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Anyone ever had a friend or colleague who depleted them of their energies by complaining that the world was completely against them. Unfortunately, you have to deal with quite a few different types of negative people in your life. However, the negativity of others can also affect your own health. Therefore, you need to take care of your own health, and avoid and neutralize negativity when possible. Luckily, there are many things you can do to deal with negative people.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Dealing with Immediate Negative People

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   Remember that you don't have to try to entertain them, solve their problems, or come up with solutions for them. Helping them turn things around is quite rewarding. However, keep in mind that you may not be successful, and this is not your mission.
   • Sometimes, the best way to deal with negative people is to maintain a positive attitude and ignore the negativity.
   • Voluntary advice is rarely acknowledged. Wait until the person tells you they want to hear your point of view.
   • Sometimes, someone's negative state is purely for good reason; you should respect this. The best way to make the person in a bad mood even more upset is to tell them they shouldn't. While this will probably be quite true, it won't really help.
   • Be a good example of being positive. From time to time, the best thing to do is to build a positive attitude. Just being positive and remaining in this state in a sea of ​​gloom will pay off.

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   Provide support. When you first interact with someone you know well are negative, listen sympathetically. Try to help if they ask. Anyone will have a bad day or need help from time to time. Just being a helpful and understanding person can help spread positivity to others.
   • If the person continues to gossip about something negative that makes you feel emotionally drained after communicating with them, and they don't stop using negative words and phrases (I can't, they wouldn't , I hate, etc), this is when you need to try to calm their negativity.

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   Don't engage in negativity. It's easy to get caught up in a spiral of negativity when you're faced with a negative person. Not allowing yourself to indulge in the process doesn't mean you should ignore them, but it is about maintaining your emotional distance from them.
   • Avoid arguing about why the person should not be negative. In an effort to try to change the negative person's attitude, your first instinct will be to find a way to argue about why they shouldn't feel that way. Unfortunately, this approach usually won't work. The person who is in panic tends to give quite a few basic reasons, and will put himself on the defensive to defend his own cause.You will waste time and effort in vain, and may even be caught up in this "dark cloud".
   • Negative people will like to exaggerate, focus on their negativity, and ignore the positives. Instead of trying to make them realize their negativity (this will often only lead to confrontation and help them reinforce their belief that everyone is against them), try to make a statement. the answer is innocuous, which means discouraging or condemning their negativity. This will show that you are actively listening without expressing your consent.
     • The innocuous comments include: "Yeah" or "Is that so".
     • You can add your own positive feedback, but you shouldn't say something that contradicts them: "Yeah. It'll be hard when the client shows such disrespectful attitude. I'll try not to. personalize that ".

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   Use appreciative inquiry. If the other person presents a negative opinion of a particular event or topic, you can talk to them using a technique called "active interviewing". This is the questioning process to help the person envision a brighter future. If they complain about something in the past, you can ask them questions based on the positive aspects of their experiences or ask about the future.
   • These types of questions may include, "What do you hope will happen next time?" or "What turned out to be a positive factor in the experience?".
   • This type of question leads the story toward what a brighter future looks like and how to achieve it.

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   Conversation redirection. If active interviewing doesn't help you form a productive, positive conversation, turn the conversation over to something lighter.
   • For example, you could say, “I understand that you are upset about your colleague. It must be difficult. So tell me more about your plans for the weekend. Or “Well, that sounds like a real test. Have you seen that new documentary yet? ”.

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   Try to disrupt negative reflection. Reflection (constantly chewing negative thoughts over and over) will only reinforce the negativity. This action has been linked to an increase in depression levels. If the person has a tendency to constantly talk about something, see if you can break this spiral by diverting his or her focus on something else.
   • While redirecting the conversation may lead the person to discuss happier elements on the same topic, breaking negative ruminations often means you have to change the subject of the conversation completely. If the person is constantly talking about a certain interaction at work, try to switch to the TV show they love, their pets, or something that could make up the conversation. more positive story.

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   Help the person perceive how they can take control of the situation. Negative people tend to blame external factors rather than themselves. People who often blame outside actors for causing their problems tend not to have more emotional well-being than people who take things from a different perspective. Try to assist the negative person in developing a plan for handling negative events.
   • Getting rid of negative feelings about a negative situation is not necessarily an unhealthy response. We often find ways to overcome difficulties and develop action plans to cope with the problem at this stage. Try to help the other person manage their negative energies in a more constructive way. For example, you might ask about what the person might do to change a bad work situation.

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   Help the person accept negative events. In addition to talking to the person about how to respond to a negative event, you can also help them learn to accept it. For example, a friend of yours was blamed for being late for work. She complains about the matter to you during lunch, complaining that she had to take the bus to work, complaining that her boss doesn't like her, etc. You can give a variety of opinions about this situation, such as:
   • “Yes, the reprimand has been put on your file anyway, and it won't change but you can remove it after 6 months. You can show your boss that from now on, you will be committed to being on time ”.
   • “What if you use your bike to go to work? You won't have to depend on the timetable of the bus, and you can leave home a little later. ”
   • "I know that you are upset about this. I am very sorry that this happened. If you want me to help you get ready in the morning, and I think this measure will be very helpful for you. can go to work on time. You can let me know if you want me to help you. "

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   Set boundaries. When dealing with negative people, set boundaries on how you will deal with them. You are not responsible for dealing with the negativity of others. If they are making you feel bad, stay away from them.
   • If the negative person is your coworker, shorten the conversation with them by saying that you need to get back to your job. Do this sensitively, or else you will only make them more negative.
   • If the negative person is a family member (especially someone you live with), try to stay away from them as much as possible. You can go to a library or nearby coffee shop or simply not answer the phone every time they call.
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Method 2 of 2: Dealing with Negative People In the long run

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   Identify the types of negative people. Part of dealing with negative people over the long term is determining if they're a negative person or simply someone who's having a bad day.
   • Negative people often develop this trait as a result of constant frustration and hurt, and anger related to circumstances.
   • Negative people tend to blame external factors instead of themselves. Of course, there are quite a few people who are completely negative about themselves, and this will also make the listener feel exhausted.

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   Avoid preaching or admonishing the person. A long-term friendship or work relationship with a negative person can make you lose your patience and your time and energy, but you need to avoid preaching or persuading the person. Negative people around us don't like to accept criticism, and they often see this act as proof that you are also fighting them instead of seeing your advice in a more constructive direction.
   • Even if "taking off the burden" will help you express your feelings, it won't help the situation. If you need to vent about the negative person, share it with someone you trust in your support group rather than directly with that person.

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   Act instead of simply reacting. One way to help yourself and the negative person is by doing good deeds for them, actions that are not triggered by a particular situation or conversation. The other person's rejection will only reinforce a negative worldview, so the act of acceptance can bring about the necessary change.
   • It is easy for people to underestimate the support they receive during negative thinking. You should act in a negative way even if it is not motivated by a negative situation. You can have a huge effect on the person's interaction with you through this.
   • For example, if you constantly make excuses why you can't meet negative people while they are constantly thinking about a bad situation, take the initiative to make a call to see them when they are not immersed in a bad mood or reflection.

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   Reminding the person of the positives can help reinforce their positivity. Remind the person of a good time you both spent together or about a funny situation. Praise the person for doing a good deed. This will help the person remember that someone else is interested in them and trying to be positive about their day.
   • For example, “Your essay is great. I am completely impressed by all the research you have carried out ”.

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   Do something unexpectedly sweet from time to time. It can be anything from helping the person with a routine to inviting him to a movie or even taking a walk with you. This is a good way to assert positivity towards negative people without turning it into teaching about their attitudes, since no one will like to hear this.

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   Go out with a group of friends. Sometimes, the best way to deal with a negative person (especially if they are part of your group of friends) is to hold a group event so that they are "fuzzy" between different personality types. However, you need to remember for sure that this situation will not end with the whole group going through each other and condemning the negative.
   • This method works best when everyone in the group shows empathy for the negative person and uses similar strategies to help the person overcome their negativity.

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   Take responsibility for your own happiness. Humans are social creatures and their happiness often depends on the quality of their relationships with others. However, only you can take responsibility for your own positivity and happiness.
   • Being happy regardless of the situation means gaining control of your emotions rather than letting the situation dominate. For example, if you are dealing with a negative person, you can choose to allow the person to drain your positivity, or you can support yourself by reminding yourself of the positivity. before and after communicating with the person.
   • Control your emotional responses the same way you do with your muscles. You will need to practice becoming more in control of your emotional responses to external situations, such as dealing with negative people.

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   Evaluate the person's role in your life. Sometimes the best way to deal with negative people is to eliminate them completely from your life. There are times when their negativity upsets you to the point where you won't be able to build a fulfilling and happy relationship.
   • You need to re-examine the pros and cons of removing the person from your life. This can be difficult if the person is part of a group of friends you know. It may even be completely impossible if the person is a colleague or your boss.
   • Look honestly at what you will get out of a relationship with the person, and don't rely too much on the nature of the relationship "in the past" if the person is going negative after a few moments. months or years.

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   Stay away from that person. If you can't stop seeing the person altogether, staying away from them is the best option you can make. Remember, you need to take care of yourself. You don't owe anyone your time and energy, especially if the person is draining you of their negativity. advertisement

Advice

• Remember that there are many different reasons people are negative, including insecurities, low self-esteem, past traumatic experiences, disappointments in life, low self-esteem, and more.
• Negative people often find it difficult to see positive effects or positive outcomes in life. Remember that they themselves need to want to change their way of thinking.
• Don't react to negative comments. If you don't give the person the response they want, they'll stop because their attention grabbing behavior isn't working.
• You should behave politely, avoid becoming too strict, and practice patience.

Warning

• People who express negativity often can experience depression. If the negativity is expressed in the form of conversation about harming himself or others, encourage the person to seek professional help.
• Don't allow the negativity of someone to turn you into a pessimistic person. Above all, you need to take responsibility for building your happiness.