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A feeling of low self-esteem can come in many forms and affect many areas of your life. When you feel awkward about your weight or body, you will want to hide them under your clothes and not go out much. Surprisingly, not only do girls feel apprehensive about their bodies, but also boys. In fact, people of all sizes and shapes are at risk of having confidence problems in their body, even if they are not overweight. There are things you can do to deal with your low self-esteem and to begin accepting and loving your current body.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Challenge shyness

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   Reminder that embarrassment is a feeling, not a fact. When you're feeling nervous, people seem to be paying attention to you. Every aspect of you seems to be exposed to others, mostly your downside. Know that this is just your inner feeling. Usually, people just think about themselves so much that they don't care too much about you.
   • When you find yourself physically ashamed, instead of holding back those emotions, express them. Tell a friend or sibling how you are feeling. That way, you can get sincere opinions from others.

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   Find the source of your embarrassment. In order to improve your self-esteem, you need to find the root cause of it. Were you teased about your weight as a baby? Is there someone that always makes you embarrassed? How often does your mom or dad say you need to lose weight?

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   Deal with people that make you feel bad about your weight. If the embarrassment stems from the criticism of the other person, then the solution is likely to happen in either situation. You will have to dig deeper into yourself to determine if your relationship is worth suffering when they criticize you or make bad comments about you.
   • If they are a distant friend or acquaintance whose insults make you feel bad about yourself, then you may need to end your relationship with them. You deserve supportive relationships, and no one can put you down.
   • If a close friend or family member keeps criticizing your weight, you need to deal with them. They need to know how their comments affect you. Once you have a candid conversation with them, they can see the harm of their words and will no longer offend or criticize you.
   • If you do decide to confront the person, let them know in advance that you want to chat and choose a neutral location to meet. Use "I" statements and avoid blaming them. You just need to show your emotions with the facts. An affirmation like: "I feel uncomfortable / sad / embarrassed when you comment on my weight. I would really appreciate it if you could stop doing this."

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   Ask yourself if the other person is really criticizing you. If your efforts to pinpoint the source of your embarrassment have been fruitless, it may be because these emotions are ingrained in your thoughts. Perhaps you lack confidence in your body due to the messages in the media. Perhaps your body size and physique are not the same as the model or TV actor and it makes you feel ugly. You may have tried to lose weight before and failed, so now you are putting your own mental and emotional pressure.
   • It is time to awaken yourself to the communicative message. Both women and men idealize bodies they can't achieve, appearing on television and magazines photoshoped to look perfect. Tell yourself that the body actually comes in different shapes and sizes. Look around you; Every day you will see many beautiful people of all shapes and sizes.
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Method 2 of 3: Accept yourself

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   Learn how to accept who you are. Even if you're overweight, your body is great. Your heart never stops beating. Your brain is a supercomputer. The eyes allow you to see the miracles in life and surroundings. You have a lot to be grateful for if you can see, hear, smell, move and do what you want to do. Practice loving body exercises to learn how to accept your current body.
   • When you get out of bed every morning, feel amazed at your body's health and endurance. Your feet take you everywhere. The hands help you to tie your shoes and hold things. Your nose can smell the brewed coffee. Is your body a miracle?
   • Stand in front of the mirror and think positively about what you see in the mirror. Before you step into the bathroom or get dressed, stand naked or in your underwear and admire your magical body. Let's say this: “I completely accept and love my body right now. I am grateful for this wonderful body and for the gift of life ”.

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   Challenge negative thoughts. During physical training, if negative thoughts arise, don't be preoccupied with them. Instead, reflect on how wonderful your body is.
   • Reshaping means changing a negative perspective into a positive one. This takes practice but once you can determine which thoughts are useless or negative (Hint: People that make you feel bad.), You can undo that inner dialogue and reshape it.
   • For example, you could say, "I look terrible in this outfit. Everyone will laugh at me". As you reshape, ask yourself if there is a time when everyone will laugh at you. If the answer is no, you can reshape this statement to say: "Everyone has a different opinion about style. I like this suit and this is the most important thing." This reshaping was not only more positive, but also more realistic.

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   Re-evaluate your beliefs. Sometimes, we find ourselves ugly because we have some deep belief in what we should or should not possess. An example of a deeply rooted belief is: "To have an attractive appearance, you must have a thin body". Understand that it is normal to unleash beliefs that no longer benefit you.
   • Ask yourself how you would react if you find that your best friend is harming her / his body. You can tell how beautiful they are. Point out all of their strengths and tell them that they have other good things too.
   • Tell yourself these things when you find yourself being damaged by negative beliefs or attitudes about your body. Say things like: "I'm smart. I have a beautiful skin. I was great with my outfit last night."

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   Determine if there is a more serious problem. If you experience persistent problems with your self-esteem or negative self-image that causes you to practice a harsh diet or stop eating, you should see a specialist with experience in dealing with the problem. about self-awareness and eating disorders. A mental health professional in this area can help you adopt cognitive and behavioral strategies, help you change negative thoughts about your body and develop healthy habits.
   • Another solution for building your confidence is to join a self-image group. The therapist may refer you to a local group or specialist that has a group he / she meets regularly. This group will help you connect with others who are going through problems with a similar self-image as you, and help you find the courage to overcome these troubles.
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Method 3 of 3: Action

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   Do not use a scale. This may seem unnatural, but a surefire way to stop obsessing about and feeling bad about your weight is to stop using it. The truth is that the scale is just one way of measuring your progress - and not the most reliable way. Plus, if you gain weight every morning and blame yourself for the same or increase in weight, it can make you more uncomfortable than necessary.
   • The weight can be misleading, like the same 68kg, but a 1.58m tall person will be completely different from a 1.7m tall person.
   • Instead of focusing on weight, track progress in a more reliable way, such as regular blood tests to measure blood sugar, blood pressure and cholesterol. These numbers can provide useful health information, and can also detect disease if the signs are not good.
   • Go to the gym or fitness center and exercise. This measure can help determine if you have a healthy Body Mass Index (BMI), and if you need to lose fat and gain muscle, these two factors will have an effect. to your body weight when weighed.

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   Develop a healthy eating plan. If you feel unsatisfied with your weight, following a nutritious diet can help you feel more confident. Here's a proven way to act against physical embarrassment. Try to eat quality and unprocessed foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, seafood, nuts, seeds, and low-fat milk. Avoid refined and processed foods that alter their original condition.
   • You can visit choosemyplate.gov to find some recommendations for a balanced diet from the US Department of Agriculture if you live in the US.
   • If you are interested in getting personal and personal feedback on your diet related to body mass and lifestyle, see a registered dietitian.

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   Be active. The second most important factor to becoming healthier is a regular exercise program. This doesn't mean spending a few hours in the gym. The fitness program can include a variety of activities you enjoy like volleyball, swimming or dancing. No matter what you do, regular exercise will help you burn calories, feel better in appearance, have more energy and relieve stress.

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   Set goals for yourself. Setting goals allows you to create a pathway for success. Defining goals helps us see whether everyday activities are helping us towards our goals or away from them. Plus, achieving your goals will give you confidence and build your self-esteem. If you want to feel less self-conscious about your weight, you can try implementing a weight loss or exercise goal like eating lots of vegetables or exercising for 5 days a week. Make sure your goal follows the S.M.A.R.T.
   • Specific. You set a specific goal by answering the following questions. Who does it relate to? What do you want to accomplish? Where will the goal take place? When will it start / end? Why are you doing this?
   • Measurable. Good goal setting includes monitoring and measuring progress.
   • Achievable. You want a goal to challenge you, but you also want it to be something you can achieve in a possible way. For example, you shouldn't set a goal of losing body weight quickly in the short term.
   • Results-focused. Targets S.M.A.R.T. focus on results. You track your progress over time and determine if you ultimately achieved your goal.
   • Time-bound. The right timing is also important in goal setting. You need to set a realistic and practical timeframe so you don't lose your focus.

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   Dress up to look your best. Another way to get rid of embarrassment is to be confident with your looks. Find a stylist for a haircut or a style that flaunts your face. Besides, take a look at the wardrobe and check out each model you have. Ask yourself if they make you feel happy, confident, and attractive. How often do you snatch or hide certain samples? If they don't make you look great, don't wear them anymore (or make a donation).
   • Maybe you don't have the money to go shopping and renovate your entire wardrobe. Buy some favorites and when you have extra money, choose a few new models that will make you feel confident and like the person you want to be. You should smile at yourself in the mirror while wearing these.
   • Find a small store or clothing store that sells well-made, fabric patterns. These models don't have to be expensive, but they need to be beautiful and of good quality. Choose a few beautiful models that are right for you to increase your confidence and enhance your body beauty when wearing them.
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Advice

• Always be honest with yourself. If dressing in a way that makes you feel happy, don't change your style for someone else's opinion.
• You don't have to wear dark clothing for your body to look slim. The colors bring great effect to everyone with different body sizes and physique. Try what you think is right for you!