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Being obsessed is like being trapped in a tunnel: you lose the ability to see and notice everything other than what haunts you. The phobia becomes a part of everyday life, possibly related to fear; an obsession is different from addiction, which is a state in which one is never satisfied unless indulged in the addictive object. Overcoming an obsession is not easy, but once you learn how to stop the obsession and turn your energy into new people and hobbies, you will gain freedom. Read Step 1 to learn how to control your phobia so it doesn't interfere with your thoughts and actions.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Free Your Mind

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   Keep away from the source of the phobia. When you are haunted by someone or something, if you are around them you cannot think about anything else. The closer you are to the obsession, the harder it is to stop thinking about it. Creating a physical distance between you and your phobia will help you create a mental distance. It will be difficult at first, but gradually you will feel the obsession fade away day by day.
   • Being haunted by someone is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Limit contact with the person you are obsessed with. Distract yourself by other things, find ways to focus on more interesting things.
   • Maybe you're obsessed with time in the past, such as playing your favorite video game. In that case, you need to keep the game out of sight by uninstalling it on your computer or asking a friend to keep the game console around until you get past the obsession.

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   Stop nurturing. Cultivating your phobia can be a little comforting, but it can be difficult to break a habit. Just thinking about the source of the obsession will put you under control. To break it, you have to exhaust it. For example, if you are obsessed with a famous person, stop talking about that person with your friends. Stop watching Twitter and imagine dating them. The more space you have for that obsession, the faster it will "swallow" you up.
   • It's not easy to stop harboring an obsession. You'll find yourself going through a psychological game, like telling yourself to look at someone's Facebook page for the last time before stopping the obsession. But if you want to limit it, you have to get rid of it as soon as you are most obsessed.
   • Sometimes the obsession is too strong to get rid of it. No matter how hard you try, the phobia thoughts are always present. In that case, don't push yourself too hard, you should step by step overcome it.

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   Distract yourself from obsessive thoughts. A good time to think and discuss a topic you like, so why stop? Remember that you want to overcome the obsession: you can overcome it and enjoy the exciting things in life. When an obsessive thought arises, distract yourself so that you don't remember it. Here are some good ways to distract yourself:
   • Exercise to keep your brain active. Jogging or walking may not be the right choice as you will have time to think about the phobia. Choose mountain climbing, caving or sports that requires both body and brain activity.
   • Fiction works to distract you. Choose to read a new book or watch a movie whose content is unrelated to your obsession.
   • Now, when your thoughts are fuzzy and need urgent distraction, try playing music, calling your friends (talk about whatever except the obsession) read the newspaper or went back to work.

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   Focus on the things you forget. When you are obsessed and don't have time for other things, such as focusing on work, relationships or personal interests. You should spend time on other things in your life so you won't have time to think about the obsession anymore.
   • Fixing your obsession with a relationship is an effective way to overcome the obsession. Friends and family will be happy when you come back, they will provide some interesting and interesting ideas, issues or situations involved. Thinking about change is a positive thing!
   • Many people choose to bury their heads in their work to forget their obsession. Whatever your job, just focus on doing the best you can.

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   Learn how live in the presentAre you a dreamer? Do you waste hours thinking about the person or something that haunts you? When you sit in one place but your mind is elsewhere, you miss out on what's going on. If you are ready to overcome the phobia, you must practice paying attention. That is focusing on the present, instead of thinking about the past and the future.
   • Use your senses and feel your surroundings. What do you smell, see, hear and taste in the present? Pay attention to what happens right in front of your eyes instead of what happens at another time.
   • Listen to your partner when you talk. Let yourself feel the conversation instead of your mind in the clouds.
   • You can use mantras to help focus your thoughts when there are thoughts obsessing. Repeating simple sentences like "Breathe", "Connect Now" or "I'm here" help bring your thoughts back to the present.

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   Use Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). This therapy suggests that there is no way to stop thinking about the phobia, but it weakens the link between the obsessive thought and the daily trigger. Helps you to easily cope with your life and thinking in action; You will control the phobia more easily.
   • CBT is used to develop words or actions to "smash" obsessive thoughts and allow you to focus on many other things.
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Part 2 of 3: Forming a New Habits

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   Strengthen your relationships with others. If you are obsessed with someone, spending time with others is the best way to change. All the energy put into your haunted object will be spent getting to know another person. Take a class, socialize at the pet park, or get to know new friends.Becoming close to others helps you realize that the world is more interesting than your obsession.
   • Avoid comparing the newcomer to someone who haunts you. Try to enjoy each person's unique personality instead of comparing them.
   • Even if the obsession is not a person, meeting new friends has many benefits. They will introduce you to perspectives and thoughts you've never thought of before.

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   Pursue new interests. "Try new" seems to solve every problem because it really works. Learn new skills or do better in activities that can activate your brain and make a change in perspective, which can help you get out of the way. Don't let your obsession control you by spending time on other things that aren't related to the phobia.
   • For example, if you are haunted by people who hate going to art museums and watching foreign movies, now is your chance to participate in those activities.
   • If you are obsessed with a particular subject, try learning something completely different to change it.

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   Change daily habits. If the obsession influences your habits, such as working the same path that used to be with your ex, now is the time to change things. Reflect the present right: what habits do you need to break in order not to be haunted? You absolutely can answer this question. Really make an effort to change your habits — it can be difficult at first, but you will notice the change soon. Here are some changes that can help relieve your mood:
   • Take the other way to school or work
   • Work out at another club or go out on another day to avoid meeting someone who haunts you.
   • Instead of checking your waking emails and favorite websites, start your day by practicing meditation, walking, or taking your dog for a walk.
   • Go sports to another location on weekends
   • Listen to other genres of music while working

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   Refresh life. If you tire of obsessive control over your thoughts and habits, take back control by making personal changes. It sounds big, but sometimes you need to change things to show that you are still capable of doing it. Choose something related to the phobia and renew it.
   • Maybe for you, refreshing means changing the look. If you have long hair because you think your haunters like it, then why not change it? Cut your hair short or change your style without having to do with the other person.
   • If you take the time to visit a website then maybe now is the time to refresh your own room or office. Rearrange furniture and buy new things. Clean up the desk and hang more pictures. Get rid of things that remind you of something you don't want to think about, and cover yourself with something encouraging.

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   Talk to the therapist. Sometimes the obsession is too great to be overcome on your own. If you are unable to control your obsession and interfere with your joy, make an appointment with a specialist. A counselor can give you the tools to regain control of your thoughts and life.
   • If you have repeated thoughts or actions, you may have an anxiety disorder called obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). In this case, it is important to exchange for help with therapies and therapies for the syndrome.
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Part 3 of 3: Turning your Obsession into a Positive

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   Turn it into something productive. Not all obsessions are scary; in fact, many people spend their lives searching for "passion" — something that is so ingrained in them that they crave to learn and work harder. If the obsession helps you to achieve your goals, then this is truly lucky. For example, if you are passionate about astronomy and you just want to spend time reading and learning about it, you can turn your obsession into a successful career.
   • Even if the obsession does not have as significant a result as a master's degree or an astronomer, you can still turn it into something productive. Maybe you're obsessed with celebrity gossip, you can't stop reading tabloids. Why not set up a blog or Twitter account to share what you've learned?
   • You can see the obsession as the motivation for self-improvement. If you obsess over someone who is not like you, you can change the bad habits that are hindering you. Let your phobia be the excuse to get up early, practice running before work, or read entire material for classroom opinions in advance.

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   Let the obsession become the creative muse. If your obsession is about someone, you can use your energy to create something beautiful. Many excellent literary, artistic and musical works in the calendar are rooted in obsession. If you can't stop thinking about someone, put all your unilateral feelings into a poem, song, or painting.

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   Spend time with the person sharing it. The phobia can be a problem until you find a group of people with similar interests. Whatever you are obsessed with, you are not alone. Find people with the same passion to share information and discuss non-stop. Whether you're a huge fan of the soccer team, you can't stop watching every show with an actor you admire, or you stay up all night plowing games, there are people just like you.

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   Don't let obsession limit your world. Obsession is not just "filling" all of your time and energy. You are the only one who understands how excessive is. If your obsession brings you joy and you still have time to meet your basic needs and make friends, then you can leave it alone. But if it confines you, put out the fire and give yourself the opportunity to enjoy other things. advertisement

Advice

• Try something new to get your mind off the obsession like going out with friends, reading a book or learning to play an instrument.
• Don't just run away and deal with the obsession.
• Work slowly if needed. You don't have to "bluntly" end.
• Don't be afraid or embarrassed.
• Take this as a challenge and overcome it!

Warning

• Obsessive compulsive disorder and addiction are two ongoing problems for many people. If you cannot control the obsession or it harms you and those around you, seek a professional immediately.