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• Part 1 of 3: Encouraging your cat to sit on your lap
• Part 2 of 3: Creating an inviting atmosphere
• Part 3 of 3: Raising your cat

One of the characteristics of cats is that they have an independent personality. Unlike dogs, cats live relatively solitary and do not overwhelm their owners or caretakers with love. This may frustrate owners who want love and attention from their little friends and there are many ways you can still get more attention from your cat. One of the best ways to do that is to turn your cat into a lap cat. However, because cats are so independent, this can take some time. Fortunately, you can start the transformation by encouraging your cat to sit on your lap, observing your own behavior, and educating your cat properly.

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Part 1 of 3: Encouraging your cat to sit on your lap

1. Eliminate distractions. Before taking steps to bond with your cat, consider removing any distractions that might frighten or startle your cat. By eliminating distractions, you help create an environment where you and cat can bond.
   • Silence your phone.
   • Turn off the TV or music.
   • Inform your family, friends or roommates that you would like the house to be a bit quieter for an hour.
2. Let your cat come to you. After you create a calming environment, sit down and let the cat come to you. This is important because, by definition, a lap cat likes to be with its caregiver.
   • Choose a place that is comfortable for you and your cat. A comfortable place is important, because comfort is often related to your capacity to relax.
   • Read a book or engage in another silent activity.
   • Don't chase your cat. This only creates more detachment.
   • Let your cat leave if he wants to.
3. Give positive feedbacks. A good way to strengthen bonding is to make it extra rewarding for your cat. By giving a reward for sitting on your lap, you become a positive association for the cat.
   • Give your cat a treat when he sits on your lap.
   • Consider putting cat grass or any other treat or scent that your cat likes in your pockets.
   • Pet your cat in such a way that he likes to sit on your lap.
   • Repeat phrases such as "sweet cat" when your cat is on your lap.

Part 2 of 3: Creating an inviting atmosphere

1. Stay calm. One of the best ways to turn your cat into a lap cat is to be a calm presence. By being calm, you signal to the cat that you are not going to hurt it and that you are not a threat. Make sure you:
   • Relax and try not to be tense.
   • Avoid rapid breathing. Try to breathe slowly and in a controlled manner. Rapid breathing indicates that you are nervous, so your cat may want to avoid you.
   • Does not move quickly. If you make sudden movements, you scare the cat.
2. Maintain positive body language. To turn your cat into a lap cat, you must maintain positive body language. By using positive body language, you signal the cat that you are not threatening, that you are a positive force and that you are someone he wants to be around.
   • Do not interact with your cat if you are angry or visibly unhappy.
   • Avoid standing in a threatening manner. Do not cross your arms, do not bend over and do not have a tense posture.
   • Maintain an inviting or open attitude. Make sure your arms are open and your back and shoulders are straight.
3. Avoid staring at your cat. The way you look at your cat determines the mood of your interaction. If you stare at your cat, you signal that you are a predator or that you are trying to intimidate the cat.
   • Don't keep your gaze on your cat for more than a few seconds.
   • Depending on your cat's posture, it may help to avert your eyes when your cat approaches you. Looking away indicates that you are not a threat.

Part 3 of 3: Raising your cat

1. Avoid harsh discipline. The best way to alienate your cat is to use harsh discipline. By rigorously disciplining your cat, you signal that you are a threat. This will prevent your cat from wanting to sit on your lap and may not even want to be near you.
   • Never hit your cat.
   • Don't yell or scold your cat.
   • Accept behavioral change. Reward your cat for good behavior and don't give rewards for bad behavior. For example, give your cat a treat when using the litter box instead of urinating in a chair.
2. When you love cat regularly. If you give your cat love on a daily basis, you will build a strong foundation for creating a lap cat.
   • When your cat approaches you for a hug or some love, give it to him.
   • Talk to your cat and say things like “I love you!” When appropriate.
   • Invite your cat to join you by making "ppsht pssht" sounds.
3. Give your cat attention and care. Perhaps the most important way to turn your cat into a lap cat is to act like a responsible caretaker. By acting like a responsible caregiver, your cat learns to build on your cat. As a result, the cat will naturally show more affection.
   • Feed your cat regularly. When you feed your cat, talk to him and say things like "good, sweet cat" or "sweet cat is hungry!".
   • Give him water.
   • Give him scratching posts, seats and more.
4. Play with your cat. One of the best ways to turn your cat into a lap cat is to play with him a lot. Playing with your cat will help you build a positive relationship. Your cat learns to see you not only as a caregiver but also as a friend.
   • Play interactive games with your cat. You can try a fishing rod toy, for example.
   • Buy small stuffed mice and stuff them with cat grass.
   • Consider any toys and games your cat might enjoy.