Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Make a good impression
• Part 2 of 3: Create a satisfying experience without words
• Part 3 of 3: Build Your Self-Esteem

Although you cannot force others treat you well, yet by your behavior you can win people over to you. Follow the "Golden Rule of Morality": "Treat people the way you want them to treat you." Through this, you will win the love and respect of others.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Make a good impression

1. 1 Be yourself. If you are sincere and honest, you are more likely to be attracted to you.
   • Being yourself means staying sincere and honest despite changing conditions and circumstances. Of course, there is nothing wrong with experimenting and trying something new in order to determine whether you like it or not. Most importantly, you must feel harmony and comfort within yourself.
2. 2 Be humble in your interactions with others. Few people like to communicate with a narcissistic and arrogant person. If you learn to appreciate other people, they will treat you better.
   • Very often we try our best to impress the person we want to please. Instead of posing as someone you are not, be honest when you talk about yourself. However, don't focus all your attention on yourself. Show the person that you value them. You can do this if your interlocutor is the central figure of the conversation.
   • Learn to generalize what the other person is saying. This will show that you listened to it. He will definitely appreciate it.
3. 3 Call the person by name. Remember that a person's name is the most pleasant and important word for him.Calling someone by their first name can help you build a relationship with them very quickly.
   • By calling the person by name, you show that you respect and value them. This will help you make a good impression.
   • If your interlocutor has a rather difficult name, ask him to help you learn how to pronounce it correctly. Do not be shy. Your interlocutor will be grateful to you, since by such actions you will show your interest in him.
4. 4 Learn to empathize with others. You can attract people to you if you are open and kind to them.
   • Empathy brings people closer together. Showing empathy can help strengthen relationships.
   • Show your approval. In life, we are faced with different people and situations. If you want to win the person's acceptance, be supportive when needed. Also, show appreciation and show your approval.
   • Be polite and considerate. Exercise good manners.
   • Don't correct people when they are wrong. If your friend shares his problem with you, ask questions that will help him make the right decision. This will make your friend appreciate you even more. Ask open-ended questions starting with the words "how" or "why". Such questions will make the person think.
5. 5 Give others and find joy in it. Learn to show kindness to others. Even if no one notices your good deed, continue to disinterestedly care for the welfare of others. This will make you feel better. Research shows that good breeds good. Hurry to do good - it will return to you a hundredfold. Plus, you will experience real happiness.
   • There are many ways to show kindness in everyday life. For example, you can donate clothes to the homeless. You can also help the elderly. You can also give way to a hurrying driver. The smallest kind deed, even a cup of coffee bought for a stranger, will bring joy to a person.

Part 2 of 3: Create a satisfying experience without words

1. 1 Smile! The person will feel more at ease seeing your kind expression.
   • Your smile must be genuine. Don't put on a forced smile.
2. 2 Lean forward. Your body position should demonstrate that you are interested in the interlocutor. This will show that you are a kind person who is pleasant to deal with.
   • Sit down slightly forward with your hands at your sides. Crossing the arms is a defensive and closed gesture.
3. 3 Listen carefully. Follow the conversation. Ask questions to show that you are interested in what the other person is talking about. This will give him the feeling that you can be trusted and will be able to share his thoughts with you. People love to be listened to.
   • The person will feel unique if you ask them personal questions.
   • "Play" a detective game, the purpose of which is to understand the essence of a person with the help of clues and clues. You will show your interest and be able to position your interlocutor.
4. 4 Maintain eye contact. Strive to maintain eye contact with the person you are talking to about 75% of the time. Of course, everything is fine in moderation, you should not look too closely at your interlocutor. Your goal is to show your interest.
   • You can look at the bridge of your nose or at your earlobe while maintaining eye contact.
5. 5 Ask a close friend how others perceive you. Although you may not be liked by everyone, you can still ask a friend how you look from the outside. Are you a friendly and open person or withdrawn and unfriendly? You might be surprised when you find out how other people perceive you.
   • For example, while listening to a person, you might stare at them. However, the person you are talking to may think that you are angry or unhappy with something.
   • You may be generous in helping your friends with your best intentions. However, your friends may perceive your actions differently. For example, by doing so, you can show that they are not able to solve their problems on their own. If you don't ask directly about it, you will never know what your friends really think about it.
   • Restrain your emotions. Be prepared to hear the truth. Don't be offended by your friend if they honestly tell you what your problem is.

Part 3 of 3: Build Your Self-Esteem

1. 1 Learn to respect yourself. If you respect yourself, you are more likely to be loved and respected by others.
   • Be confident, kind, and sincere.
2. 2 Be kind to everyone. According to the theory of indirect reciprocity, your benevolent attitude will definitely return to you. Even if the person does not reciprocate your kind deed, someone else will certainly notice your benevolent attitude and change their opinion of you for the better. This will help you improve your self-esteem.
   • Treating everyone kindly does not mean becoming a "rag". You must be able to say no to people. However, do it tactfully and politely.
   • Be persistent and kind, even if you say no. Tell the person why you are rejecting them without going into too much detail.
3. 3 Continue to act kindly, even if you feel like the person is not affectionate towards you. If someone is disrespectful to you or offends you, remember that your perception is just a small part of the situation. You may be misinterpreting the person's actions. If you react negatively to a wrong assumption, then it can lead to even more negative.
   • For example, keep treating your coworker kindly even if they own your idea. Perhaps he was not having the best day and he just forgot to say that it was your brilliant idea.
   • Think about why the person treats you badly. Even if you cannot change the person's attitude, continue to be polite and considerate while doing the right thing from a moral point of view.
4. 4 Accept that you are not responsible for the actions of others. Of course, there are many things you can do to change a person's opinion of you. However, in some cases, people will treat you unkindly despite your kindness.
   • Oftentimes, the first impression depends on warmth and competence.
5. 5 Don't try to please everyone. You must learn to see the difference between when you need to be nice to someone and when you are expected to do good things. Remember, you don't have to please everyone.
   • Don't try to win the approval of others all the time by doing something nice for them. Spend your time wisely. Thanks to this, not only you, but also other people will respect you.
6. 6 Stop "toxic" relationships. Sometimes, regardless of how friendly you are with the person you want to make your friend, your attempts may not be successful. Most likely, this person will not become your best friend, since he is not ready to change his behavior. Connect with people who will support you and whose company you feel good about. End relationships with toxic friends.
   • Observe how your friend treats you. Does he humiliate you in front of others? Does he make stinging jokes at you? How do you feel in the presence of this person? Are you curious or bored with your friend? If you are not happy with this person, chances are they may not be your best friend.
   • End the relationship. Don't look for opportunities to continue your relationship. Make an effort to build a strong friendship with someone who is worthy of your friendship.
   • Be friendly, polite, and kind if you have to date this person. Never speak ill of him to other people.