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There is one very dilemma you need to deal with, which is to find out if a co-worker is having feelings for you. Not only will you get mixed signals from the person who likes you, but you may not even know how to respond appropriately due to the regulations in the workplace. However, there are many ways to know if your co-workers like you. By evaluating non-verbal communication and talking face-to-face with the other person, you will be able to understand their true feelings.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Evaluation of non-verbal communication

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   Observe how the other person treats your personal space. Pay attention to how your ex appears to be in your personal space. If a co-worker likes you, they will probably come closer to you more often than when they didn't develop a crush on you.
   • Does the person approach you gently and comfortably? Perhaps they want to befriend you or show their affection for you.
   • Notice if your colleague walks into your private space and touches your shoulder, strokes your hair, touches or pats your arm, or repeatedly bumps you?
   • Always pay attention to how they treat those around you before making a judgment about someone liking you.
   • Be careful not to confuse people who like you with "people who like standing close to others when talking" or people who do not understand or respect their private space.

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   Observe if the other person often finds an excuse to appear by your side. An effective non-verbal way of getting to know a co-worker likes you is to gauge if they find any way around you. If so, that could be a sign that they care about you.
   • If someone doesn't have a practical or beneficial reason to be around you but they always show up by your side, they are probably having feelings for you.
   • If someone is constantly around you but their appearance is for some reason needed, they may not have a crush on you.

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   Notice if your coworkers are watching you. Take a moment to see if the other person is constantly gazing at you. Combined with other cues, your ex's gaze on you may be telling the fact that they like you. Your co-workers may be in love with you if they have one of the following:
   • They stare at you all day for no apparent reason.
   • They stare at you, wink at you, or eye your attention during a meeting or other company event.
   • They are constantly looking at your appearance.

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   Observe the other person's body language. Body language is very important in determining whether your co-workers like you. By observing his or her body language, you will get some necessary hints about how they feel for you.
   • Is the person standing comfortably and posing? If their arms and legs are in an open position and their posture is natural, they may be interested in you.
   • Are they sending out signals that they are not easily accessible? If they stand with their arms folded across their chest or step back, they are probably shy or not interested in you.
   • Always evaluate body language in conjunction with the signals and cues the other person sends you.
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Part 2 of 3: Chat with coworkers

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   Pay attention if the other person often compliments you. Think about how often your ex complimented you. Compliments or good comments can say that they value you or even like you.
   • If your partner is constantly praising your work, it may mean they only respect you as a coworker.
   • If your ex compliments your appearance or does other non-work related things, they may have special feelings for you.
   • Don't take compliments as acknowledgment that your coworkers love you. Evaluate compliments in a context with many other factors.

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   Consider what topics your colleagues are telling you about. The subject of a conversation can give you a lot of solid clues about how the other person feels about you. Therefore, pay a little attention to what the other person tells you and the type of communication they initiate. Ask yourself the following:
   • Is the other party talking about very personal information? If so, this could be a signal that they view you on a more intimate level than an acquaintance.
   • Is the person talking about sex, intimacy, or romantic relationships? That could be a romantic way to attract your attention.
   • Did the other party confide secrets to you? This suggests that they consider you to be above the level of a colleague.
   • Is your partner inviting you to activities outside of work? This can be a sure signal that they have feelings for you.

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   Ask co-workers about their relationship with you. After observing the cues, you may need to frankly ask the other person if they like you. While this is not the easiest or most comfortable thing you need to do, it will get the answer you want.
   • Ask like this, "Do you think our relationship goes beyond work?"
   • If you don't want to ask in person, try using your humor to ask half-truths and half jokes. You can joke about other co-workers avoiding you, and then say, "Looks like I don't hate you like everyone else".
   • Be cautious when you suggest wanting an above-normal co-worker relationship.
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Part 3 of 3: Avoid Trouble

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   Find out about the company's rules for your workplace relationships. Before you even begin to take action to determine whether your co-workers like you, you need to find out how the company regulates workplace romance. This is important, even if you don't want to get involved in a relationship, because rumors about you and your partner can cause problems.
   • Check out the employee handbook, if you have one, learn about the relationship rules at work.
   • Talk to your human resources manager if you can't find relevant information.
   • Tell your supervisor if you are starting a formal relationship, and you both admit.

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   Avoid anything that could be considered sexual harassment. When you try to find out if a co-worker likes you, make sure you avoid any conversation or action that could potentially be perceived as sexual harassment. This is a very difficult job, because many other people will be sensitive about the subject and what you think is the harmless comment could be seen as something of more profound significance.
   • Never make an obvious erotic or intimate commentary about someone with whom you do not have a formal relationship with a recognized partner.
   • Don't touch other coworkers unless you get a sign of approval from them, and never touch anyone at work in a sexual or cuddly manner, even if you are going to know each other.
   • If you think someone likes you, and you don't know how to turn them down, go to human resources.
   • If someone approaches you even if you don't like it and has signaled to stop, report it to management or human resources immediately.

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   Don't make assumptions. Perhaps the most important thing you need to do when trying to determine if a co-worker likes you is to avoid deduction. When you make assumptions, you will hurry to conclude many issues without thinking through. Then, you will do or say things that could cause you trouble or hurt someone else's feelings.
   • Make sure you always have the correct information when making a decision about what to do.
   • Don't treat someone differently because you think they like you.
   • Don't expect an appointment, sex, or anything similar from someone you think they have feelings for you.
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