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Being around the impatient person will make you feel as though you are walking in a field full of mines - you are constantly afraid that they will explode. In addition, impatient people often make you lose your patience. No matter what you do, you will meet them at work, at school, or in a personal relationship. Learn how to respond to impatience and not allow it to affect you.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Reacting to repeated impatience

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   Expect haste at work. When you deal with the impatience of your boss or coworker, it can negatively impact your productivity. If you know that you will have to deal with impatient people, make an effort to prioritize your work so that you can reduce anxiety on both sides.
   • How you react to an impatient person in everyday life will depend on your relationship with them. You should be proactive in dealing with your impatience based on your relationship with the person.
   • For example, if you know your boss is going to mess up when you file the report at the last minute, you should set aside other jobs to finish the report earlier.
   • If you cannot give priority to helping the impatient person, make an effort to set up a schedule with someone who can address both of your needs. Let the person know that you are aware of your anxiety and that you want to find a solution. Once both parties agree to this schedule, you should remember to follow it closely to minimize future impulse.

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   Talk to your partner about the effects of impatience on you. In a relationship, you have the freedom to express your thoughts and feelings about impatience. Sentences that begin with the subject "I" (yourself) will also work.
   • Set a time to discuss the source of your impatience with the person. Has your boyfriend become impatient because it took you too long to get ready for the appointment? Does your wife lose patience when you can't choose what you want to eat for dinner? You both need to try to bring the problem together. "You get nervous when you become impatient with you. What can you do to keep me from feeling that way?"
   • Next, you should try to come up with a solution based on your two perspectives. For example, perhaps your boyfriend should pick up his girlfriend a few minutes later to give her more time to choose outfits. Or, she can complete the basic preparations and makeup or get her hair done in the car.

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   Develop specific systems for overcoming impatience in children. If you often find that your child (child or teen) is becoming impatient, you should develop a reasonable method for managing the condition, which will also help you not feel. annoying or frustrating. Again, this requires a careful assessment of the problem or discussion with your child about which strategy will work.
   • For young children who become impatient when you are busy or indifferent, you can provide toys, activities, or snacks to temporarily distract them until you can resolve their needs. of them.
   • For a minor, the solution will depend on the context. For example, your child gets impatient when he has to wait for you to end the call. You can ask your child to write down his or her needs and be prepared to think openly about the topic of conversation as you try to end the call. If your teen gets impatient because his soccer uniform is not pre-cleaned, your child can warn you when he will need him. can be washed promptly. Or, you can buy two uniforms to keep one clean at all times.
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Part 2 of 4: Reacting in the present moment

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   Say something that begins with the subject "I" when talking to an impatient person. To minimize their impatience, be careful with what you say. You need to explain the impact the person's impatience has on you, along with your goals for finding a solution, and not getting the other person into trouble and not blaming them. This is not the time to argue, but to build empathy and to talk about what is going on. Use "I" statements to express your feelings without blaming the other person.
   • For example, you might say, "I get confused when you urge me to get the job done. This project will take a few hours. Can you stop checking me until tomorrow?".
   • Make sure that you are not commenting on the person, but based on their behavior. Since you know this person well, you should focus on your short-term behavior while maintaining the positive side of your day-to-day relationship. Do not cause trouble for others, instead, face the problem ahead and move on.

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   Avoid saying "take it easy" or "calm down". Becoming impatient can be a sign of another potential problem, so avoid making comments that are meant to minimize the issue. The impatient person may be experiencing stress, feeling isolated, reacting to unexpected procrastination, or having other emotions. Getting rid of the person's feelings by saying "take it easy" or "calm down" will trigger a bigger reaction.
   • Focus on words to acknowledge the behavior and do not try to alleviate the response. For example, if the person looks angry while waiting, say something like “You look angry (or stressed, tired, upset, etc.), what can I do for you? are not?". This quote will open the story and avoid causing more conflict.

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   Ask what you can do for the person. Instead of turning someone else's impatience into a bigger problem, asking what you can do for them with a sincere attitude will provide an opportunity for the person to present their thoughts. This will let the person know that you are open to talking about the problem and that you want to find ways to address their needs.
   • Even if you can't give the impatient person what they want right away, letting them know about a timeline or updates will help alleviate their frustrations in the present moment.

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   Prevent yourself from reacting angrily. Sometimes, another person's impatience can provoke an angry response in your heart. Know that responding angrily to another person's anger or frustration will only make matters worse. Try one of the following strategies to ease your anger before the situation goes out of your control.
   • Practice deep breathing. Inhale the air from your mouth for 4 counts. Hold your breath for 7 beats and then slowly exhale for the count of 8. Repeat this process until you are calm again.
   • Asked for a break. Take a few minutes to organize your thoughts and calm down. You can call a friend or go for a walk. Then go back to solving the problem once you've calmed down.
   • Find a mediator. Some people simply find it difficult to work with others. Find your supervisor or someone to help mediate the discussion between you and the impatient person. This will help you avoid becoming angry. A neutral person will help you solve the problem without letting your emotions influence the situation.

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   Ignore your behavior and move forward. Some people are just impatient by nature. This is part of their nature. If you know that the person is constantly impatient, there is nothing you can do but ignore it. If you personalize the problem instead of accepting it, you are fighting a battle where the loss will be yours. Recognizing that a boss, co-worker, or even someone you know tends to be impatient in general will help you understand that you shouldn't take it personally.
   • Ignoring is a great approach to people you don't see every day or just know a little bit about. If there is no ongoing relationship between you and the person, focusing too much on their behavior will only take time.
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Part 3 of 4: Situation assessment

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   Think about your contribution to impatience. Sometimes people show their worst when they are around because we unknowingly provoke them. Do you often get work done late or require more time? The attitude of "I own all the time in the world" and being too relaxed can contribute to building the opponent's irritation. Do you need to change or not?
   • While the comfortable approach to life can be part of the charms you have, it can be quite frustrating for a colleague or friend who depends on you.
   • Perhaps it's time to think about how you can become more attentive to the needs of others. This can be as simple as setting up a better conversation so they know you're ready to change.

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   Consider your own undesirable traits. We all have a few traits that upset others. Similar to when you hope that the people around you will accept your nature, you should also accept their best and worst.
   • You may have to get used to the impatience of the people around you if communication is not your strong point. A big part of becoming impatient is often something you don't know about, so if you notice people getting upset, determine why this is happening to you. quite helpful.
   • If someone at work or at home is often impatient with you, ask for their feedback on what is causing this situation. For example, if they find you are untidy, ask them for feedback on taking small steps to change it. This approach not only helps you change your behavior, but also tells them that you want to be better.

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   Try to sympathize. True empathy means putting yourself in the shoes of others to consider their views on the situation. Instead of responding emotionally to their impatience, pause to think about the source of the problem and consider the person's role in the task or situation.
   • A big part of empathy can be associated with understanding how your immediate part of the job or task affects others. For example, if a colleague has to wait for you to complete your report in order to present their report, it is appropriate to become impatient when they do not know the progress of the report.

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   Don't let your haste affect you. This works best for people in the two groups, maybe you only meet them occasionally or you know them so well that you are aware that their impatience is temporary and not tied to your action. If your family member is stressed out with an external problem, they may become impatient and you can completely ignore it. Choosing the battle will allow you to focus on the mission that needs to be completed and put an end to overall conflict. You cannot concentrate on the quest if you often have to fight in battles where you know the loss will be yours.
   • Go to 100. This will force you to focus solely on counting and lowering your heart rate back to a more relaxed level.
   • Take care of yourself regularly. Your ability to take care of yourself will depend on what helps you relax and concentrate. Some people like to exercise vigorously to feel well while others love quiet time to read a good book or meditate.
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Part 4 of 4: Understanding impatience

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   Realize how the hustle of today's society affects impatience. We live in a world that moves at the speed of light and hope to have access to almost everything in no time. The Internet gives us so much information at our fingertips that we can forget that people need time to work, prepare reports, and process information. We are not machines, and it is important to build the human factor in life.

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   Recognize the link between impatience, anger, and health. Too much stress is detrimental to your health as well as those around you. Try to find ways to avoid stress at unnecessary and ineffective times.
   • Stress can be a cause of impatience. Addressing the overall stress in the current situation can improve the environment for everyone involved, and make it safer for your overall health.
   • Instead of arguing over obvious impatience, consider long-term stress as a variable.

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   Learn from other people's impatience. Being impatient is a sign that you are immersed in the future instead of the present. Witnessing other people's impatience can remind us to be more attentive. At the same time, it will also help remind us that our actions will affect others. You should treat the other person's impatience as a call to action if needed. advertisement

Advice

• Try to talk in the nicest way; otherwise, you will only make others more impatient.
• If the situation between the two of you is getting tense, seek a mediator.

Warning

• The problem is with them and you have the right to let them know.
• Don't let the impatient person lose your temper. In most cases it is just to show off, to reflect repressed anger or poor planning in them. They have no power to give orders to others or become rude just because things don't go their way by pushing or facing others in life.