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Once you become aware that your life needs adjustment, there are certain steps you can take to achieve this. Your thoughts, behavior, and emotions are all connected, and they influence, create, and nurture each other. You have direct control over your thoughts and behaviors: changing them will help you regulate your life. Apply the methods listed in this article to whatever aspect of your life you are trying to adjust.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Creating a plan

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   Determined target. Find a quiet place that will not be disturbed for at least 30 minutes. You will need white paper and a pencil. If you're at home with someone else, politely ask them not to disturb you while you work. Turning off music, television, or electronic devices can distract you. Set your phone to silent mode.

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   Think about what 'adjusting to life' means to you. When life is adjusted, what will it be like? Who will be the first to realize when your life has been adjusted? Consider all of this as you think about what aspects of your life need to be changed.
   • It's also normal to start with a wide range. Just aim for an idea of ​​what you want out of life.
   • For example, you might consider the question: "What do I want to bring to the world?" or "How do I want to be?"

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   Write down clear, concise goals for direction. Ambiguous goals like: ‘I want to be happy,’ or ‘I want to lose weight’, it's hard to achieve. Goals should be set according to SMART criteria: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-based. .
   • Such goals will help you gauge progress and indicate if you are on the right track. So instead of: ‘I want to lose weight’, you can write: ‘I want to lose half a kilogram every week until I weigh x kilogram’. You will decide what adjusting to your life means for you.
   • It is also okay to write about your goal a few times before finding out your exact goal. Write down your thoughts if it helps you handle them better. Writing down what you think can help separate you from your thoughts and become more objective.

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   Create a plan. Divide your goals into smaller, more manageable steps to achieve each goal individually or, if necessary, simultaneously. Remember to write down specific, time-limited, and measurable goals. For example, if the goal is ‘to get a job paying x in a month’ you could break it down into:
   • Research job listing on company websites and LinkedIn (Day 1: 2 hours)
   • Personal profile writing (Day 2: 1 hour)
   • Ask a friend to read the file carefully (Days 3-4)
   • Submit profile (Day 5)
   • Track your resume a week after submitting it. (12nd)

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   Put the paper somewhere where you can see it. Keeping your goals and plans in sight will keep you motivated. Paste them on the mirror / on the refrigerator / take pictures of them and save them as lock screen; wherever you know you'll see them often.
   • Read goals each morning. This will refresh the goals and the desire to achieve them. Don't just glimpse them: make sure to read them carefully. Start your day with a renewed sense of purpose and purpose. This is the part needed to achieve the goal.
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Part 2 of 4: Find a solution to the problem

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   There is personal responsibility. Acknowledge your role in getting where you are, whether intentional or unintentional. Being responsible doesn't mean you have to take the blame for something, it does mean being responsible for yourself. Since you know you have a role in creating your quality of life, you will find you can adjust it. Remember that you only control yourself: you can control your actions and influence others, but you cannot control them or the results of what you do.

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   Study the problem. Having a clearer idea of ​​how you've encountered an unpleasant situation will help you avoid making similar choices later on. Think about lessons that you have learned from your past mistakes. Consider social relationships, family circumstances, things said and done. Examine how you feel about the incident or if there is something you want to avoid. They will help your next move.

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   Identify the obstacles you may encounter. Make a list of all the challenges that may or are preventing you from reaching your goal. Think about your own behavior, other people you have to talk to, the healing efforts you have to make, what you have to buy or throw away. Think about the type of person you are playing with and what you do together. The obstacles will change depending on your situation.

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   Think of a solution. For each obstacle, create a list of possible solutions. What would be the best way to approach obstacles? Will you have to change your schedule? Will you have to ask someone for help? Think of the different ways you can overcome an obstacle if you encounter it. Consider the pros and cons of each situation. advertisement

Part 3 of 4: Dealing with your behaviors and habits

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   Identify behaviors that are preventing you from reaching your goals. Understanding them can help you find and apply alternative behaviors to help you achieve your goals. What you do will be the key to adjusting to your life.
   • On another sheet of paper, list all the things you do that are preventing you from recognizing your goals and adjusting your life. They can be daily routines and practices. Maybe you stay up too late to watch TV and this can make you late for work. Or maybe you eat 3 servings of dessert after each meal and it affects your diabetes.

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   Determine the type of behavior. Find out when and where you are more likely to engage in a behavior. For example, if the goal is 'lose x kilograms in x weeks until I weigh x kilogram' but you eat donuts when you are stressed, then stress is the trigger you need to pay attention to. Italy.
   • Think what made you act in a certain way or put you in an uncomfortable situation? If you have a habit of spending too much money and getting into debt, are there specific thoughts, feelings or opportunities that motivate you to shop? Sometimes the root of the problem is a deep secret and sometimes it is right in front of us. Give yourself time to have gentle inner self-examination. Ask yourself when a particular problem or behavior occurs - you may find the answer there. Are there any feelings or thoughts you are trying to avoid? As an adult, have you seen someone show a similar type of behavior?

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   List behaviors that are effective. Now that you understand what behaviors shape your current life, think about what you can do to help you reach your goals and adjust your life. The next time you are stressed, you can practice breathing exercises or other relaxation techniques. Or instead of spending 2 hours surfing Facebook or Tumblr before bedtime, spend half an hour surfing the web, and spend an hour and a half doing something that will make you successful.
   • The surrogate does not have to be something completely different. You can reduce the amount of time you spend on one thing and allocate the remaining time to another.

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   Replace ineffective behavior with ineffective behavior. The next time you feel like doing something you know is bad for your life, choose to do things that help you reach your goals. This will need you to actively choose a certain behavior. You will have to take control.
   • Consider asking a friend to help you change your behavior.
   • Remember that you don't have to hate something to stop doing it. You just need to feel like doing something more.
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Part 4 of 4: Action

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   Start immediately. You tend to think to yourself that you will do it tomorrow or will do it after the x happens. Procrastination stems from the fear of failure. The more hesitant to change yourself, the more time you'll spend adjusting to your life.

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   Stay with positive people. The people around you have an important influence on how you achieve your goals. Find people you can encourage and help you improve yourself. Talk to someone you can trust about your plan and ask them to help you adjust to your life. They can give you valuable advice and resources that you couldn't think of on your own.

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   Evaluate your progress. The blueprint you have created earlier will help you know if you are on the right track or not. Since your goals are limited in time, you need a timetable to follow. Sometimes, problems happen when you don't prepare in advance and your plan runs the risk of being delayed. This does not mean that you are making no progress. It just means that an obstacle has appeared without you knowing. Don't take it as an excuse to give up. Think of the solution, take it as a factor. Remind yourself of the original reasons why you wanted to adjust to your life.

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   Continued efforts. Life adjustment is not going to happen overnight. It takes time to break old habits and practice new behaviors. And it takes time for that to work. You may scold and criticize yourself. Remind yourself that negative thinking leads to negative behavior.If you go back to your old habits, that doesn't mean you have failed and have to start over. Remind yourself of your goals and the reasons you wanted to adjust to your life in the first place. advertisement

Advice

• Life does not have to be damaged 'and' corrected '. In the framework of the article to guide "How to do something", 'adjustment' is used as a synonym for 'change'. Your life is still growing and improving.
• You don't have to 'want to change' to do this. For example, you don't have to want to quit smoking to do so. You just want something (like healthy lungs) more than you want to smoke.
• We all criticize ourselves, some more severely and more often than others. You are not alone.
• Try to put together a support system to help you reach your goals. It can be anyone, from a friend to a group of family and friends. Find someone you can trust and will encourage you to stick to your goals.
• Always remind yourself of your goals.