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Nobody likes to see other people sad, but if it's your friend, you can't just sit still and do nothing. Maybe she had a fight with a lover, didn't get a promotion, lost a loved one, been diagnosed with a serious illness, or some other traumatic event that made her feel sad. Luckily she already has a friend like you to help her get through this difficult time. Here are some suggestions for you to motivate your friend.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Listen to Her

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   Ask her what's wrong. Ask if she wants to talk about it. You can say, “I think you are very sad lately. What 's up?". Maybe she really wanted to talk about it and was just waiting to be asked. So please listen to her answer. Be quiet and don't interrupt her. You don't have to give an opinion or advice unless she asks.
   • If she doesn't want to talk, respect her choice. Maybe she's hurting too much, and she feels like it'd be a break to talk about it. She just needed a moment to accept her situation and feelings. Give her time and let her know that you are there if she wants to talk.

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   Comfort her with emotion. Remind her that she is a wonderful person and means a lot to you. Note how she feels when she talks about her sadness. You could say, “I know it's very sad. I'm so sorry you have to endure that. Continue to show her kindness and encourage her. Always be a loyal friend. This is not the time to abandon or avoid her.
   • Don't tell other people about her problem.
   • If she asks for advice, give your opinion.
   • If you don't know what to say to her, suggest someone who can help, like a trusted friend, a family member, or an expert.

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   Try to understand what your friend is going through. If you cannot understand, listen. You can offer to help her without having to show encouragement about things you disagree with.Don't blame her and rub salt in her wound. For example, if she is upset because she just quarreled with her husband, don't say, "I told you not to marry him."
   • If you can't say what she wants to hear, say you're always there for her, no matter what.
   • Don't take her feelings lightly.
   • A hug and a fist will say many things.

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   Please be patient. Your friend may be scowling or angry at you, and she may be flattering at you. Don't think it's yours. Just ignore it and realize that she is not herself. She is under a lot of stress, and you know that she has had a good time before. advertisement

Method 2 of 3: Remind Her to Laugh

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   Make her laugh. Let's do dumb things together. Play music and dance together in a funny way. Rent a comedy and watch it with her. Tell her jokes. Remember the funny memories you both shared.

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   Offer to take her to a happy place. Go shopping with her. It could have been an enjoyable ride. Take her to lunch or meet other people. Take care of your friend's personality and interests. Ask yourself, “What can I do to encourage and distract her? What does she like to do? "
   • At first, your friend can decline your invitation. Maybe she will say she doesn't want to go anywhere. Encourage her and tell her that she doesn't have to get through this on her own, and meeting others will help her.

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   Buy her a nice gift or card. It could be a simple gift like a box of candy, a bottle of scented oil or her favorite flower. A comforting card on the right side will also help her feel better. These gifts will tell her that you value her and think about her. They will also help her think less about her problem, even if it's temporary.
   • Your actions will make her see that there are still a lot of people who care about her pain in the world, and they want to help.
   • She will remember what you did when she was sad and lonely.
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Method 3 of 3: Being a Sincere Friend

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   Offer to help her with something. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help her. Offer to babysitting for help when she needs time alone to deal with her sadness. You can go shopping and / or cook for her some meals. Clean the house for her. If her parents are seriously ill, take them to the hospital with her.

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   Let her know that you are always there for her. She may need some alone time. Leave her alone, but tell her she can call you when needed, any time. If she accepts and calls you at 2 a.m., pick up and listen to her. If she needs to see you at 3am, get out of bed and go see her.
   • Don't forget to call her to ask her how she feels.

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   Talk to mutual friends. Shared friends can help comfort her and make her feel better. Don't tell them anything she just told you about. Ask her first if you can tell them about her sadness, and be sure to ask what you can tell.

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   Suggest her to see the specialist. If your friend is still sad, if sadness interferes with her life, if you find you can't cheer her up, her problem may be more serious than being sad about having trouble. She may be depressed. Be honest with your worries. Ask her to talk to someone about sad things. Get her a counselor or therapist, and get her to the clinic if needed.
   • If you think your friend is attempting suicide, get help right away. Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) - the National Suicide Prevention hotline in the US, or if in Vietnam, you can call the hotline 1900599930, key 1 to contact the Room Center combating psychological crisis and suicide (PCP).
   • If your friend is having a serious crisis, call 115 or 911 (in the US).
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Warning

• Don't make her feel frustrated by encouraging her. That will overwhelm her and keep her away from you.