be corny to tell your lover that you are good, tell in which part of the body you feel good. Your partner should definitely find out that you are so horny that you can feel it even with your fingertips.
6. 6 Tell him about your sexual fantasy. Sexual fantasies are a great occasion for lewd conversation. Tell your lover about your most perverted sexual fantasy. Talk freely about your fantasies if you're comfortable with each other. Tell your lover everything you've ever wanted to do and see if it turns him on.
   • Proceed with caution. If this is truly a perverse fantasy, then it's worth making sure that you and your lover are really comfortable with each other before you start talking about her.
7. 7 Tell your lover about your orgasm. Just tell him that you are having an orgasm or that you can feel him coming. This will excite both of you even more, and will add even more pleasure when it does.
8. 8 Give orders to your lover. Don't be afraid to slightly dominate him. Tell her / him exactly what he has to do with you and watch him fulfill your wishes. You can start simple, “Take my shirt off” or “Take off my pants,” and get imaginative as you make love.
   • Don't be afraid to be a little aggressive. Play the role of his boss and tell him exactly what your partner should do with you.
   • You can give orders in turn. Be the adamant boss first, then become submissive and fulfill your lover's wishes.

Method 3 of 3: Speak obscenities wisely

1. 1 Make sure you and your partner are comfortable while pronouncing obscene words. Although vulgarity is an enjoyable part of sex play for many couples, not everyone is comfortable with it. You shouldn't force your partner if he doesn't like it. By being overly persistent, you provoke your partner to do it for show, but he will not really be aroused.
   • Also, it's okay if your partner likes the dirty words you say but doesn't say them back. If you like to say dirty words only if your partner responds in kind, then it may make sense to completely refuse to communicate at this level. However, it is perfectly acceptable to use vulgarity in bed, even if it is a one-sided game.
2. 2 Set boundaries. While you and your partner will not explicitly discuss this the first time you use lewd words in bed, boundaries still need to be set. Of course, your first hints of vulgar conversations in bed will start spontaneously, but at some point, both of you should make it clear which words may be unpleasant to you.
   • You shouldn't stop and get angry if your lover tells you something unpleasant during sex. Just say, "Please don't say that anymore." If he does not listen to your requests, then in this case, you can interrupt the process.
   • If you're too embarrassed to say what you don't like right now, then do it after sex. Make sure your lover hears you.
3. 3 Don't confuse the sex game with your everyday life. Do not take seriously the things that your lover says during sex play. If your girlfriend / boyfriend allows you to say certain phrases in bed or call her / him in certain words, then this does not mean that you can call her / him that in everyday life.
   • Note that you and your lover take on certain roles in bed, but these roles may not represent your relationship in reality.
4. 4 Choose your words wisely. Use common sense when it comes to obscenity and avoid using words that might offend your partner until both of you have set boundaries. Start small and watch your partner's reactions. This will help you understand what he / she likes and what doesn't. You don’t want to ruin the person’s mood or hurt by saying something derogatory or offensive.
5. 5 Watching porn will help you adopt dirty talk ideas. If you want to talk dirty in bed, but feel confused, watch porn and expand your vocabulary of obscenities. Of course, dirty talk in porn is usually quite extreme, and that's not what you want to hear, but it can give you some ideas.
   • If you're comfortable enough together, try watching porn with your lover. From porn, you can get some ideas and get aroused while watching. Try to comment on the words and phrases the actors say and talk about what you like and what you don't.
6. 6 Stay who you are. Although dirty talk is just part of a sex game that has nothing to do with reality, you should always be yourself. At the same time, your voice should sound natural, with only a slight addition of sexual undertones. The more you are yourself, the more comfortable you will be in unleashing your potential in using dirty words.

Tips

• Obscenity shouldn't be hard. Just start thinking about what you like about your partner and then tell him what you think about. This is a good start that will lead you to a hot ending.
• Remember that dirty phrases are only appropriate when you have mutual feelings for each other. You will look like a pervert if you want to use obscene words on your first date.
• Not sure which words to choose, or are you still feeling awkward? Dirty phrases should not include bad words. Try just moaning to let your partner know how good you are. Or try something as simple as "Oh yes!" or "I love it when you do that." The changes in your voice will do the trick.