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Your low self-esteem affects all areas of your life. It makes it difficult to feel happy and happy. You can overcome your inferiority complex if you really try hard. It will not be successful overnight, you will need to spend a lot of time and effort but the results you get will be extremely worthy.

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Part 1 of 6: Improve your self-confidence

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   Identify thoughts, feelings, physical signs and behaviors related to your low self-esteem. A lot of people confuse these thoughts, behaviors, and feelings as personality traits. However, negative thoughts are completely different from your true personality. These types of thoughts, feelings, physical signs and behaviors are like "symptoms" of an inferiority complex.
   • Recognizing those symptoms will help you figure out which thoughts, feelings, and behaviors you need to change.

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   Listen to your inner voice. When the following thoughts happen, it is like you can hear the voice inside your mind. These thoughts often appear unconsciously, almost like a reflex.
   • I'm too weak / not clever enough / not smart enough.
   • I hope they won't think I'm a dumb.
   • I'm too fat / skinny / old / young / etc.
   • All are my fault.
   • I think I need to finish the job perfectly.
   • The boss doesn't like his report. Surely I was a kid who completely failed at work.
   • Why meet new people? After all, they don't like me.

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   Determine how you feel about yourself. Emotions, like thoughts, are often rooted in inner voices, which do not truly reflect reality.
   • I feel extremely ashamed when my boss doesn't like my report.
   • I'm extremely angry with myself because my boss doesn't like my report.
   • I am very frustrated because my boss criticized me. He never liked whatever he did.
   • I feel anxiety / panic when I'm with strangers because they may be thinking about how fat I am.
   • I'm not strong enough to compete so I won't give it a try.
   • I feel worried almost all the time.

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   Looking for physical signs is linked to a lack of confidence. Here are a few of the symptoms that prove you are self-conscious.
   • I can barely sleep.
   • I always seem tired.
   • My body is always tense.
   • When I meet a stranger (or when I am in an uncomfortable situation):
     • I sweat like a shower.
     • The whole room was spinning.
     • I can not breath.
     • My face is red.
     • I felt my heart leap out of my chest.

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   Evaluate your behavior to see if your low self-esteem is affecting your life. If you find that at least one of the following behaviors is true for you, your self-esteem is probably having a bigger impact on your life than you might think.
   • I don't hang out / I don't like meeting people.
   • I have trouble making a decision.
   • I feel uncomfortable expressing my thoughts or opinions.
   • I don't think I can afford a new job, even if I get a promotion.
   • I get upset easily.
   • I argue with people a lot.
   • I defended and yelled at my own family.
   • My friend always calls me "Cat" and I don't like it at all, but I'm afraid if I say it, she won't be friends with me anymore.
   • I'm too shy to be able to have sex.
   • I have sex even when I don't want to.
   • Everything I do needs to be perfect.
   • I still eat even when I'm full.
   • I cannot eat more than one meal a day or I will be obese.

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   Identify your negative thoughts. Whether you realize it or not, your thoughts are trapped in a circle of inferiority. In order to feel better, you should determine when such thoughts will arise, and find a way to overcome them. There are a few typical negative thoughts you can become familiar with, so if you come across some of them, you can aim to eliminate them.

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   Don't be a nag, bluster, or curse. Imagine that you have a "friend" with you who is constantly scolding you. He or she curses you badly, says that everything you are doing is not right, you will never get anything and you are not likable at all. Did that break you down?

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   Avoid being a person who attracts everything. Such people often take a mistake, which they make when they don't do things as they should, or something unfavorable and generalize into their entire lives.
   • For example, if a person accidentally stepped on the pothole, she might have thought, "Why is something like this always happening to me? I must be cursed. I never had any luck. both ".

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   Oppose the desire to compare yourself to others. Comparative people often feel that is never enough because they are constantly comparing themselves to others and believe that everyone around them is better than them.
   • For example, a comparator would say, "Look. My neighbor has a pickup. I'll never be able to afford one. I'm a loser. lose".

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    Avoid the voices that make you a pessimist. Pessimists often make claims about their entire life based on just one incident.
    • Pessimists may think, "I got a B instead of an A. Now I will never find a job."

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    Remember that you are not someone who can read people's minds. Such people often assume that people are thinking badly of them. In fact, we really don't know what other people are thinking.
    • Mind readers tend to make assumptions about other people's thoughts or why someone is doing something, and they always think in a negative way: “The other person is looking I stare. He must be thinking he is a freak.

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    Commit to eliminating negative thoughts. With all the negative thoughts you put in your mind, it's no surprise you have such a lack of confidence. If you find yourself having negative thoughts, go against them. Doing that takes time and effort, because changing a habit is not easy. Taking it in small steps will be very helpful.
    • It's much easier to take small steps and get into the habit of being nice to yourself by thinking positively.

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    Distinguish between opinion and reality. Sometimes it is difficult to discern what is an opinion and what is a reality. Often their secret thoughts are all opinions, even though we still believe it to be true.
    • The truth is undeniable, like "I'm twenty-two years old". You have a birth certificate to prove it.
    • The point of view is not irrefutable, such as "I am stupid".
    • This can be completely refuted. Some people think it's not possible and they'll give proof of times when they feel stupid, like "I'm stupid, when I was 8, I fell off the stage".However, as one learns about these experiences, one can learn something new, like:
      • If an adult is responsible for supervising the project, that person should consider your safety.
      • No one in the world is perfect and everyone will make mistakes. Even Einstein admitted that he sometimes gets confused. This shows that no one is really stupid just because they make a mistake. Because geniuses also make mistakes. Not just once or twice, but many times.
    • Even if you've been through negative self-support, you have had good experiences when you make the right decisions and do smart things.
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Part 2 of 6: Using journaling to boost confidence

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   Start journaling about your low self-esteem. Now that you know some of the reasons why you feel low in self-esteem, and your negative thoughts are the cause for them to last, you can begin the process of changing your beliefs about yourself. This process will be easier on the computer, you can rearrange things to make them meaningful without having to start over. The Excel spreadsheet template is a great way to organize your thoughts and give you plenty of room to experiment.

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   Find negative thoughts quickly. Watch for negative thoughts for a few days. You can write to your notebook, create text on your computer or iPad. Keep track of all the negative thoughts you realize they are for you. If you can't categorize them that's okay. Just write down all of those negative thoughts.
   • For example, one of the items on the list, "I will fail if I try to be a writer", would be related to the thought "Why bother? Anyway, no one likes it. But there's nothing special about it. All of them have been written by others ”.

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   Sort the list. Name the column "Negative thoughts". Write them down in descending order from the things that upset you the most to the things you feel least upset about. If you find that different types of thinking have similarities, put them in a group.
   • For example, the thought "I will fail if I try to be a writer" is at the top of the list. All relevant negative thoughts can be included, but the main opinion will serve as the title for this type of thought.

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   Find the source of each negative thought. Create a column next to the Negative Thought column and name it "Memories / Experiences related to this Thought". Someone or an experience may come to mind. Write it down. If not, leave it blank. Understanding what you've been through will help you understand why you felt that way.
   • For example, "My father said that I will fail if I try to be a writer."
   • Remember, if you remember someone giving you a negative comment, it's not true! That's their opinion, and you'll be able to find a way to disprove it.
   • Note: If this step is so frustrating that you find it difficult to function normally throughout the day or week, or makes it nearly impossible for you to continue, stop and seek help. from the expert.

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   Identify the emotions involved in each thought. In the next column, titled “How I feel about this thought,” write down any feelings you might feel related to the negative thought. This will help you realize that your thoughts influence your emotions.
   • For example, "It makes me want to give up."

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   Determine how you behave. In the next column, name it "What I do when I think and feel that way". Then try to think of a recent event that might help you see how you are behaving. Will you become quiet? Are you screaming? Are you crying? Do you avoid eye contact with other people? This will help you see how closely your thoughts and feelings are linked to your actions.
   • For example, "When I see writing competitions and invitations, I ignore them even though becoming a writer is more of what I want more than anything."

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   Adjust your thoughts. Now is the time to fight negative thoughts and experiences with positive ones, it will help you realize that negative thoughts will only hold you back and that you should stop believing the negative thoughts you have. for yourself.

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   Fight the negativity. Add a column to your diary, name it "Reality check". In this column, write down a strength, a good experience, a plus, or anything positive that fights your negative beliefs. If you find something to counter it, your negative beliefs will no longer have any value or influence in your life. The thought that you used to take as an unconditional law would no longer work.
   • For example, “I have published 5 poems, all over the world! Ha! See! I have also released 4 articles. That is not true at all. I will not fail. I have already succeeded! "

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   Implement positive action plans. In the last column, you can write what you know into action "What I will do now". For this column, give as many ideas as possible about what you plan to do from now on.
   • For example, “I will do whatever I can to make sure I succeed. I will go back to school for my master's degree. I will find out where I can write and publish articles, and I won't give up until I get the results I want. I will be looking for a writing job. I will participate in competitions. I won't stop until I win. ”

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    Focus on the positive aspects of you. Set aside a section in your journal (or a new card in a spreadsheet) to write down the positive things about yourself. Freely write or make a list of your positive traits. Anything that feels good about yourself and helps you appreciate who you are, what you have accomplished and how far you have come can be written on this page. You may choose to focus on some or all of the following:
    • Your achievements (in day, week, month, year).
      • This year, I saved the company seven million dollars.
      • Every day I spend time with my children.
      • I have learned to control my own pressure so I feel happy almost every day.
      • I have won an award.
      • Today, I smiled at someone I didn't know even though it wasn't easy for me.
    • Your personality and strengths.
      • I am a vibrant person.
      • My compliments are easy to hear.
      • I am a good listener.
      • I really know how to make the people I love feel special.
    • Your appearance
      • My favorite traits about myself are eye color, flat teeth, shiny hair and when I wear my favorite color (blue), it makes me feel great.
      • I have a friendly face and smile, everyone feels comfortable talking to me.
      • Someone told me today that I look beautiful!

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    Identify the areas in which you want to improve. It is important to identify what you want to improve on without over focusing on your strengths or weaknesses. Believing that we are weak or incompetent is, in a sense, another low-profile trap. Unfortunately, we all still have this self-deprecating thought.
    • Stop thinking about your shortcomings and instead think about areas where you want to improve, and just because changing them makes you feel good.
    • Setting goals for change is not just about correcting your mistakes, but about doing things that will make you more productive in life and have healthy relationships that will make you feel better. more confident and happier.

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    Write down areas where you want to improve. In the journal, create a new tab in your tablet or add a paper journal page, and name it "Areas I want to improve." Then write it down below it - "Because it will be. help I Feeling happy".
    • A few examples of improvement goals that don't focus too much on flaws include: I want ...
      • Manage stress more effectively
      • Try to organize your paperwork
      • Try to be more discouraged
      • Remember to do something I really love once a day and are not feel guilty about it.
      • Improve your parenting skills
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Part 3 of 6: Changing your relationships

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   Be with positive people. If you have negative thoughts in your mind, maybe the people around you are having the same negative thoughts about you, including close friends and family. As you work to improve your self-confidence, if possible, limit contact with people who regularly say negative things to you, whether they are close people or your colleagues.
   • Let's say that each negative statement from other people weighs 5 kg. If every negative thing weighs 5 Kg and you are surrounded by people who always humble you, eventually reviving yourself will become more and more difficult.
   • Releasing yourself from the burden of listening to and maintaining relationships with negative people will help you feel lighter because you won't have to bear the burden of negative comments, judgments or lack of good will. in treating you with respect from them.

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   More assertive. Learning how to be more assertive can help increase your self-confidence. Assertiveness helps encourage others to treat you with respect and this will boost your confidence. In short, assertiveness helps to prevent bad behavior from others affecting you as well as helps you communicate healthy with those around you. There are a few different strategies you can use to practice assertiveness:

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   Use the word "I" instead of "you". Instead of saying, "You didn't take out the trash last night," you can say, "I feel pretty annoyed that promises aren't being fulfilled."
   • The first statement can be seen as a criticism and makes the listener more defensive. The second statement is about sharing your feelings and letting the other person know that what they did made you feel that way.

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   Listen and be willing to compromise. Think about the person you are talking with emotionally and be willing to come up with an agreement that will please both parties.
   • For example, if your friend asks you to take him shopping, you could say, "I can't go right now, I have a class. But after I get back I can take you. is that ok? "

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   Consistent but not aggressive. You can say no explicitly, you can stand up for your rights without screaming or giving in. If you are having trouble reaching a general agreement, the Psychology Tools website suggests you use the "Split Minutes" method, so that you can maintain the calendar gesture. the tone and tone are easy to hear.
   • For example, if your local supermarket sells you a piece of meat that is not fresh and does not accept returns, you can say "I understand. But I still want a refund." If after a few tries you still don't get the result, you can say "If you don't want a refund, it's your decision. I'll call the Department of Health, even though I don't want to. have to do so. Which way is easier for both sides? "

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   Personal gender naming. It is your responsibility to make your loved ones, friends, as well as acquaintances and friends treat you the way you want to be. Some behaviors from others can have a direct effect on your confidence if you listen to it for long enough.
   • For example, if you decide that you don't want others to call you by an offensive nickname, you can let them know you don't like it and you will act if they don't stop: "I don't like it. you call me Short Legs. It makes me upset. I would be very grateful if you could stop. "
   • If the insults still don't stop, take action and talk to someone in authority who can help. If you work, file a harassment lawsuit. If you are a student, tell your parent, teacher or principal. If it's your friend, they may not realize their actions have upset you. Let them know how you feel.
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Part 4 of 6: Lifestyle improvements

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   Make time for yourself, even if you become a parent. Many parents often neglect themselves when caring for their children. The desire to focus on your children for the best possible growth environment is completely normal. However, if you stop concentrating and ignoring yourself, this can negatively affect the type of parent you want to target.
   • Parents are their children's teachers. In order for teachers to be effective in performing their responsibilities, they must have several areas of expertise. In addition, your personal habits can affect your kids, including good habits as well as bad habits.
   • Choosing to take care of yourself takes just a few minutes a day not only to increase your confidence, but also to be a role model for your children to follow.
   • If you don't have kids, taking care of yourself makes you feel better and it's worth the effort.

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   Choose healthy foods. Eating healthy foods may take some planning initially if you plan to make a whole lifestyle change. However, this can make busy and pressured people feel discouraged.
   • Instead of keeping a list of what you eat or what you should eat, choose healthy foods at each meal.
   • Avoid foods such as sweets, cakes, cakes, and pastries, as they can lead to headaches, provide no nutrients, can cause illness and increase calories.

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   Eat plenty of fruits, vegetables, lean meats and beans. See them as a source of essential energy and nutrients for your body that will help you keep up with work and take care of your children, protect your body from disease and extend life so you can have more. time with family.

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   Try to achieve a balanced diet. A balanced diet will provide the nutrients you need to keep you healthier and happier. Here are a few general guidelines for what to eat:
   • 1 serving of fruit or vegetable per meal. Green vegetables and fruits also provide protein, carbohydrates and fiber.
   • 1 serving of lean protein per meal (beans, lean meat, low-fat dairy). Beans and low-fat dairy will provide you with carbohydrates.
   • 2 servings of carbohydrates per day (sweet potatoes and whole oats are generally less processed and better than wheat seeds)
   • A little bit of healthy fats, like olive oil, canola oil, avocado and nuts will give you carbohydrates as well as healthy fats.

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   Meaning of your food choices. At each meal take some time and ask yourself why you want to absorb harmful foods into your body.
   • Some of the most common reasons for not following a healthy diet are:
     • There are not many nutritious foods available for sale.
     • Right now I am very hungry and I don't have time to cook a healthy meal.
     • Simply because I like it.
   • Having a small shopping plan can help prevent that from happening:
     • Buy ready-made salads, like lettuce and carrots, to make a quick salad.
     • Buy almonds or sunflower seeds for a quick boost in dietary fiber / protein / fats.You can eat them with salads for even more varied meals.
     • A variety of fruit can be carried, such as bananas and apples.

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   Stop craving for sweets. This may seem impossible for some people. Not only will we fall in love with sweets because they help calm our moods (like mother's chocolate biscuits), but once our bodies get used to a unhealthy diet, Processed foods like white sugar can wreak havoc on the hormones in your body, and you won't be able to resist the cravings for sweets. When you try to suppress the craving for sweets, this can make them feel like they can't control what we eat and it will impair confidence. If you are constantly craving sweets, here are a few ways to help you get rid of them:
   • Craving for sweets in the morning? Replace cakes, sugary cereals and coffee cakes with oatmeal porridge with stevia, cinnamon, fruit and milk. If you don't like oats (some people don't like pureed foods), you can try brown rice instead.
   • Need some sweets in the afternoon? Try dates and nuts.
   • Need an after-dinner dessert? Try two slices of dark chocolate (choose the least sugar) and peanut butter. Need a little sweeter? Melt the chocolate, mix with peanut butter and add a dash of agave or stevia. Still not sweet enough? You can mix in a little bit of raisins. To make the dish even more delicious, add a little grated coconut.

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   Be physically active. Taking time to go to the gym seems impossible for busy parents. No problem. You don't have to go to the fitness center to stay fit. You don't have to look like Atlas to have more energy, feel good, resist illness, and keep up with the demands of a busy life. There are active habits that only take you less than 10 minutes. You can do it every day because it doesn't require too much effort. Here are a few examples of effective exercise programs:
   • Daily Workout Free app: This is an app available on Itunes. https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/daily-workouts-free-personal/id469068059?mt=8
   • Chatelaine Ten Minute Fitness app: This is one of the best-selling apps in the world on Itunes. https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/chatelaine-10-minute-fitness/id643853756?mt=8
   • The 7 Min Workout Website: This site provides you with simple exercises and a timer for your 7 minutes of exercise. It's very fast, so you don't even have time to determine the number of minutes. Plus it also offers a 7-minute meal if you enter your full name and email address. http://www.7-min.com/
   • Warning: These exercises are quite short but still quite harsh. So it is better to consult your doctor if you have a special medical condition or if you are over 40 years old.

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   Dress properly. It may sound a bit weird, but brushing your teeth, showering, doing your hair, wearing comfortable clothing, manicures and general body care can help increase your confidence.
   • If you feel happy and try to maintain your look, know that you smell great thanks to your favorite perfume or your hair is soft, or your eyes look greener because you are wearing. a fancy green shirt can give you more confidence.
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Part 5 of 6: Seeking the right expert help

1. Seek professional help to help you build your confidence. If you have problems with confidence or want to see results quickly, consider seeing a professional. Effective counseling has been shown to have a significant effect on increased confidence.
   • You may also want help if during the journaling process you realize that there are problems that you cannot face, or if you are trying to deal with them, it takes a long time to come. to disrupt your normal life when you write about them.
   • Plus, if you have psychological problems such as depression, anxiety or other disorders, this can affect your confidence. Treatment for a psychological disorder can improve your quality of life.
2. Try cognitive behavioral therapy. Cognitive behavioral psychotherapy (CBT) has been shown to be effective in improving confidence. CBT therapy helps handle negative thoughts automatically. These thoughts are thoughts that come almost reflexively when faced with a certain situation in life.
   • For example, if a person who lacks confidence needs to review for exams, he or she might say "I don't know why I'm bothered. Anyway, I don't get an A".
   • When applying CBT therapy, a therapist, much like a counselor or psychologist, works with the client to change such beliefs automatically. The consultant may suggest testing a client's hypothesis - that is, they will fail no matter how hard they try to study.
   • Counselors can help clients manage time and pressure and track academic progress until he or she takes the test.
   • Other methods used in CBT therapy include relaxation methods (breathing exercises), visualization (psychological recurrence), and childhood experience exploration to identify the sources of negative thoughts. . This will help prevent the "relapse" lack of confidence.
   • CBT therapy is suitable for people without complex problems. In addition, CBT therapy is only suitable for treating certain disorders such as depression and anxiety.
   • CBT therapy may also be too rigorous for some people.
3. Seek psychodynamic therapy. With psychodynamic therapy, treatment plans are tailored to each person and their individual needs. During a psychodynamic session, the client is allowed to explore all the problems that arise that day. The expert will help clients find behaviors, thoughts and feelings related to that problem. Childhood issues and events are often explored to help clients see how influential past their present constraints and constraints are.
   • For people who have a complex problem or want a personalized plan tailored to their needs, psychodynamic therapy may be more suitable than CBT therapy.
   • Psychodynamic therapy is an effective method to be used for different conditions with different clients and a variety of problems.
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Part 6 of 6: Determining your inferiority complex

1. Understand low self-esteem. In short, confidence is how we feel about ourselves. Confidence means that we love and accept who we really are and feel satisfied with everyone almost always. Self-esteem means that we are not happy with who we are.
   • The Center for Clinical Intervention describes people with low self-esteem as "private, simple, negative thoughts about themselves. They often view these thoughts as facts about people and their values".
2. Evaluate your own confidence level. Knowing that you lack confidence is the first step in improving and overcoming that mental habit. Maybe you have low self-esteem if you tend to do the following:
   • Always criticize yourself.
   • Think of yourself in a negative way
   • Always compare yourself to friends or family and feel jealous because you think they're better than you.
   • Insult yourself and others with words.
   • Always make blaming, criticizing, or blaming yourself.
   • Think that if you get something done, it's all just luck.
   • Think that everything is your fault, even if it really isn't.
   • Think that if someone compliments you, that person is not being honest.
3. Know the possible effects of a lack of confidence. Lack of confidence not only affects your emotional state at a given moment, but can also have a lasting effect on your life.Understanding the effects of a lack of confidence will give you more motivation to improve your current outlook. Low self-esteem can lead to:
   • Accept abusive relationships because they feel they deserve it or not be treated better.
   • Bullying or mistreating others.
   • Afraid of setting a goal or dream because they don't think they can achieve it.
   • Become a perfectionist to make up for your shortcomings.
   • Always feel unnatural around others, too bothered to look or think people are thinking badly about them.
   • Constantly looking for signs that others don't like them or think badly of them.
   • That means they are a failure.
   • Feel less pressured.
   • Ignore personal hygiene or do unhealthy activities like drinking a lot of alcohol, smoking cigarettes or trying to kill yourself.
4. Identify the cause of your lack of confidence. Usually, low self-esteem stems from outside events. It starts when our needs are not being met, respond negatively from others, or think a negative event has occurred because of our fault.
   • For example, a child may blame themselves because their parents are divorced or a parent feels unable to help their child handle their feelings.
   • Children raised in poverty and ethnic minority children are often at high risk of lack of confidence.
5. Understand the confidence circle. When children (or adults) begin to wonder about who they are, someone else, or life events that might increase negative emotions, it can strengthen negative beliefs. and lead to low self-esteem. Here are three examples of confidence rings:
   • A child hears someone calling him stupid when he makes a mistake. Since then, he believes he is foolish every time he makes a mistake. Or, it believes it's stupid just because it made a mistake.
   • A child does not receive support or praise from their parents. It begins to believe that it is not beautiful, beautiful, or deserving of praise because its parents do not even trust him.
   • A person constantly hears insulting words because of the color of his skin. He gradually believes that he won't be able to succeed in a society that doesn't accept him.
6. Remember how your parents treated you. Parents are the people who have the greatest influence on a person's confidence. Children's views about themselves are mostly formed with the help of their parents. There is a different type of parent's behavior that can cause their children to become inferior.
   • Usually, when children grow up in a hostile environment, without emotional support, they often feel a lack of confidence.
   • When children and adults have emotional support, their emotional needs are met. Mental support can be expressed in a variety of ways such as saying "I love you" or "I am very proud of you"; help children deal with and deal with their emotions and simply be there for them.
   • Emotional needs are real needs that everyone has as they grow up, along with physical (food and drink) and mental (learning, problem solving, and education) needs. Attention to emotional as well as physical and mental needs will help your child feel accepted and respected.
7. Recognize any shame in your life. Shame is an educational tool that helps control children's behavior. For example, it is becoming more and more common to embarrass children publicly on social media. This happens when someone, such as a caregiver, parent, teacher or someone else in authority or someone of the same age, makes you feel like you are a bad person who has not behaved. permission or error.
   • For example, if you go to work on time, your boss makes you feel ashamed if he says "You are not a reliable person", instead of "You need to go to work earlier. office hours earlier. This way, if something happens you still have time to spare.
   • Although shame is socially acceptable, it is actually an abuse, and often happens with other abuse that makes us feel ashamed. For example, author Beverly Engel recounts that her mother beat her in front of her neighbors and punished her by publicly scolding her for making a mistake. Events like this make you feel ashamed.
8. Identify abuse in past relationships. Abusive relationships are often the cause of a lack of confidence. Actions like scolding, losing face, controlling, yelling or criticizing can affect a person's way of thinking about himself. Gradually, when these actions are repeated over and over again, the victim will likely believe those negative opinions.
   • Abusive relationships can also affect adults. Our adult relationships are often a reflection of our childhood relationships. Actions that are formed in the past influence our expectations of future relationships.
9. Identify examples of past poor performance. When people consistently perform poorly on homework, at school or at work, it can lead to a lack of confidence. Studies over the past decades have shown that there is a link between poor academic performance and low self-esteem.
   • This is not at all surprising, school is part of our lives, part of our childhood and our growing years.
10. Understand the impact of life events on your self-confidence. Life events - even things beyond human control - often negatively affect confidence. Job loss, financial hardship, break-ups, physical and psychological problems, chronic illness and disability are different situations that can stress and lead to a loss of confidence.
    • Divorce, traumatic events, such as car crashes, occupational accidents, being the victim of an attack or the departure of a family member or close friend can also affect confidence.
    • The financial and living pressure in the economic region stagnates can affect also self-esteem.
11. Evaluate your own experiences of social recognition. Society's acknowledgment or rejection of an experience, which has been shown to affect one's self-confidence. This has been demonstrated in a study comparing the unemployed and the unemployed, but other effects, such as social illness (such as alcoholism, psychological problems), have also been demonstrated. is that affects confidence.
12. Know that your opinion of your appearance is related to your confidence. Appearance can affect a person's confidence. Lots of studies have shown that everyone has a common concept of beauty. Although these views are often influenced by culture, there is a socially accepted view of beauty.
    • If a person receives a lot of criticism or compliments for their appearance, this can affect their self-worth.
    • Research has shown that when people judge their appearance, they often think in a negative way and don't actually reflect their true opinions. In other words, most people are too harsh on how they look.
13. Identify a case of bullying in the past. Due to frequent harassment, bullying is a major cause of lack of confidence. This can affect both people bullied and people being bullied.
    • Bullied victims often live with memories of being bullied for many years. They often feel ashamed about being bullied and attacked.
    • Bullies are often quite self-conscious and feel more in control when they abuse others.
    • Many bullies are victims of abuse or are left alone in their own homes. In order to regain a sense of control, they bully others.
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Advice

• Do well with someone or something every day without expecting a response. It can be anything from feeding a stray dog ​​to helping a stranger who has lost his way. Feeling useful to others will increase your confidence.
• If you don't like writing, your journal doesn't have to be in a regular journal: You can use the artistic side of yourself to color, draw, or collage.
• Remember that being confident is not about seeing yourself through the pink prism. Confidence is about recognizing the positive aspects of yourself, maintaining abilities in the areas of your life and yourself that you want to improve.
• The easy way to eat healthy is to eat it every few hours. If you continue like this it will become a habit, eat only one meal at a time.