Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Getting the right setting
• Part 2 of 3: Putting it into practice
• Part 3 of 3: Continuing to grow
• Tips

You may think that having confidence is like having blue eyes. You are either born with it or not. Well, if you have that attitude, combined with a lack of self-confidence, then you can't help but accept your failures. Now is the time to shake off the idea that not just anyone can develop self-confidence and work on changing your attitude, in addition to your way of doing things, and moving towards that confidence and believing in yourself what you lack. If you want to know how to become more confident, read on.

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Part 1 of 3: Getting the right setting

1. Be proud of your strengths. If you want to be more confident, the first thing you'll need to do is think about all the things you've already accomplished. You may feel that there is nothing good about you, that you have no memorable qualities, and that everyone around you somehow looks and is more impressive than you are. You will have to throw all of this out the window if you are determined to change! Make a list of all the things you are good at, from being a good listener to having a great singing voice. These qualities may not mean anything to you, but you will have to think about the fact that you indeed have many things to be proud of.
   • If you like the idea of ​​the list, you can keep it handy. Every time you think, "Oh, wait a minute, I'm good at ..." If you're feeling inferior or like you're worthless, read it and you'll start to feel better.
   • Talk to a good friend about it. Ask what he / she thinks about your strengths. Your friend may come up with something you've never considered before because it was right in front of you!
2. Work on being an optimist. Of course, like Rome, you cannot build optimism overnight, but that does not mean that it is not possible right now to start working on a foundation for positive thinking and expect the best from something. Optimism and self-confidence often go hand in hand, because people who look to the future with hope and expect good things to happen tend to think that good things will happen to them if they go out into the world or just do their very best .. Practice monitoring your thoughts to see how many of them are negative and work on countering each negative thought with at least 3 positive ones. If you work hard enough, you will soon be able to see the world in a more favorable light.
   • The next time you are with friends, practice talking about the exciting things in your life or the things you are looking forward to, and you will find that people will respond more positively to you and your mood will improve.
3. Be prepared. Preparing for all situations - within certain limits - can also help you become more confident. If you have to do a math test, it is useful that you have also put in all the hours of study needed to pass it. If you give a presentation to the class, you should have practiced it until you can do it completely by heart. If you're going to a party, find out as much as you can about it, such as who will be there, when it starts, and other details so that you feel like there are fewer unknown variables when you walk into the room. While it's impossible to be able to prepare 100% for every situation - which is part of the fun and mystery of life - it can certainly help you feel like you have an idea of ​​where you are. will have to deal with.
   • If you are in a group and you feel you can contribute something to the conversation, you will be more confident than if you only passively listen to the opinions of the others. You really don't have to talk all the time to work on your confidence, but you do need to talk often enough so that you feel like you can bring in many valuable things.
   • You can get ideas about things to contribute by reading interesting articles, watching the news, or researching recent events or things that interest you. Bring up a topic you've been researching and see where it leads. Having information that supports what you say will make you more confident during a conversation.
   • If you know something or have a particular skill - from how to make furniture to picking the right pair of shoes for the graduation party - people may start asking you for help. You can gain a lot of self-confidence by helping others and seeing that you can do a lot for them.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others. You will need to focus on yourself and how to achieve those goals you want to achieve, instead of peeking at the person next to you wondering why you aren't as attractive / smart / confident as they are. Be nice to yourself and focus on your own dreams and goals, and take pride in achieving them.
   • Realize that it is very common to idealize the lives of others from what you can see. In other words, you don't see the whole picture of someone's life through superficial contact.
   • If you start comparing yourself to someone else, stop doing that and focus your attention elsewhere. Try to see in what way you yourself are successful, happy or try to improve your situation.
   • People with a lack of self-confidence are constantly questioning themselves and the world around them. Leave less room for doubt by seeing yourself capable enough for the task ahead of your light.
5. Try to get rid of as many sources of negativity as possible. Unfortunately, it is unlikely that you will be able to get rid of all the little things that make you feel less good about yourself, but you can certainly try to surround yourself with positive people and situations where you feel good about yourself. Here are a few things to consider:
   • If you are negative about your body or overall appearance because you are always flipping through celebrity magazines or watching TV, try to separate yourself from that culture as much as possible.
   • If you spend time with a friend, family member, or partner that always makes you feel worthless about yourself, it's time to start asking questions about that relationship. You can try to make changes in your relationship by using a more assertive way of communicating and promoting the feeling that the other person makes you feel. If the relationship does not improve or cannot improve, you may have to make the decision to limit or disconnect the time you spend with them.
   • If you are in a sport that you really hate and you feel like you have done everything it can, but it still doesn't work out, it may be time to find another club that better suits your needs have; this does not mean that you have to stop immediately when the going gets tough, but that you have to learn to recognize when something just isn't working for you.

Part 2 of 3: Putting it into practice

1. Embrace the unknown. If you're low on self-confidence, doing something completely new and otherwise probably won't get you excited right away. Well, now is the time to be brave and take the plunge that you never expected you would. This could be introducing yourself to a new group of people at a party, taking dance classes despite having two left feet, or applying for a job opening that sounds great, but a bit overwhelming. The more common it becomes for you to try new things, the more confident you will feel, as you begin to find that you can handle all the things that come your way in life. Here are a few other ways you can embrace the unknown:
   • Start small. Start a conversation with someone you see a lot but never talk to, like that guy sitting next to you at math, or a neighbor.
   • Plan one to a new place, even if it's only to a different city you haven't been to before. Make it a habit to go to new places and see new things.
   • Learn a new language. Doing something completely unfamiliar can be a lot of fun and help boost your confidence.
2. Take more risks. Taking (reasonable) risks is all about embracing the unknown and challenging yourself as an individual. If you want to be more confident, you will not only have to try new things, but also dare to do things that you find a bit scary or that you are unsure about. Not every risk you take will lead to something big, but you get used to taking on challenges and seeing what happens. Taking risks will give you the feeling that you are not limited to the small collection of things that you are familiar with and that you can handle anything.
   • Get out of your comfort zone at least once a day. This could be talking to someone you have a crush on - or even dating them, if you've gathered enough courage!
   • If you are unhappy at work but are afraid to quit, at least apply to another vacancy. Even if this doesn't work out, you will see that the risk taken was not that scary.
   • Face your fears. You don't have to go bungee jumping if you are afraid of heights, just take the elevator to the top floor of a condo and look out the window. You will see that you can actually overcome your own fears.
3. Hang out with people who make you feel good about yourself. It to maintain positive influences can be even better for your self-confidence than breaking with negative ones. If you spend a lot of time with people who support you and want to help you without too much drama or stress, it will make you feel more confident and you can deal better and more effectively with your emotions. Make it a habit to associate as much as possible with people who treat you the best you can.
   • Dealing with self-confident people can also be of great help. Instead of being jealous of those people, you can study them and ask yourself, "What are they doing differently from me, and how can I cultivate similar behaviors?" You will find that people who are confident are not necessarily "better" at anything - except when it comes to having a positive self-image.
4. Start with a hobby. Having something you are good at - or even better, are passionate about - can make you feel more rounded and happier. This can boost your confidence. A hobby can stimulate your creativity, which in turn translates to other situations, such as in the workplace and in social contacts. In addition, a hobby can help cultivate the social support that is good for your emotional well-being.
   • Give yourself time for your hobby or other activities that make you happier. This can be difficult for people who are very busy at work or have many family commitments, but it is important.
5. Show that you are confident with your body language. Stand upright; good posture can go a long way in helping you to appear and feel more confident. If you walk with slumped shoulders all the time, you are sending a signal to yourself and others that you are not happy with who you are and want to be smaller than you are. Instead, keep your back straight and your shoulders pulled back, your chest sticking out.
   • Don't cross your arms. Let them hang by your side or use them to make gestures. This will make you look more approachable and feel more open.
   • Make eye contact naturally when talking to people.If you look people in the eye, you send a signal that you are happy to talk to them on the same level, and that you are open to new ideas.
   • Making eye contact with people can also help keep your head upright. Staring at the floor or your feet all the time is another thing that makes you look and feel less confident.
   • Also, walk with firm, confident strides, instead of sliding or dragging your feet. This will also make you look and feel more confident.
6. Spend time on your appearance. If you spend enough time on your appearance to show that you care about yourself, you'll find yourself looking at yourself in a more positive way. If you want to gain confidence, make sure you take good care of yourself, shower daily, comb your hair, and wear clothes that are clean and ironed. If you don't care about your appearance, then you are communicating to yourself and others that you are not worth the time to take good care of yourself.
   • If you look in the mirror and see someone who looks good, you are much more likely to appreciate yourself.
   • Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself. This probably means wearing clothes that fit you well (at your current size) and flattering in a way that suits your personality.
   • This doesn't mean you have to put on loads of makeup or wear clothes that make you feel like someone else. You always have to be yourself - just a clean, hygienic version of yourself.

Part 3 of 3: Continuing to grow

1. Learn from your failures. Self-confident people aren't good everywhere. But they embrace failure and learn from the mistakes they've made instead of giving up when there's one obstacle in the way. The next time you fail a math test, don't get hired after an interview, or get rejected by a date, don't let this discourage you from asking yourself what went wrong and what you can learn from it. You can of course just be unlucky at times, but it's important to feel like you feel in control of a situation as much as possible so that you can do better next time.
   • The mantra, "If you don't succeed the first time ..." is really true. Think about how boring life would be if you were the best at anything you try. Rather, see failure as an opportunity to prove yourself next time.
   • The important thing is to understand where you went wrong last time, along with accepting when something was just dumb luck.
2. Exercise more. While exercise alone won't immediately make you feel like you can take on the world, exercising for 30 minutes or more a day can go a long way in helping you feel better both mentally and physically. Exercise releases endorphins and will make you feel better about yourself and the world around you, in addition to all the benefits it offers your body. It's a win-win situation and making it a goal to exercise as much as you can can help you become more confident.
   • You can even use exercise as an opportunity to step out of your comfort zone and try something new. Maybe you have always been a bit reluctant to start with yoga or Zumba, but once you have started it, you will notice that it is not at all as scary as it always sounded.
3. Smile more. It has been proven that smiling not only makes you happier, but it also makes people around you respond more positively to you. Smiling, even though it feels like it's the last thing you want to do now, can also make you feel more confident when approaching people and throughout the day. Smiling will also make people more likely to reach out and you might be inviting a new friend or chance to come to you just by moving your lips. There is no reason to stop smiling no matter how you feel!
4. Don't be afraid to ask someone for help. Being confident doesn't mean being a jack of all trades who is good at everything. But it does mean that you're the kind of person who can admit that you can't do everything on your own. There's a kind of pride and confidence that comes with knowing you're out of your element. If you then ask for help when needed, you will not only be able to get more done, but you will also be proud of yourself for making the effort to reach out to someone who might be able to help you.
   • If you ask people for help, they will likely start asking you for help and you will notice how much others need you.
5. Learn to live in the present. If you lack confidence, you may be stuck in the past and the things you have done, or you may be concerned about the consequences of future actions. Living more in the now makes it easier to be at peace with things as they are now. This can make you happier and more relaxed, but it can also be a difficult habit to develop.
   • Learning to worry less about the future and accept what happened in the past can help you live more in the present.
   • Practice yoga or mindful mediation. This can also help you live in the present.

Tips

• Forget about your fear that you can't handle the task. No one is perfect, so don't be afraid to make mistakes.
• You just have to be yourself. Don't let anyone control you and force you to be someone you aren't - that's the only way you can actually be confident.
• Be aware of all the hidden capacities in yourself. Always try to be your best self by figuring out what goals you want to achieve. Success is the true key to self-confidence.
• Walk with your head held high, shoulders back and look straight ahead.
• Talk positively to yourself every night before going to sleep.
• Have good relationships with other people. Try not to insult people, as this can turn against you and cause you to lose confidence. Don't be rude.
• Do your best to make a good impression on people who don't know you and meet you for the first time.