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When feeling inferior or looked down on, people often show jealousy and hatred. This can cause awkward situations and make you feel guilty about your success. However, you can still foster positive relationships by talking frankly with the jealous person and using strategies that help them overcome feelings of jealousy.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Dealing with jealous people

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   Don't see things as personal attacks. Understand that when someone is jealous of you it is their problem, not your own. You need to have confidence in yourself. Don't let jealous people influence your confidence or make you skeptical of yourself.
   • Continue doing what you are doing and don't let anyone stop you.
   • Focus on your supporters.
   • Tell yourself that they are jealous because you are succeeding.

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   Ignore the envious comments. Although difficult to do, ignoring the jealous person's comments is a way of showing that you are not encouraging their emotions.

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   Face the envious people in your life. If you can't ignore someone, handling the situation directly can help relieve jealousy. Talk frankly about their behavior.
   • "I hope we have a positive work relationship; what can I do to improve the situation?"
   • "I take your constructive criticism seriously, but sometimes I feel you are a bit too harsh."

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   Limit negative interactions with someone who is jealous. If you can change your environment or social activities, you can reduce the likelihood that the person will influence you.
   • Communicate with your supporters, so that the other person is less likely to attack while you are in a group.
   • When you see the person, politely say hello first, then leave.
   • Make friends with the person's friends to make them feel like an outsider.

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   Change your schedule so you don't have to see the person personally. Take the other route, use the restroom on a different floor, or see if you can change classes or work shifts.

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   Set boundaries. Don't think that you just have to go on with what the envious person puts on you. Set boundaries to create distance from the person. Set limits in your mind about how much time you spend with the jealous person, then politely withdraw from the conversation.
   • Give yourself a minute when you talk to them, then leave and say "I have something to do".
   • Count the negative comments, and after 3 sentences like that, stop the conversation.

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   Let the person know that you are not accepting negativity. While you don't want to be rude or irritate them further, you can make the jealous person change their behavior by letting them know what they are doing to you.
   • "I feel uncomfortable with the way you talk to me."
   • "Your behavior when we talk makes me feel uncomfortable. Can we change for the better?"
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Part 2 of 4: Helping the person overcome jealousy

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   Go beyond jealous and hate people. No matter how negative the person appears to be, keep a positive interaction with them.Show them how to better handle the situation by being an example.
   • Compliment their positives.
   • Gracious in all interactions with that person.
   • Offer to help them improve skills in an area where they are jealous of you.

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   Talk to them about your troubles. Some people think that they alone are having unfortunate experiences. By opening up to them about your problems, you are helping the jealous person realize that they are not the only one going through harsh situations so you can improve your relationship.
   • Share your failures.
   • Discuss tasks that you find difficult.
   • Ask a jealous person to help you with something to help them increase their confidence.

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   Help the person to improve himself. Jealousy often stems from a feeling of inferiority. Offering mentoring or guiding them to improve skills in areas where they are jealous of you can help alleviate that feeling. Support their efforts so you don't seem 'humiliated' by implying you're better than them.

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   Offer alternative solutions. If someone is jealous of what you have or what you are doing, offer them other options. We can't always give people what they want. Be creative when you think of other options for the person who is jealous of you. Try to come up with a variety of options that they can choose from.

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   Avoid posting provocative comments or photos on social media. You don't have to stop using social media, but considering how others feel can also help you ensure that the things you post don't make '' sore eyes' and make others jealous. advertisement

Part 3 of 4: Understanding the source of jealousy and negativity

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   Understand jealousy. People get jealous when they see someone has something they think should belong to them. People who are jealous often blame everyone around them without realizing that the feelings hurt them.

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   Find out the source of that person's jealousy. Jealousy. largely rooted in fear. The fear of being looked down on or afraid of being loved can have a big effect. Find out which fear is harboring jealousy in order to understand its source. Jealousy can come from a variety of causes:
   • Physical objects
   • Personal relationships
   • Position in career
   • Social status

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   Frankly asked what bothered them. Gently approach the person jealous of your success and ask them why. Don't upset them with being rude, but you need to be open and straightforward for the best results. You can try one of the following suggestions to help open their hearts:
   • "I noticed that his attitude was a bit different in my presence. Did I do anything that bothers you? ''
   • "I want to make sure it doesn't upset you. Is everything all right? ''
   • "You are a shrewd person, and I want to know what's wrong with us.
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Part 4 of 4: Distinguishing jealousy from criticism

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   Consider the source of your behavior. Reflect on who makes comments that you consider to be jealous. If the person is your boss or coach, they are probably trying to improve you, not putting you down.

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   Observe the person's interactions with others. Some people tend to suffer from paranoid jealousy. These people constantly show jealousy and may not understand what they say.

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   Be ready to receive positive comments. Even if you feel like someone's comments are too blunt or rude, you can still accept constructive comments. Appreciate your suggestions and keep a positive outlook. advertisement

Advice

• If someone is jealous of you, understand that you are probably doing a great job, motivating you with this.
• Don't share any information with people who are too narcissistic. These people are just waiting to capture negative information about you to act as a tool to influence other people's perception of you. Keep a safe distance and don't share anything with them. If they are family members, talk about them so you don't have to talk about you.
• Remember that jealous people are just people who have negative attitudes about what others have, such as talent or passion, not because of their personality.
• You don't need to change! You just need to be yourself!