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• Method 1 of 3: Confront the person about the lack of thanks
• Method 2 of 3: Accept the lack of thanks
• Method 3 of 3: Adjust your way of giving gifts from now on

Social norms dictate that we say "thank you" and express gratitude when we receive a gift from someone. It can be annoying not to receive a verbal thank you or a thank you note for a gift. Instead of getting stuck with it, try to deal with not getting a thank you. You can do this by confronting the person about his or her lack of thanks and then moving on. You can also change the way and the reason why you give presents in the future due to the lack of thanks you received.

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Method 1 of 3: Confront the person about the lack of thanks

1. Find a quiet, private place to talk. If you decide to confront the person you gave the gift to about his or her lack of thanks, do so in person and in a personal place. You can choose a neutral spot, such as a cafe or a park bench. Or you can invite the person to your home for coffee or dinner and then speak to them. Try to choose a place where you can talk to the person honestly and freely.
   • If you can, have the conversation in person. It can be difficult to find the right tone and manner when confronting the person via email or text message. Even a phone call is a better option than a text message.
2. Ask the person if they received your gift. Before confronting him or her, ask him or her directly if he or she has received your gift. You can do this if you did not hand over the gift in real life, for example with a gift that has been sent or left in a stack of gifts to be opened later. By confirming that he or she has received your gift, you can ensure that you are not confronting him or her about something he or she has not yet received or opened.
   • For example, you could say to the person, "I was wondering if you still received my present?" Or, "Did you get another chance to open my present?"
   • Doing this may also drive the person to thank you. Give him or her some time to respond, and see if the person offers his or her thanks when pushed in this way.
3. Express your dissatisfaction with not being thanked for the gift. If the person confirms that he or she has received the gift, simply and honestly tell him or her that you were surprised and disappointed that you didn't get a "thank you" for the gift. Explain how it made you feel and be honest about your feelings.
   • For example, you could say to the person, "I was disappointed that I didn't get a thank you from you for the gift," or, "I was hurt when I didn't get a thank you." Didn't you like the present? "
   • This will often cause the person to respond with "sorry" and "thank you" or explain why he or she did not immediately say "thank you". Be patient when you listen to the person's response.
4. End the conversation positively. If the person dismisses your question or doesn't respond with a "thank you", try not to have a problem with it. Work to end the conversation on a positive note, even if you didn't get the thank you you wanted.
   • For example, you could say to the person, "It bothers me that you are not expressing thanks for the gift. But I can accept it and move on. "

Method 2 of 3: Accept the lack of thanks

1. Keep in mind that the lack of thanks may have nothing to do with you. If you don't want to confront the person about their lack of gratitude, you may have to work to accept the current situation. Keep in mind that the lack of thanks may have nothing to do with you or the gift. Sometimes people don't say "thank you" for personal reasons, and you are not responsible for their actions.
   • For example, the person may have difficulty with social skills and may not know how to properly say "thank you". Or, perhaps the person feels embarrassed by receiving a gift, and is uncomfortable saying "thank you."
   • Think about the person's character and personality. Think about the possibility that he or she just isn't comfortable saying "thank you" and try to accept that you can't control his or her actions and / or preferences.
2. Remember that it can be good to give without expectations. You can also try to be more generous about not receiving a thank you note by viewing the gift giving as an unselfish act. Giving to others without expectation can help you build empathy for others. It can also make gift giving more fun, because you do it only for the pleasure of the other person, not just so that you can receive thanks or praise.
   • Giving without expectation can also help build a reputation for voluntary generosity and thoughtfulness. Your friends and colleagues may begin to see you as someone who is generous without expectations; an admirable trait.
3. Try to move on. Try not to get too hung up on getting a thank-you from the person or forcing them to give thanks. Work on getting on with it so that it doesn't ruin your day and so you don't feel like it. While the person may not have said "thank you", you will likely receive thanks and praise from others to whom you give presents. Don't let one person ruin your entire view of gift giving.
   • For example, you can tell yourself to let go of the problem and take a few deep breaths to let it go and move on. You can then focus on people who have thanked you for your gifts.

Method 3 of 3: Adjust your way of giving gifts from now on

1. Choose to give gifts only to people who say "thank you". If it bothers you that you don't get a thank you for the gift, you can adjust your gift-giving behavior in the future to include only the more grateful people in your life. Perhaps during the following holidays you will only give gifts to people who said "thank you" last year. Or maybe you can skip giving someone a birthday present next year because he or she didn't appreciate the gift this year.
   • You can set your own restrictions on giving gifts to people who appreciate them based on your comfort level. For example, you may not be able to stop giving gifts to close relatives even if they don't say "thank you." However, instead of giving him or her an elaborate gift, you can opt for a less expensive gift so that you spend less money and may feel less upset about not receiving a thank you.
2. Try to give gifts without expectations. In the future, you can also try to give gifts to others without expecting a thank you. This can be difficult, but by not expecting anything from the start, it can be easier to give gifts generously. Giving gifts without an expectation of responses from others can help you be more selfless and generous to others.
   • For example, during the holiday season, you can focus on giving gifts to your loved ones and let go of the expectations of receiving a thank you from those. This way, you will feel happy and surprised when you do get thank-yous from them.
3. Skip gift giving to others. If you don't feel comfortable giving gifts without expectations, you can decide to skip gift giving altogether. Instead of spending a lot of money each year on gifts for friends and family members, you can choose to spend that money on yourself. You may feel better focusing on your own needs rather than giving it to others, especially when you don't receive the thanks and praise you feel you deserve.
   • Another option is to donate money to charities or local organizations rather than family or friends as you will certainly receive thanks and praise from the institution or organization for your gift. This can be a good way to give to others and to get the thanks you are looking for.