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When you first get to know someone, texting is a great way to make the relationship more comfortable and at the same time let you know if you and your partner are interested in getting to know each other better. If you want to chat with a girl via text but don't know where to start, this guide is for you.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Start Text Chat with a Girl

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   Ask for that girl's phone number. Try asking her for a number, as it would be a bit weird if you get a text from someone you don't know what their phone number looks like.
   • An easy way is to mention an interesting video or photo and tell her, “I will send you a video / photo link. But I don't have your phone number! Can I get the number? " Ask spontaneously and don't take it too seriously, chances are she will be more comfortable giving you the number.
   • If you need help getting her number, see How to Get a Girl's Phone Number.
   • If she doesn't want to give you her phone number, don't try to get it from somewhere or someone. This is merely respect for her limits. Maybe wait to ask again when you get to know her a little better.

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   Say hello - but don't just send my greetings. A simple "hello" is difficult to respond to, and can also be lazy or boring. Ask questions, or just ask her how she is doing these days.
   • Questions are often great because you'll always have answers to lengthen the conversation. If you ask her about her homework in English, she can tell you the answer and you can ask her another question to clarify, keep the conversation going ... different from when you just say "hey," and she doesn't know how to respond.
   • Open-ended questions are always better than “yes-or-no” questions because you can always say more. For example, "Do you like comedy?" will be able to receive one-word answers, while "What kind of movie do you like?" will definitely get a longer and more specific response that makes it easier for you to continue the conversation.

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   Please say at the right time and right. If this is your first time trying to create comfort in a relationship, it is important not to let her feel that your message has just popped up for no reason or purpose. Talk about things you shared or related to both of you.
   • For example, if there is a school event in the evening, you could ask "Did you come to see the match / watch / go to the dance tonight?" You can also ask if she wants to go with you (or with you and a group of friends, if you're a bit shy about asking her out on your first date).
   • You can also initiate a little chat about your experiences, like, "It's crazy to see you at Starbucks today!" or "Can you believe Mr. Smith yelled at the student in English class today?"

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   Talk about her hobbies. If you know she likes certain bands, TV shows or movies, ask about them! Ask her what she thinks about the latest episode or if she wants to recommend any of the band's songs. This will make her see that you are interested enough to take an interest in her opinion and remember the things she likes and dislikes.
   • This topic is great because people can get really passionate about their favorite bands or shows. They love to talk, follow and learn more about them. It's interesting if they meet someone who shares the same interests.
   • If you two disagree on something, don't worry! A little fun debate about "The Beatles Best Song" will help the two of you understand each other better, and also a different and interesting experience. Just don't insult her or say anything malicious.

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   Use smileys! Smilies represent playfulness and a bit of flirting, but innocent enough not to be too bold or insolent. Just use an emoticon, and she will pay attention;)
   • If you're not sure how to use smileys, start by attaching a sentence-end icon like “Have you seen the last episode of‘ New Girl ’? That episode was great :) ”
   • Usually, the wink symbols are more erotic, used in flirting messages and in two-meaning sentences. Don't use a wink emoji when you should have a smiley, as winking emojis can be perceived as misplaced or even misleading.
   • Don't use too many emojis, as they can be confusing and offensive.

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   Please continue! Once your conversation has started to go well, make sure it goes on well!
   • See How to Message the Person You Like if you need more ideas.
   • When you're ready, you can move forward by texting to schedule a face-to-face meeting - whether it's a date, a regular meet or a group outing. Texting is fun, but live chat is the way to take your relationship to the next level.
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Method 2 of 2: Know When Unsuitable Texting

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   Stop texting her if she doesn't like it. If she is not interested (eg, takes a long time to reply, does reply occasionally, or sends boring one-word messages), consider not texting; If she asks you directly to stop, stop.
   • If she doesn't want to talk to you, you're wasting your time. Find another cute girl to text with.
   • If you continue texting her when she asks you to stop, you risk being charged with harassment or stalking.

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   Call or chat face to face when you have something important to say. Texting is a great way to simply get to know someone or make a relationship with a new friend more comfortable, but there are many conversations that are not right for texting, including:
   • Invite her out. If you want to invite someone out, say when you meet that person or call, but don't text unless the meeting is random and unimportant.
   • Farewell. If you want to end your relationship with someone, politely tell them in person or on the phone, but don't use texting to commit bad behavior. That shows laziness and immaturity.
   • Comfort or counsel about important matters. If she has just lost a loved one, or is going through difficult personal problems, texting is a good way to say, "I'll call you later to talk about this." But don't let texting replace personal interactions during difficult moments. Friends need to hear your voice to know that you are there for them.
   • When in doubt, ask yourself if the story you want to tell is important and meaningful, or simple and informal. Messages make it clear that your story is not so important and / or more casual than what you share via voice call or live chat; So if you want someone to be serious about you or want someone to understand that what you mean is meaningful to you, avoid texting.

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   Wise texting. Remember that a message is a text, sometimes a picture, that you cannot delete. Never text something you don't want to fall into the wrong hands, whether it's being forwarded or shared by a recipient, or her phone is lost or stolen.
   • Don't text sexually or post nudity unless you're over 18 and the recipient accepts them. Distributing sexual images of a minor is a crime, even if the minor is you, and asking another minor to send sexual messages is also a crime. Sending nudity without consent from a recipient can also result in criminal liability for harassment.
   • Never send requests to take or discuss illegal activities via text message, as phone message logs can be submitted during court proceedings.
   • Using text messages to curse at your boss, your mom, your teacher, or anyone you don't want to let you read the text message is unwise. While you can trust the recipient that they won't tell anyone, you can't control what will happen if the phone is stolen or lost, or one of her friends willfully. Unintentionally read her messages.
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Advice

• Flirting can be cute, but it can also be frustrating and offensive. When flirting, pay attention to how she reacts. If she responds with a short flirting text, this is a good sign. If she is not interested or even worried, slow down and get back to normal conversation.