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Talking about sex is awkward, but don't get too nervous. Be honest if you like someone, and try to talk about it in a light, fun way. When you and your significant other talk about sex, ask what they like and dislike. Talking about your desires will help you to have a better experience. This is hard to tell, but you need to have safe sex and ask what kind of protection they like.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Start your talk

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   If possible, talk about your privacy issues before going to the bedroom. Mentioning sex before sex can help you feel more comfortable together. If you are dating someone, ask them about the right time to improve the relationship, how they feel about sex, and what they like or dislike.
   • Try asking, “When do you think is the right time for a couple to have sex? Then when is the right time for us?
   • If you don't date someone you like, you probably won't get a chance to have a pre-sex chat. Before you enter the game, you must get their clear consent and discuss safeguards.

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   Mention sex in a relaxed, relaxed environment. Make sure you and your partner have privacy when you ask them about this. Help them feel safe and comfortable, and try to read their body language to make sure they are comfortable.
   • You don't have to talk about sex in a closed room. You can go on a date at a restaurant or a public place to mention sex.
   • Notice everyone around. Don't ask them about sex when many people around you can hear it. You should not get other people to notice them or make them feel awkward.

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   Be honest about how your ex is making you feel. Speak frankly and politely, do not have wet actions or words of flirting. Be yourself and tell the person you like about your feelings. Let them know they're sexy, but your compliments should be honest.
   • For example, you could say, “When we kiss, I feel like electricity is running through me. I don't want to pressure you or anything, but I really want to push the relationship further ”.
   • Be courteous and respectful. Don't go into describing what you want to do with them. If they are not ready for sex, this will scare them.

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   Keep the conversation light. Talking about sex doesn't have to be too serious. This is only necessary if you are talking about a serious topic, like negative sexual experiences or sexually transmitted diseases. However, if you are talking about sexually suggestive things or say you want to have sex with them, have a fun talk or joke to make things go smoothly.
   • It's okay to be serious, but being funny can help you both feel comfortable. If you get caught, jokingly say “Oh my God, my tongue went on strike today”, or to be honest, “Sorry, I feel a little nervous. Let me say it again ”.
   • Laughing can help you relax. However, lowering yourself to laugh can be distracting, so don't overdo it.

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   Notice the other person's reaction when you are joking around. While you're in the midst of having sex, make sure to observe the situation and make sure they still enjoy listening before taking the story further. If they don't seem interested in kissing or touching, step back and continue watching.
   • In fury, you can say, “Your kiss is great, you make me so hot. Do you want to go further? "
   • You can also ask, "Should we go to bed?" or "Can you touch this place?"
   • If you think they don't like it, stop and ask, “What's the matter? We can stop if this goes too fast ”.

Part 2 of 3: Ask about what they like and dislike

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   Make a joke about what makes them happy to start the conversation. Let them know you want to make your experience as great as possible. You shouldn't embarrass them and ask, "What kind of sex do you like to have sex?" Instead, by being comfortable and engaging, show that you care about what they like and dislike, and their limitations.
   • Talking in advance about the things you like and dislike is not only helpful, but can also arouse the desire at that moment. For example, you might ask, "Where do you like to be kissed?" or "What do you always want to do when you go to bed".

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   Let them know you won't judge. People often feel insecure revealing to others what they like or what they dream of doing during sex. Let them know they can trust you and that you won't make fun of or judge them.
   • Revealing something about yourself first can help them feel more comfortable with you. Try telling them how you like to be touched, or a position that you like.
   • Talking about the things you like before having sex makes the experience more enjoyable, but doesn't need to talk too much and make each other uncomfortable. You and the person you like don't have to share your innermost fantasies, especially if you don't understand each other too well.

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   Talk about the things you enjoy, but don't brag about your sexual abuse. You could say that you would like to have a light bite in the ear or a kiss on the neck. However, don't go into too much detail about your experiences or talk about your ex as if they won you over.
   • Your partner probably doesn't want to hear about the last person you slept with, and sex bragging will make them lose their mood.
   • You could say, "I like kissing on the neck" but don't say, "Man, I'm really excited to have my ex-girlfriend kissed the neck and left a mark."

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   Ask about what they don't like. You shouldn't just mention things that you both dislike. However, having a relationship will be more fun and less embarrassing if you know something that is extremely sensitive or where it is uncomfortable for the other person.
   • From time to time you may ask your partner, "Do you like it?" but don't ask every 30 seconds. Pay attention to body language, and try to be attentive to the present rather than messed up.

Part 3 of 3: Talking about safe sex

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   Make sure the other person agrees to the relationship. She / he must express clear and enthusiastic consent. If they don't seem like or are unsure of whether or not to have sex, don't put pressure on. Respect their decision if the answer is no, and don't ask for an explanation.
   • They may want to kiss or touch, but that doesn't mean they want to have sex.
   • They also have the right to change their mind and stop if they feel uncomfortable at any time.

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   Try to talk about sexual health before you get involved. Talking about sexually transmitted diseases can be upsetting, but it's essential. Ask the person if they've been tested in the past 6 months, and let them know about your sexual health first.
   • You should talk about sexual health when considering having sex, because it is difficult for you to make an accurate decision when preparing to have sex.
   • If you have been dating for a while and haven't talked about it yet, don't feel shy about worrying about your health. If they are having a sex life that hasn't been tested recently, definitely postpone them until they have had screening tests.

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   Ask them what birth control they like to use. Always have safe sex, even if you and your partner have been screened and negative for STIs.If you don't have any protection with you, say, "I really want to, but we should pause until we get a condom."
   • Talk about safe sex in a positive way. For example, ask what condoms they like to use, or if they like scented or thorny ones.
   • Try to be optimistic when talking about safe sex. You should say that using protection is beneficial for both of you, rather than speaking in a way that you need to protect yourself from their risk.

Advice

• Dressing up well will increase your chances of success. When it comes to having sex with someone you like, you need to take a good shower and dress properly.