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• Method 1 of 2: Pay attention to behavior
• Method 2 of 2: Notice what someone is saying

Falling for someone who naturally likes to flirt can be confusing - you may understand that that person is flirting with you, but not sure if it's because they like you or just flirt with everyone? Or does their attention mean they want to pursue a deeper relationship with you? While it can be difficult to find out the true intentions of a flirty person, this article aims to help you catch those signs that someone is hoping to become more than just a friend.

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Method 1 of 2: Pay attention to behavior

1. Notice if they get nervous or suddenly stay quiet when you're around. One way to tell if a flirt really loves you is if the person is "not" flirting with you. If the person is a natural flirt, they probably don't think too much about their own actions around friends - that's just the way they are. But if they close, get nervous and act nervous when you are around, and not really be themselves, it could be because they are now very aware of their own behavior and overthinking everything.
   • Notice how they interact in a group, then walk over to say "hi." See if the person's behavior changes. Does he or she become silent, does he / she stop acting silly or does that person say nothing more, but keep looking at you?
   • See if one of your friends wants to join the group to embarrass him or her a bit - nothing mean, just a light-hearted joke about the other person. If the person blushes or feels embarrassed when they would normally let the joke pass them, it may mean that they don't want to appear less good when you are there.
   • If you make them nervous, he can still be very nice to other people and seem to ignore you or be less friendly to you.
   • Not every flirty person gets nervous around their crush, so if that person doesn't suddenly become shy, it doesn't necessarily mean they don't like you. This could be someone who will instead give you "more" attention.
2. Look at his or her way of moving when you are together and see if the other person mirrors your movements. If someone is interested in you, that person will subconsciously copy your body language. When you're together, cross your legs and see if the other person does the same a few seconds later. Have a drink and see if the other person follows your example.
   • Mirroring someone's actions is a way to bond, feel comfortable with each other, and signal that you like the other person, even if you don't even realize you're doing this.
   • If you decide to try this in reverse - mimicking his or her movements so that he or she is unconsciously comfortable with you - be careful not to do this too closely or accurately. Wait a few seconds before mirroring his or her actions. If they catch on to what you're doing, they may think you're making fun of them, which will ruin the effect.
3. Pay attention to a lot of eye contact. Try to notice if he / she is constantly looking at you from across the room or in a group, blushing or looking away when you see him or her looking. When you talk to each other, notice if that person is going to look into your eyes as if to study them. Prolonged eye contact or a lot of quick glances in your direction indicates that someone is interested in you.
   • To know if she likes you, try holding his or her gaze while you flirt. If the person is uncomfortable with it and quickly looks away, there is probably no romantic interest. But if the person is staring back at you, it is a good sign that he / she is interested in you.
   • You can find out if someone is looking at you by taking a little action, by pretending that you are seeing something strange outside. If that person is really watching you, he / she can't help looking outside as well.
4. Make sure you are in a group situation together and see if he / she pays more attention to you. When you're with a lot of other people, does the person seem to be paying attention to you? When you have separate conversations with other people, does he / she suddenly appear, making it clear that he / she has paid more attention to what you just said than the person he / she just talked to? If someone likes you, they will constantly be looking for ways to be around you and communicate with you.
   • Eat out as a group and see if he / she makes sure to sit next to you.
   • Try to do things in a group a few times, and see if the other person does his / her best to come and talk to you every time.
   • Go to a party and try to stay to the end. If he hangs around long after most people have left, then he probably just went to the party to talk to you to talk.

Method 2 of 2: Notice what someone is saying

1. Start using a particular word a lot and see if he / she starts saying it. It doesn't have to be very obvious - you may say "all of you" instead of "you" - and you find it starting to emerge as part of the other person's vocabulary. This is a way of unconsciously indicating that you are on the same wavelength and that the other person hopes you will like them.
   • If you have a light accent, that person can take over without realizing.
2. Wonder how deep your conversations are. Always keep them very light, with lots of jokes and talk about movies or a difficult assignment - topics that the other person would likely discuss with everyone? Or has they started to confide in you a little bit, tell you more personal things, or really elaborate on their faith or hope for the future? If so, she wants you to take him or her seriously and build a deeper connection with him or her.
   • If the person seems upset or you know they had a bad day, let them know you're available to talk and see if they confide in you.
   • If conversations are somewhat shallow, but the person gets really excited when you have things in common, they are still trying to connect with you. So when you're talking about movies and it turns out that you both love Jason Statham, and the person is overjoyed, they want to show they are a good match.
3. Find out if he / she asked about you or mentioned you. Ask your friends if your name came up in a conversation and if they like his or her friends can hear if they talk about you a lot. If someone likes you, they will be curious about you and what you like. So if someone casually asks a friend of yours who is on her way to basketball practice if you are on that team too, that person is very interested in you.
   • If someone turns out to mention your name often in conversations, perhaps in connection with something funny or interesting that you've said, that's a sign that you're on their mind.
   • He or she may even tell mutual friends to be genuinely interested in you, hoping they will tell you.