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There are many reasons a friendship ends. Sometimes, people have disagreements that they cannot overcome, or just because you are becoming more distant from you. You may come across a situation where, despite your best efforts, some friends simply are either simply not ready or unable to maintain friendships with you. These are sad moments, but anyone can face them. Remember that you have the power to survive and move forward.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Forget everything

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   Take time to grieve. Losing a friend can be very painful. Pretending as if it didn't happen or suppressing the pain you feel will only help in the short-term, but in the end, it will make it harder to overcome. Acknowledge that you've lost something important to you and that you might feel sad about it.
   • Do not hesitate to cry. Crying helps relieve emotions.
   • Listening to some sad music or watching a sad movie can actually help relieve you. It reinforces the fact that you're not alone in this feeling and will give you hope for a better future.

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   Delete old correspondence. Don't cling to messages or emails that might make you want to read them again. Reading your correspondence over and over will only prolong feelings of loneliness and pain after your friendship has ended.
   • You can back up your correspondence to a USB flash drive and have a friend or relative hold it for you, hoping that one day you won't feel the pain of revisiting old memories of the time when your friendship was still strong firm.

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   Stop making friends (unfriend) or unfollow that person on social media. Knowing what the person is doing without you will only immerse you in the past instead of looking into the future. You'll recover faster and may be more willing to forget things if you don't read Facebook posts often.

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   Eliminate photos. You don't have to throw them away, but you can. Eliminate anything that reminds you of old friends, such as gifts or souvenirs.

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   Write about your feelings. Another great way to deal with emotions is to write about them. Maybe you wonder what happened or feel angry with your friend. You can write a letter that shows all of your feelings to the person but not send them. When finished, you can tear the letter apart or put it in the drawer. The purpose of this action is just to process your feelings.

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   Don't blame yourself. Avoid seeing the whole process as a reflection of who you are. There are many reasons for the end of a friendship.Even if you feel as though you were at fault for preventing your friends from maintaining friendships with you, know that every relationship is a 50/50 share of two participants. You cannot control the opponent. advertisement

Part 2 of 3: Seeking help

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   See a therapist. If you are really struggling to move forward, it will be difficult for you to deal with your feelings professionally. Trained therapists listen to your views about what happened and help you learn from your mistakes.

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   Call family members. When friends become a problem, sometimes reaching out to family is the safe solution. If possible, try to call someone you think they have experienced a similar separation in the past. Although any family member will give you great comfort, you can chat with your parents or grandparents who have more experience in life.

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   Consult friends who do not know your old friend. You can get in touch with an unknown person who no longer wants to be friends. They will listen to your feelings and give you a more objective view of the situation. You should let them know that you appreciate their support. Remember that even if you lose a friend, you still have other friends.

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   Be careful with mutual friends. Friends you both know will not be suitable for you to contact when you feel like you need to handle a loss in a friendship. You risk being shunned even more if seen as trying to get people to split sides. However, you can still reach out to them when you need friendship. This will be a reminder to keep in mind that there are still many people who care about you.
   • Avoid mentioning people who no longer want to meet you.
   • Try to focus on the similarities between you and your current friends.

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   Do not defame old friends. It can be heartbreaking when a friend says they no longer want to see you. You should avoid gossiping about them or ruining their reputation at all costs. As your emotions subside, both of you will probably realize that this friendship is still fixable. The two of you will even get back together and closer together after this huge disagreement. You wouldn't want to make things worse or minimize any chance of mending your friendship because you talked badly behind someone else's back. advertisement

Part 3 of 3: Moving forward

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   Know that you'll make new friends. People will come and go in our lives. Your friendship may well be in its cycle. You should see it as a void in your life that you can fill with a new, stronger friendship.

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   Be grateful. When your friendship ends, it will be easier to focus on the negativity. Take a look at every factor that makes you feel grateful in life. Make a list of the people who are close to you, the skills you are proud of, the organization you join, or a task you enjoy. Keep this list with you, like putting it in your wallet, bag, or hanging it above your desk so you can read it again whenever you feel lonely.

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   Away from home. Getting around indoors and thinking about your distant friend will make it hard to forget them. If you find yourself spending too much time indoors, get out of the house. You can go for a jog or go to the gym. Go to a place with lots of people like a cafe, library or a concert.

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   Join a certain class. Pursuing a new hobby will be a great distraction and can help you meet new friends. You should sign up for a class that interests you to keep busy for yourself. A yoga or meditation class can be helpful in times of grief. You can also take cooking classes, learn to dance, or learn to play an instrument.

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   Do things you enjoy. Don't allow lost friendships to keep you from enjoying life. Make sure to spend extra time doing something you love and making you happy. Read books, play games, hang out with friends, play musical instruments. Keep busy.

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   Become patient. Recovering from the loss of a friendship takes time. Even if you really feel lonely and depressed, know that your emotions won't last forever and as long as you take good care of yourself, you'll have the strength to get through the process. advertisement