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• Steps
• Advice
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Social chat is a great way to chat with someone you don't know well. Such chats open up the opportunity for you to make new friends and build relationships, and even more beneficial for your job. With practice, you will gradually be able to socialize freely with anyone!

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Make the other person comfortable

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   Show a friendly attitude. When you want someone to be comfortable, it's best to have an "open mind" and face that person without being too aggressive. You just make eye contact, don't cross your arms across your chest, and point your shoulders toward the person you're talking to. This posture will help them feel like you are giving them full attention, not being dumbfounded in conversation. Keep the appropriate distance from the person.
   • Put the phone away. There is nothing more annoying than talking to a person who is constantly glued to the phone.
   • Even though you need to be enthusiastic about your conversation, don't too eager. Not leaning too close makes them afraid. Many people do not want to talk to people who do not keep a proper distance.

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   Say hello in a friendly manner. If you meet someone you already know, just say hello and call their name: "Hi Linh, nice to meet you." Such greetings are simple but can still show the other person that you are enthusiastic about talking. If you don't know the person, introduce yourself first to feel more confident and active in the conversation. Just say, "Hi, my name is Vy, what is your name?" Repeat the other person's name to make them feel more special.
   • Remember to smile and pay attention to the person when you greet them. Don't let them feel like you were just talking to them to kill you until friend time really appears.

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   Keep the atmosphere light and positive. In addition to exchanging information, chatting is also an energy exchange. For a great conversation with good social stories, keep things light, cheerful, and upbeat. If you're having fun, be ready to smile as soon as you meet the other person and laugh out loud at the unhappy things like thatThat way, you will make them want to keep talking to you - even if you just talk about your favorite breakfast bakery.
   • Yes, it's hard to keep things light and happy when people have a day or a week full of bad luck. But remember that if you are socializing then the person is not your best friend, so avoid talking about anything too negative; otherwise you will make the other person not want to listen.

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   Start with small compliments. Just one simple sentence, “I love your shoes. Where did you buy it? ” can also open up an interesting conversation about footwear shopping. Even if your compliment goes nowhere, you can make the other person happier before you start talking on other topics. You could also take this step earlier as a way to introduce yourself. advertisement

Method 2 of 3: Open a conversation

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   Find common ground. The common ground here is not necessarily that you and the other person are passionate about the same subject, but it could simply be that you both had to go through a bad week of weather. Anything that can involve the other person and help create a connection - though fragile - can be seen as common. You may not like to talk about the weather, but keep in mind that such "trivia" can help open up what's important to you. Here are a few ways to find common ground:
   • "Mr. Tuan is very funny."
   • "Phan Anh's party is the funniest".
   • "Why does it keep raining all the time?"
   • "I usually love going to this cafe."

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   Reveal something about yourself. Once you have common ground, you can lean on it and work out with a little more personalization. You shouldn't say things that are too personal that could shock the other person, such as, “I've been in love with Mr. Tuan for five years now”, but reveal a little more about yourself. You can implement the above stories as follows:
   • "I see him as the best teacher ever. I chose to study literature because of him."
   • "Actually I met Phan Anh last year when Kim Chi took me to his year-end party."
   • "The rain like this is boring. I'm doing cross country running and I've been practicing on the treadmill these days - that's bad."
   • "Every time I come here I always feel familiar. I think I can sit here all day to work."

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   Involve the other person in the conversation. Once you find something in common and reveal a little about yourself, encourage the other person to talk by asking for information about them.Don't ask too personal things like your health, religion or political opinion. Keep the conversation light and fun, ask open-ended questions about their interests, their job, or their surroundings. You can engage the other person in the conversation with things like:
   • "How about you? You also study good literature here to listen to the thrilling stories of Mr. Tuan?"
   • "Have you ever been to parties like this or is this the first time? The party was fun, but I drank a lot of cocktails."
   • "What about you? Did the rain stop you from doing anything this week?"
   • "Did you come here to work or just read for fun?"

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   Follow up with a question or story. You can continue a story with a question, story or joke depending on what the other person answers. The overcoming questions will make them feel like they are being questioned, and the constant narratives will leave the other person in no time to speak. Here are some ways for you to keep the conversation going:
   • That person: "I also study literature. I originally liked studying literature, but Mr. Tuan made me love literature even more."
     • Friend: "Oh really? What are you going to do with this industry? It's nice to meet someone in the same field as you."
   • That person: "Back then I couldn't come, but last month I went to the Haloween party he hosted. It's indescribable."
     • Friend: "That's right! No wonder you look familiar. Are you close to Phan Anh? Is he also" crazy "?"
   • That person: "I don't hate rain too much, but rain like this can't take the dog for a walk. It's troublesome."
     • Friend: "You also have dogs? I have a poodle puppy named Sao. Do you have a picture of your puppy?"
   • That person: "I just came here to read for fun. I don't think I can sit that long and lack the book" Getting a Green Field. "
     • Friend: "I liked that story too! Some thought it was overrated, but I didn't see it that way."

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   Pay attention to your surroundings. When the conversation is running wild with jokes from both sides, look around for the next topic. You can notice anything, from the person's clothes or the things they hold in their hands to the wall signs that relate to both you and the other person. You can say things like:
   • "You wear the shirt of the team that is loved by many people. This team has been established for a long time. How long have you been a fan?"
   • "You also participated in the HCMC Marathon? What year? I also have a T-shirt like yours, but I don't remember where to store it."
   • "How did you see the acappella concert today? I saw advertisements all over the school and I was wondering if I should go see it."
   • "Well, the book" American Scenery. "That book taught me everything I need to know about American history. Is this subject as easy as it used to be?"

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   Take time to listen. Really listening to what the other person is saying can help you find common ground, which in turn leads the conversation towards something more interesting and effective. The other person may make comments that are close to your topic or problem, so keep your ear to see if there is anything that might trigger a different topic. Here are some examples of how the two can capture clues and steer the conversation in a new direction to connect on a deeper level:
   • Friend: "Actually I knew Phan Anh during a move abroad during the summer vacation. We went to Mexico with a group of friends."
   • That person: "Well he did talk about that trip! I helped Phan Anh practice his Spanish to prepare for the trip, but maybe he doesn't use much - except the phrase piña colada.’
   • Friend: "Do you know Spanish? Then you could have been able to help me prepare for the course in Madrid. My Spanish would be fine, but I would have been better off if I had someone tutoring me. ! "
   • That person: "Me to love Madrid. Now, my grandmother still lives there, so I visit her every summer. Every Sunday she takes me to the Prado museum. "
   • Friend: "Madrid is my favorite city! I can't wait to see El Greco's paintings in Prado."
   • That person: "Do you like El Greco? I adore Goya more."
   • Friend: "Oh really? You know, there's a new Goya movie coming in theaters next week - Ethan Hawke must be in it! Would you like to go?"
   • That person: "Of course!"
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Method 3 of 3: Finish impressively

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   Be open-minded (but not outrageous). Near the end of the conversation, you can reveal a little more about yourself, whether it's just small things like your love for the cat, your passion for yoga or just your thoughts on the new album. of the band you love. You need to let the other person know something about you when you leave, and that can help you connect on a deeper level and that the other person knows that you are not just talking around.
   • Don't express your thoughts about the meaning of your life, death or broken love in social conversations. Only reveal something about yourself and only talk about it in private as your bond with the other person develops to a deeper level.

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   If all goes well, you can make an appointment to see the other person next time. If you really enjoy talking to the person, whether you plan on a date or want to be friends with the other person, say that you would love to talk to them about a topic and suggest meeting next time, or ask for phone number. You can also mention places that you will both be visiting. Such as:
   • "I really want to go see that new movie with you. Can you give me a phone number for the desk later?"
   • "I have not met anyone who likes the program Single guy like me. My roommates watch it every week - can you give me your phone number so I can send you the information? "
   • "Can I meet you at the next party of Phan Anh? I heard that everyone who goes to that party must also wear a gown. realThere must be something interesting to see. "

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   Say goodbye politely. When it's time to go, whether to go back to class or talk to someone else at the party, make the other person feel important, and don't just talk to them out of courtesy. Here are a few ways to end a conversation:
   • "It's fun to talk to you. I'll send you the recipe for Spanish rice."
   • "I still like to talk more about Spain, but I haven't come to say hello to Quynh, but she seems to be leaving soon."
   • "Oh my best friend Giang. Do you know him? Come on, I'll introduce you to him."
   • "I wish I could talk to you again, but it's already math class. I'll see you soon anyway."
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Advice

• When you have opened a story about something, the conversation goes from one story to the next. The hardest part is invoking the topic.
• Just relax, you won't be seen by anyone.
• Always have three jokes that you can tell any any object. (Ask yourself, "Can I tell these stories to my mother / grandmother?")
• Always show respect.
• Pay attention to the breath; make sure not to breathe too quickly, hold your breath or gasp.
• Do not talk gossip; This is just a simple conversation.
• If you don't read / watch the news every day, at least go through the headlines.
• Know what sports games are going on, especially if the person you want to talk to loves sports.
• Practice talking to couriers, couriers, etc. If you feel nervous, just say "hello".
• If you are comfortable around someone, an old joke told gracefully can make them smile.
• Flirting sentences are an effective way to open the door to more intimate communication, as long as they don't get too old.

Warning

• Remember what the other person said as much as possible. Especially when they emphasize on something, try to be interested and talk about it.
• Do not force others to socialize with you; some people are introverted, and many people just talk from time to time and subject. Some people may not be interested in the weather or interested in knowing where you buy your shoes.