Author:
Randy Alexander
Date Of Creation:
2 April 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
When someone loses a loved one, it can be hard to know how to properly share the pain with them. How can words make a difference during this sad time? However, sending condolences with a sincere message from the bottom of your heart will help the person suffering the loss feel cared for and loved, giving them a little comfort during this traumatic period. Refer to Step 1 and steps to learn how to write a profound condolence card.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Act right
Begin with the appropriate greeting. The most common way to start a condolence card is to start with the word "Dear". You can also use the word "Love", or simply start with the name mourning. Avoid starting with "Hello" or another informal greeting - as it makes the card less formal.
- For the person you are writing for, use the same name you would normally call that person. If you are writing to the teacher you call "Miss Hien", write her name on the card. If you're writing to someone you know well, use that person's name.
- If the card is to convey condolences to the entire bereaved family, not just one individual, write down the names of each person. If you don't know the names of everyone in the family, just write "you Sang and family."
Write down how sorry you are for the death of the person. Say that you feel sad and sorry to hear that the person has passed away, and if you know the person, mention his / her name. If you don't know this person, you can cleverly refer to them as "your mother" or "your grandfather's grandfather," etc. For example:- He regretted hearing that Mai had passed away after a long battle with cancer.
- I am deeply saddened when I received the news of Hoa's death.
- Words cannot describe her grief when she hears that Sau is gone.
If you don't know this person well, consider keeping it short. Ending writing cards after expressing your condolences in a concise manner is perfect for sending a card to someone you're not close to. Include common phrases that are not easily misinterpreted. Write statements like "always remember you with your deep sympathy" or "please accept my condolences" if you want to write short cards. It's even more special if the condolence card you're using has a note or poem printed on it. Here are a few examples of brief ways to present emotions:- You are always on your mind.
- Our minds and prayers are all for you.
- We always think about you.
- I will pray for you during this difficult time.
- We will commemorate this painful time.
- will always be in our mind.
If you know the deceased, consider sharing memories. If the person you recently passed away is someone you know, write down how much you miss him / her, and share a few of your memories. Expressing your grief in sharing will help the other person feel less lonely during the loss period. Just mention briefly about something special about the deceased and what that person means to you.
Offer to help if you want. Write down a few words to encourage the bereavement call or reach you when needed. Make sure that you are ready to follow what you have written if the person actually comes to you for help.
End cards with matching words. If you know the bereaved well, simply write it down as "Honored", and then sign your name. If you are sending cards to someone you are not close to, choose an ending that expresses your feelings and relationship with that person. For example:
- My condolences from the bottom of my heart,
- Very sorry,
- Venerate,
- Respectfully,
- My condolences and sincere condolences,
- May I share this sadness,
Method 2 of 3: Think about special cases
Write a profound message if you know the person who died. Usually, you will have lots of memories to share and a lot to say if the person who passed away is someone you know. Consider writing on another piece of paper as a draft to jot down your thoughts before writing it on your condolence card. Think about what you know about the deceased, and try to write honestly and naturally. Here are some examples:
- Dear male, We are truly sorry to hear that Loan is gone. She is an endearing and kind friend who always spends time with others, and we all love her. Loan students will always remember her as a dedicated teacher and role model. If you need an assistant to help with chores, house cleaning, or anything, don't hesitate to call us. We are here to help and mind is on you. My condolences to your family, Hồng and Huệ
- Dear Cuc and Tuan, We are pleased to express our grief upon hearing that your lovely daughter has passed away after a time of fighting sickness. What a brave girl! We will miss her every day. Our minds and prayers are for you and your two sons. If there is anything we can help do, don't hesitate to call us. Best regards, Dao and Duong
Offer your condolences if you have never met a deceased person. If you are unable to share your memories of the deceased, you can talk about the person's good things, or simply express your grief for the loss of family members. Here are a few examples:
- Dear Linh, I am very sorry when your father passed away. Although I have never met your father, I know that everyone around Huy Hoang admires his hard work. How good it was to spend time with her in your last days. Call me if you need anything or simply need someone to talk to. I always look towards you. My condolences from the bottom of my heart, Huy
- Dear Vu, I am very sad to hear about your brother - Long. I know how close the two brothers are. If there's anything you can help, don't hesitate to call me. Condolences with your family, An
Write your sincere condolences about your pet's death. You can show similar sincerity when writing condolences to someone whose pet has just died. Try to remember and include some details about the pet in the card. Some good examples are:
- Dear Chau, He is very sorry about Shadow just died. I remember the first time you adopted him 13 years ago. That is a great companion, isn't it? Our path now will not be the same as before without its footsteps beside you. Send me my sincere condolences, Duc
- Bao, I heard about your lovely Birdie. It is truly a special cat. It was hard to believe that he would no longer see him running around the garden next spring as he did when the weather warmed up. Condolences to you, Hong
Method 3 of 3: Know the ritual of sending condolences
Always send condolences by card, not by email. Even if you learn about someone's death via social media or email, it will be deeper if you send cards in the post. You can buy condolences from the store, use white cards with the right pictures, or write condolences on lovely paper. Condolences should be written in hand or typed in blue / black ink.
- Do not condolences through texting.
- If you send your condolences through social media or other means, you should also send your condolences.
Send a card even if you intend to send flowers. Even if the bouquet comes with a small card, send a separate condolence card so you can express your condolences. This allows you to write down your notes and sign your name rather than using pre-printed condolences from the florist.
Send cards even if the person is long gone. It's best to send a card as soon as you hear about the deceased, days or weeks after the deceased. However, you can still send a card after months, even years if you are not aware of the person's death. If you don't, the bereaved will wonder if you really care. While it would be a bit awkward to send cards late, this is probably better than not sending.
Avoid writing too much religious content, unless the bereavement shares your faith with you. The saying "I will pray for you" is perfectly normal, but copying passages from the Bible or exercising religious faith in other ways will not be suitable for condolences. The recipient may not share your faith, nor do you want them to follow your faith during this sensitive time. It is better to show love and mutual understanding than show love that is confined to your religion.
- For example, saying "I believe he is in heaven now" would not be appropriate, because the bereaved may not believe in heaven.
- However, if you and your bereaved are of the same religion, it would be great to include your religious belief in condolences.
Don't worry too much that you say something is not right. Trust yourself that your condolences you write show your sincere desire to make people aware of how much you care about them. The act of sending the card is a thoughtful gesture and will be appreciated by the recipient. Try to write sincere and empathic lines. If you find it difficult to express yourself in your handwritten condolences, that's okay - there are other ways to mournfully find you still with them during this difficult time. advertisement
Advice
- Send condolences as soon as you hear someone passing away. You will have the opportunity to speak directly to the bereaved, but sending cards to show them they are on your mind is a deep way of paying homage.
What you need
- Card
- Pen
- Envelope
