Author:
John Stephens
Date Of Creation:
1 January 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
Contrary to popular belief, a beautiful face and a seductive figure are not enough for women to become attractive in the eyes of men. Research shows that while attractive looks are an important factor, personality is still more important than appearance.
To be more attractive to men, you need to focus on developing positive qualities such as confidence, respect, honesty, listening skills, and generosity; Factors that create physical charisma, like highlighting the traits you love most about yourself, flirting skillfully and maintaining a healthy body should be second priority.
Note, however, that you shouldn't change yourself for a man. If he doesn't appreciate who you really are, there's no reason to spend time with someone like that. Well, while this may sound drawn from a fun, light-hearted romantic comedy, it is.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Possessing good qualities
Be confident. For many people, self-confidence is "easy to say but difficult to do". Confidence means that you believe in yourself and your abilities. If you aren't confident, there are many ways to build your self-esteem.- For example, if you feel miserable with negative monologues (words that come from your thoughts that you are a loser, not worthy of respect, foolishness, etc.), you should try to fight back. Return those words with positive affirmations such as "I care" or "I'm a good friend".
- When you are confident, you will not torture yourself if you make a mistake and will not lower yourself. Confident people can be happy about another person's success without jealousy or feeling bad about themselves.
Relax and live in the present. You will find it difficult to enjoy life when your mind is always in the past or future. Instead of worrying about what you said or what will happen next, enjoy the moment you have in the moment.- If you're nervous and unsure of what to say, a good way to engage with someone is to ask questions. For example, asking someone for advice or encouraging them to talk about themselves is a way to make them like you.
- If you are comfortable and focused while being with others, they will enjoy your presence and want to continue meeting you.
Become a attentive listener. When talking to a guy you like (or anyone else), one way to make sure that person loves you (at least as a friend) is to listen attentively to them. To listen attentively do the following:- Do not interrupt or judge the person who is speaking.
- Nod or respond with words like "yes", "ah," yes "to let the speaker know you are listening.
- Paraphrase what they say so they know what you mean.
- Ask questions to show your attention and concern.
Be honest but respectful. Try not to say what he wants to hear, but to say your true thoughts, as long as you still show respect when giving your opinion. You should avoid insulting people or his thoughts.
- You want him to like who you really are, not who you think he wants. He will appreciate it when you have the right opinion and dare to say it.
- For example, if he asks about a movie you don't like, say your thoughts instead of pretending to like it because you think he likes the movie. If there are no problems, this will make your conversation more interesting.
Share your passions and interests. When someone talks about their passions, they often get very excited. Their excitement is pervasive, making them a fun and enjoyable person.
- When you talk to a guy you like, don't be afraid to reveal a little bit about what matters to you.
- Also, don't forget to find out about his hobbies. This is a way to show you want to learn more about the guy and that he will feel closer to you.
Do things that make your life richer. Volunteer to participate in activities for a cause that you believe in; learn to play an instrument; join a dance class; athletics training; or join an recreational sports group. Feeling happy and satisfied will help you become more attractive in the eyes of men.
- In addition, with your interests, you will have more to talk about and increase your chances of bonding with your crush, if he has the same interests as you. You can also meet the person of your dreams through your interests.
Show your interest. Let him know you like and care about him through the little things. While at a party, try asking him if he wants to drink and eat; If the two of you have discussed his concerns recently, try asking him how he's doing.
- Research shows that when you show love, support and steadfastness, other people may view you as a potential partner; So take this opportunity to show that you have these qualities.
Be honest about yourself. Countless romantic comedies revolve around someone pretending to be a non-me and their lies exposed. Don't try to be like that.
- If your ideal evening is at home eating pizza and watching Netflix, don't say that you enjoy partying. This will exhaust you and bored when you break up because he wants to party, and you just want to relax.
- If you love and want to teach Math, don't tell the adventurous guy that your dream is to become a ski instructor at a resort.
Don't change yourself for anyone. Getting out of your comfort zone is fun and healthy - trying new interests or meeting more people, for example - but making sure you do it with the mindset of who you are. and want something in life. Always remember your beliefs and goals.
- The best reason to change yourself is when you are dissatisfied with yourself and you want to change to be happier.
- If you have to be a completely different person when you're with a guy, you probably shouldn't be going on with him.
Part 2 of 4: Improving appearance
Note that looks are only a small part of the attraction. Research shows that while women's appearance plays a key role in attracting a man's first eye, other factors such as humor, beliefs, and personality are just as important. least.
- Men often prefer women who look young and healthy - with smooth skin, youthful facial features and a slim figure - because subconsciously they still see who possessing those traits can become friends. my life.
Recognize the beauty of yourself. Regardless of your physique, skin color, outfit size or hair length, you still have your own beauty.
- Research shows that your level of attraction in the eyes of others is always 20% higher than your own. Many women are too strict when judging themselves instead of seeing their own beauty.
- Perhaps you don't possess beauty by traditional standards, but what does that mean? Today's beauty standards are different from the past and will continue to change over time.
Find your own style. Your style should reflect your personality, instead of imitating the charms of others. Choose clothes that fit, fit your body, and make you feel confident.
- If you are unsure about your style, check out the style of fashion icons and people you admire. Feel free to try different styles - it doesn't mean trying to be someone else but exploring how to express yourself.
- Try out a variety of accessories, styles and colors that you seldom choose from. If you feel like it, you can choose to make your own style; If everything feels too groomed, keep trying other things.
Highlight your favorite features. Do you love any of your physical features? Be it deep brown eyes, great hair or a lovely chin. Regardless of the trait, people will surely find it very attractive.
- Find ways to choose the right clothes, accessories, and makeup to bring out your best.
- For example, if you have attractive black eyes, you will wear round iridescent earrings to make your eyes stand out. Or, if you like your long, elegant neck, you can wear a V-neck or shoulder-length haircut to draw attention to your neck.
Make up. Some studies show that men find women more attractive when wearing makeup. Other research has shown that men prefer women to wear light makeup (to be fair, sometimes men think natural makeup is the same as not wearing makeup).
- If you don't like makeup but still want to give it a try, you can start with a natural look and just give your face a fresh look. Try a mascara brush and choose a lip gloss with natural colors.
- After all, the most important thing is to feel comfortable. If you don't want to wear makeup, feel free to leave your face bare.
- Make sure you beautify your figure and face is a word you want. Don't change your looks just because you think a guy would like it better.
Make up to make yourself look younger and healthier. Much of what makes women attractive in the eyes of men has to do with primitive instincts. That means in the minds of men, they notice a few physical traits that demonstrate good fertility. A youthful, well-proportioned face is a sign of fertility and good health.
- Research shows that men prefer women with childish faces with big eyes, small nose, full lips, and pointed chin. You can use mascara and lip plumper lip balm for big eyes and full lips.
- If you want darker makeup, you can try a little bit of powder to make your face look younger and more balanced.
Lips out lips. Normally, men pay more attention to a woman's lips than other parts of the body, research says. If you wear lipstick (especially red lipstick), your lips will become more attractive to a man's eyes.
- A familiar belief is that full red lips are like blood vessels that dilate when the libido rises, making a man feel like being close to you.
Pay attention to the pitch of the voice. Many studies show that men often find women with high pitches more attractive than men with low pitches.
- Even so, you should still be yourself. Men are often attracted to confident women who are comfortable with their bodies (and voice), but this trait is also a fact you should know. (Research also shows that women like men with low voices.)
Wear a red outfit. According to studies, women wearing red clothing are more attractive and attractive in the eyes of men (interestingly, this doesn't work in the eyes of other women).
- Since red comes in so many different tones, be sure to choose one that accentuates your skin tone!
Show off the hourglass shape. Research shows that men are often attracted to an hourglass figure - with a small waistline and large hips, which are a sign of health and fertility. The proportion of women with an hourglass figure is very low; Therefore, you do not need to have self-esteem if the body does not have this body shape.
- You can own an hourglass shape with exercises that enlarge your bust and hips, and slim your waist; choose some suitable clothes; and / or a bra - another form of waist-shaping.
- Note that in some countries, women with a large, round waist will look more attractive because it is a sign of adequate food and money.
Meet other girls. When you hang out with a group of girlfriends, men will find each member more interesting than usual.
- This may sound counterintuitive because you will feel ugly around beautiful girls, but the truth is not - you all become more attractive.
Part 3 of 4: Take care of yourself
Be kind to yourself. This has to do with becoming confident. You may find a way to attract men, but the most useful thing to do is to be attractive in your own eyes. Take good care of yourself: eat healthy, exercise, get enough sleep. Besides, don't torture yourself if you have a bad day or don't look like a supermodel.
- When you want to attract men, you will read articles that tell you what men like, but information often covers what you don't have.
- Research has shown that personality is more important than appearance, which is why it's so important to be happy and comfortable with yourself.
Exercise regularly. Tips vary by content source, but in general if you want to stay fit, you should exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. The way to do it is very simple, just walk or do the 10-minute exercise three times a day.
- Exercise not only keeps your body healthy, but also has a positive effect on your brain!
Drink enough water. Dividing your weight in half (in pounds) will result in the amount of water in the ounces you need for the day. You will need more water if you live in a hot climate and / or exercise regularly.
- A woman weighing 150 pounds (about 68 kg) will need to drink about 75 to 150 ounces of water (2.2 to 4.4 liters) per day depending on activity level and environment.
Get enough sleep. Research shows that people who are sleep deprived often look less attractive than when they get a good night's sleep.
- You can hide signs of sleep deprivation with a concealer. Choose the right one for your skin and use to cover dark circles under the eyes. Use extra eye cream if you need to ease puffiness.
- If sleep deprivation occurs frequently, you should see your doctor to find out why.
Healthy eating. Eat plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and low-fat proteins. In addition to limiting sugar or salt, don't eat processed and packaged foods either. This is a way to help you maintain your weight, keep a steady mood, and have beautiful skin and hair.
Take good care of the skin. Wash your face twice daily with a facial cleanser suitable for your skin type (skin types including: normal, combination, oily and sensitive). Use a good moisturizer with sunscreen ingredients after washing your face.
- After bathing, you should apply a body moisturizer to keep skin smooth and soft.
There is a sunny smile. Plump, soft lips and white teeth are often seen as attractive factors for both men and women. Drink plenty of water in addition to moisturizing your lips regularly for soft lips, and don't forget to brush your teeth.
- White teeth are both a sign of good genetic factors and a major attraction in the eyes of men.
- If you don't have white teeth, don't worry! This is completely normal. If your teeth are strong but ivory, you should choose to use a toothpaste with whitening ingredients or see a dentist for advice on whitening methods.
Hair care. Many studies show that long, thick and sleek hair is the most attractive feature for men, as it is a sign of health and fertility. Usually men prefer women with longer hair than people with short hair, even if they have the same facial features.
- What's more important than styling (or anything else related to this matter) to attract a guy is to choose a hairstyle that accentuates the shape of the face as well as your own style. In general, you need to be comfortable with the way you look.
- If you want to experiment with long hair, you can purchase a hairpin extension that can be found in hair salons and beauty stores. If your hair is very short, try a wig.
- Avoid dyeing, straightening, or overdoing it, as damaged, frizzy hair will look less attractive.
Part 4 of 4: Flirting with men
Go to places where you feel good. Places that let you forget your troubles, can relax and be happy will make you look more attractive and also feel more attractive.
- You will also get the chance to meet guys with similar interests and enjoy doing things they both love.
- For example, if you like to play basketball, you could join a basketball team with both men and women. You are most attracted when you are comfortable and happy, do well what you are doing, but don't take things seriously and lead to anger or bad behavior!
Eye contact. This is possibly the most effective flirting technique ever. Eye contact shows your confidence and care and makes the other person "melt."
- The most familiar way is to look him in the eye and smile gently before looking away. Do this a few times for about 20 minutes; If interested, he will approach you.
- If you talked to him, make sure to make eye contact with him at specific times throughout the conversation, like when you complimented him. From time to time, make eye contact with him longer than usual to signal that you are deeply in love with him.
- However, you shouldn't look him in the eye for too long, lest things get tense and awkward. You should just make a light start.
Smile. Research shows that happy women, especially those who laugh more often, attract the attention of men. Remember to sincerely smile with your eyes, not just your lips, so you won't be fake.
- Laugh out loud when he says something funny, but don't forcefully laugh.
- The most effective method of flirting is to smile while looking with affectionate eyes.
- You can tailor your smile to match the scene - a shy smile to grab his attention, or playfully relaxed when you've talked to him to show interest. Your mind is for him.
Communicate. You don't have to wait for him to talk to you first. If you notice someone, just introduce yourself and have a friendly conversation so you both have a chance to get to know each other.
- Remember to keep it light. If you've just finished watching a movie or concert, try this topic to chat. If you are in the same class, ask him how he feels about that class.
- When you talk, try to see if you can gauge his interest. If he responds to your gaze, asks you a question, and looks attentive, hold on to the conversation to see what is going on.
- If he doesn't seem excited, don't keep trying. Just tell him that you are happy to see him, say goodbye politely, and start chatting with friends or other people.
Praise him. A safe way to show you care for a guy and get him to notice you rather than giving compliments. Research has shown that even a false compliment can be effective, but it's best to give it a sincere compliment.
- If he looks good in a shirt, praise him for it. If he changes his hairstyle, let him know that you recognize it and love it. Compliments don't just make him feel better; They are also signals that show you like him.
Take the conversation further. If the conversation went well, and he responds positively, you can ask for his number. You don't have to wait for him to speak first.
- Schedule a date after a few days so you both have time to think about it and get ready.
- If you're still not ready to date, just swap phone numbers with each other.
Imitate his body language. While it's a good idea to avoid making this too obvious, try to mimic his posture and movements while you're talking. This will send the message that you like him, which in turn can make him reciprocate your feelings.
- For example, if he is touching his hair, wait a minute or two and then do the same action naturally, but with a different hand. Remember to do this so that the action looks like it happened accidentally. You don't want to be an obvious imitator (despite the fact that you are!).
Advice
- Set the phone ring on silent mode and put it in your bag / pocket while dating. If you check your messages, find funny pictures and post photos of your meal on Instagram, your ex will begin to wonder if you need their presence.
- One thing sounds frightening, but it's true: according to research, men who seek a quick relationship based on the appeal of their looks are often attracted to women who seem childish, goofy, or drunk. . Conversely, intelligence will become more attractive in the eyes of men who are seriously looking for a mate.
- A lot of men report being more attracted to a woman they know and trust than someone who seems normally attractive (only at first).
- Always be yourself as he will notice the difference and ask questions. Feel free to be with him.
Warning
- Don't change yourself just to get a guy. Even though this quote has been repeated so many times that it is boring, it is absolutely true: the most important thing you can do to make yourself more attractive is to think that you are attractive. guide. Be confident and know that you are beautiful inside and out.
- Don't expect every man to set a set standard - for example, prefer a young looking woman with a small hourglass figure and a beautiful voice. The research on this is based on average statistics only, and therefore it cannot tell you exactly what every man will like.
