How to get rid of a bad reputation: 15 steps (with photos) - tips

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Your reputation was not formed when you were born. Instead, over time, it develops through your behavior as well as your relationships with others. If you treat people disrespectfully or badly, you will have a bad reputation. You can also get a bad reputation if others spread negative or negative information about you, even if your behavior is not as bad as what they say. Repairing a bad reputation takes time, honesty, and effort. Ask family and friends for feedback. What can you improve? You should make a plan for yourself in the future. Do your best to be the best person you can be and be kind to others.

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Part 1 of 3: Evaluate your reputation

Journal about your views toward yourself. If you know that other people are thinking badly about you, ask yourself: What did you do or didn't do? Did your attitude change after these actions? How do you think about yourself? Write down everything you like and dislike about your behavior and personality. Think about ways to improve what you don't like. Also, think about how to become more confident in any element you like, whether it's your personality trait or your dress style.
- For example, if a bad reputation comes from the way you dress but you love it, this is perfectly acceptable. You don't do anything wrong by showing your own personality. In fact, learning to assert yourself is a very important life skill. You can explain to others why you are dressed like that, regardless of whether you follow a religious belief or have an interest in a cultural group such as punk music. Standing up to the pressure of others and from bullying is not easy, but it is well worth it in helping you to be true to yourself.
Seek feedback and help from friends and family. Your loved one will give you important insight into your personality and reputation. Have they heard negative opinions about you? Are they true? If they are absolutely correct, you should ask family and friends for advice on how to improve and repair your damaged reputation.
- You may find that your reputation is not as ruined as you think it is. Introspection is still important.
Realize that you may not be the cause of a bad reputation for yourself. Unfortunately, sometimes people will gossip or spread negative words that can damage your reputation. They do so because of their own prejudice or insecurity.
- "Slut-shaming" is a popular tactic used to make women feel bad about how they dress or behave. For example, perhaps your favorite jeans are quite tight, or maybe you like to wear a shirt that shows a bit of cleavage. Others will call you a "bad girl" or "flirt" for your clothes, even when expressing yourself in fashion is not a mistake. Many studies suggest that women engage in this behavior almost as often as men. This is behavior that stems from a deeply sexist socio-cultural tradition, believing that a woman's body is subject to social commentary, and it will be quite difficult to accept that the say hurt has nothing to do with who you are.
- This kind of reputation is not going to be easy to deal with, as it is inherently hurtful and unfair. You need to decide how much you want to accommodate the needs of society, and what level of self-expression you feel most comfortable with. Talking to a counselor can help.
Evaluate your relationship. You should look back at your friends. Are they helping or destroying your reputation? If they have contributed to your bad reputation, find new friends. Consider joining a new club or volunteer group. Find someone interested in being active and helpful. Surround yourself with people you admire. Encourage old friends to improve at the same time.
- People tend to "follow" the emotions of the group of people they interact with. If your group of friends behaves negatively, even if you are a nice person, their behavior will be infectious to you. On the other hand, if you meet someone who is kind, kind, has a good reputation, their behavior and feelings will affect you in a positive way.
Test your reputation in the virtual world. In the digital age, you also need to maintain your reputation online. Employers at work and college, as well as others will find you. Use your search engine to find out which links are linking to your name. Are you the leader in post positive or professional social media profiles like LinkedIn? Your virtual life is also your real life, so be positive and be perfect for it.
- Remove any negative social media posts. Consider posting positive posts publicly. If your social media account depicts you as a good person, it will be difficult for others to believe a lie or rumors trying to turn you into a bad guy.
- Remember that reviews will also nourish your reputation. If you are rude or mean when you review a particular service or business, this will adversely affect you. If you want to share negative feedback, do this in a more constructive way. For example, a review on the Yelp website saying, "This Starbucks is SURRIVAL and the staff there is THAT LOVING" is not constructive, and may make people think you are rude or mean. Instead, write something like "Last time, when I bought coffee at Starbucks, I had to repeat it three times to order, and the barista was rude to me. Disappointed and I won't be coming back here. " You are still making your complaint, but in a more mature way.
- If you regularly post articles that many people disapprove of, such as about drug use, you should not continue to post them (or at least set your privacy to limit your audience). your post).
- Monitor everything your friends tag (tag) you on social media. Remove inappropriate tags, or tags that you don't want your potential boss or teacher to see.
- Set your privacy setting to "close friends" (close friends only) or "friends" (for friends) for your social media posts like Facebook. You shouldn't spread the negativity openly.
- Regardless of your privacy settings, you should not write offensive or untrue things about others online. In addition, you should also avoid sending messages, images, or emails that contain malicious content. You don't want to be an online bully.
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Part 2 of 3: Improving reputation

Act quickly. If you know that you have a bad reputation, get it fixed immediately. Minimizing harm will help you get back in the right direction quickly.
- Evaluate what to do. This process depends on the type of reputation you have developed. For example, if you have a bad reputation as a bully, stop giving orders to others or make things go your way. Perhaps you should volunteer to become a tutor or a mentor for young children to restore your reputation. Dividing your "bad reputation" into two things: for example, being known as a bully means people think you are unkind, disrespectful, manipulative, have problems with anger or just know to think for yourself. You need to address any issues to get rid of that reputation.
- Write down a list of steps that can help you. If your reputation is severely damaged, there is a lot you need to do to fix it. For example, if you have a reputation for being a sluggish person who never gets serious about anything, it takes time and effort for people to notice that you've changed. Consider these anti-bad practices, like setting alarms to let you go to school earlier, taking part-time activities to show that you are responsible, and getting homework on time to shows that you are becoming more organized.
- Don't worry, but don't wait too long before proceeding to correct the situation.
- Consider sharing with an adult you trust about an approach to restoring your reputation. An objective point of view will help you see things in a different direction.
Make amends for mistakes. Talk to the person that you offended them. Please forgive them for your behavior. Tell them that you value them and want to improve their relationship salt. Ask for forgiveness. For example, you could say, "Spring, I am very sorry for spreading false rumors about you. I still want to maintain this friendship. What can I do to improve the situation?". In general, you should make a sincere effort to improve yourself.
- In addition to apologizing, you should offer to correct the mistake. This will show that you are truly repentant. For example, if you have a bad reputation for being late, you shouldn't just say "Sorry I'm late". Be specific about what you will do next time, like "I set the alarm on my phone 10 minutes earlier so I can be on time every time I make a date with my friends. want you to know that I cherish your time and friendship ".
- Another example, if you have a bad reputation as someone who regularly borrows money from others without paying them back, apologizing is great, but it only solves half of the problem. You can redeem your mistakes by paying them back. If you don't have enough money right now, tell the person you borrowed that you are working part-time to make money back for them. Give them a specific installment period.
- You can also indirectly make amends. For example, if you've done something wrong and caused damage that you can't fix, you can try to make a difference in another way. For example, if your negligent driving causes your friend to be injured, you cannot heal the person. However, you can help them with chores, homework, or anything that makes the person's life easier while they are recovering.
Clarify misunderstandings. If bullshit rumors are damaging your reputation, tell people the truth. Personal interview the person spreading rumors about you. Ask why they act like that. Ask them to stop spreading untruths. For the person affected by this rumor, discuss with them what happened.
- Slandering others is also bullying. Verbal bullying, such as spreading rumors or blackmailing others by threatening to spread personal information to others, can cause serious harm. If this is the case, talk to someone with authority you trust, such as a parent, teacher, or counselor. Bullying is wrong, and you can help bring it to an end.
Practice positive behavior. You need to be helpful and supportive. Please show your gratitude to everyone. Consider how small or large you can make the change. Smile at everyone. Give them sincere praise. For example, you could tell a colleague that their presentation was engaging. You can also help the elderly or babysit for busy parents. The more good deeds you do, the better you will feel. And at the same time, you will also be able to help others.
- Check out our attitudes for the day. If you find yourself acting negative or unkind, find out why. Try to identify the root cause of your attitude. For example, does waking up early make you grumpy? If this is the case, you should go to bed early so you don't feel tired.
- Possesses "positive posture". You should try to stand up straight, hold your chest up, and keep your head up. Open your arms as wide as you can. Feel strong and positive. Having a “positive posture” will also encourage your mind to feel more positive.
- Write a gratitude diary. Write about every element for which you are grateful. What has been going pretty well during your day? You can also ask a friend to become a partner to practice your gratitude. You can both discuss all the favorable factors in each other's life. You can also talk about unhappiness.
- Consider volunteering to help with a good career. Studies have shown that you feel better about yourself when you volunteer. Supporting others lets people know that you are not self-centered or mean and that you are willing to do your best to improve your community.
- Direct your positive behavior in fighting against the specificity of your reputation. For example, if you have a reputation for being selfish, make an effort to help others. If you are found to be slanderous, you should openly refuse to talk about other people, and confront the person who is defaming others.
Become a trustworthy person. Be there at the right time and at the right place where you said it. Don't be late. If someone else shares a secret with you, do not tell anyone (unless the person is in danger). If people can trust and rely on you, your reputation will improve.
- You should remember to say less to do more.
- If you make a mistake, admit it right away. This method will show people that you are trustworthy and responsible for your actions.
Take care of others. You should show genuine interest in the actions or thoughts of others. People often like people who question them and show concern for them. Ask the person you need help with. Monitor your relationships. Show your commitment to others through time, trust, and reciprocity.
- For example, you could ask your friend about the horse riding contest she participates in on the weekends. Ask her horse's name and how often she trains. If she is going to be in a tournament, you can go cheer on her.
- If your friend is struggling with an illness or having a problem, call them. Ask them. Consider sending them a card or bouquet of flowers.Let them know that you still remember them.
- Make a happy birthday phone call to your friends even if they live quite a distance from you. Keep an eye on your friends and important milestones in your relationship with them.
Plan for yourself in the future. You should decide what kind of person you want to be. Set clear goals for what you want others to feel or think about you. To you, what is the most important factor in how others view you?
- Focus on showing who you really are and living your values. "Making others think you're attractive" is not a helpful goal, and at the same time, it's completely beyond your ability to control. "Being sincere to let people know that you are trustworthy" is something you can control, and it is also a suitable goal for your personality that you value.
- If you are unsure of your values, take time to define them. What is most important to you? What core beliefs help guide your view of the world? What do you respect others about?
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Part 3 of 3: Maintaining a good reputation

Find someone to supervise you. After you have started to improve your reputation, ask a friend to monitor your behavior. When you become negative or hurt someone else, your friend will tell you. Remember to ask someone you trust. It is important not to be defensive towards this person. They just want to help you.
Express yourself honestly. Even if you are striving to be a better person, remember to be yourself. Ask yourself if your looks, gestures, tone of voice, and body language reflect who you truly are. There are many ways to be a positive, friendly person. You can have good personality traits but still be unique in your personality.
Please be patient. Not going to change your reputation overnight. It can take a while for others to realize what is good about you. Changing their negative views on you will take more time than it would take to establish a good reputation at first. It is important to be diligent and determined to be the best person. advertisement

Advice

In some cases, intentionally damaging another person's reputation will result in legal punishment. The law punishes intentional personal injury such as slander, which means declaring or saying untrue things that actually harm the victim. Smear the reputation of others by disclosing information that can be seen, such as spreading pictures or written text. These cases are very difficult to win, so if you are facing this problem, you should consult a qualified attorney.