Find out if someone is bisexual

Video: Bisexuality Signs (How to Tell if Someone is Bisexual & Bidar)

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Method 1 of 3: Paying attention to and observing words
Method 2 of 3: Talk to them about sexuality
Method 3 of 3: Ask the person out
Tips
Warnings

Maybe you want to know if someone is bisexual because you want to ask them out or maybe you hope they can become a friend who can give you advice. While you can't tell if someone is bisexual by their appearance, you may be able to find out by listening or observing carefully. The best way to find out if someone is bisexual is to just start talking to the person. If you'd like to ask someone out, only do so on a friendly basis at first. In addition, keep in mind that someone's sexuality is personal, so don't invade their privacy or pressure them to come out.

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Method 1 of 3: Paying attention to and observing words

Think about someone's past relationships and crushes. If the person is bisexual, then that person may have had or wanted to be with people of both sexes before. Listen to what they want to share about previous partners or crushes. Plus, you can bring what they shared with you about someone they were romantically interested in.
- Suppose your girlfriend recently dated a guy, but was previously in a close relationship with a girl who seemed romantic. This could mean that your girlfriend is bi, but it is not entirely certain.
- Likewise, we can say that you know a guy who often goes out with women, but he's also talked about how great he loves a mutual male friend. He can be bi.
Pay attention to what the person says about the attractiveness of people. Bisexual people may find both sexes attractive, although they will not be attracted to everyone. To find out if someone is bi, listen to the comments made about someone else's body. In addition, point out attractive people to them and see how they respond.
- Suppose you are on the beach with a friend. A boy who is bi can say things like "That girl looks pretty," and at the same time something like "I keep getting distracted by that guy's abs."
- Keep in mind that this doesn't necessarily mean the person is bi. Some people find it quite normal to talk about people's physicalities like that.
Notice if she uses "someone" as a way of talking about a date or a crush. Someone who is bi but hasn't come out yet may not want you to know the gender of the person they are dating or in love with. Instead of using "he" or "she", "someone" or "that person" can be used to refer to the person. Listen closely to see if they tend to do this.
- Suppose they say something like, "I recently ran into my ex. They're fine, but I'm still glad we broke up. "
- They may also ignore it because they like to do it that way, or because they feel that pronouns denoting genders are obsolete. Don't automatically assume they are bi.
Notice if they refuse to talk about their love life. Someone who is bi may not like to talk about who he or she is dating because he or she is afraid of accidentally revealing too much. Consider if the person never wants to talk about their love life, even if you ask about it. Then tell what's going on in your love life to see if they tell you something themselves.
- You could say, "Going out hasn't been great lately. Last weekend I had my first date, but it didn't go very well. "Then see if the other person wants to share something with you.
- Don't pressure the other person to talk because they may not be ready. In addition, don't assume someone is bi because they don't open up to you. They may prefer to keep certain things to themselves.
Avoid making assumptions based on how someone looks or speaks. Sometimes the media shows bisexual people as either androgenic or over-sexualized. However, both stereotypes are misrepresented. Don't judge people by the clothes they wear, their hairstyles, the way they walk or move, or the way they talk.
- For example, don't immediately assume that a girl who prefers short hair and masculine clothing is a lesbian or bisexual woman.

Method 2 of 3: Talk to them about sexuality

Recognize that there are many different types of sexuality. Sexuality is a complex topic full of gray areas, so you cannot assume that the person will label themselves as bisexual even if they are attracted to multiple genders. In addition to gay, lesbian, bisexual, and straight, they can also identify with any of the following:
- Pansexual or omnisexual means that you are attracted to people regardless of their gender.
- Sexual fluidity means that your sexual identity can change.
- Amisexual means that you are attracted to both sexes and can be used as a substitute term for bisexual.
- Asexual means that you are not sexually attracted to other people.
Discuss your own sexuality to raise the topic. Being open about your sexuality, whatever it is, can make others feel comfortable opening up to you. Raise the topic of sexuality to see if they are open to talking about it. When they feel comfortable, tell them about your own sexual identity.
- You could say, "I'm watching a TV series with an interesting cast of gay and bi." What did you think of the characters? "If they respond positively to the topic, you could add," I'm bi, so I like that they don't follow stereotypes. "
Tell them you are a supporter of the LGBTQ + community. Coming out can be scary if you don't know how the other person feels about LGBTQ + issues. By expressing your support for that community, you indicate that you are an ally without suggesting anything about their sexuality. Be open about your position and let them know that you can be a support for your LGBTQ + friends.
- You could say, 'I think love is love, so I'm a supporter of the LGBTQ + community,' or 'I started questioning my sexuality when I was a teenager, and I finally realized last year that I am a lesbian. Now I try to support my friends who are LGBTQ +. "
Tell them about their sexuality if they seem comfortable talking about it. The only way to really be sure someone is bi is to ask them. If you think they feel comfortable sharing their sexual identity with you, just ask. If they decline the question, change the topic and respect their privacy.
- Say something like, "Have you ever questioned your sexuality?" Or "Do you think you could be bisexual?"
- If they don't want to answer, say, "No problem. How has your work been going lately? "
Let them decide whether or not to talk about it. You probably have good intentions, but it's important to remember that they don't have to open up to you. A person's sexuality is private, so don't pressure him or her to tell you if they're not ready yet. Give them the time and space they need to come up with it themselves. Plus, it's better not to open up to them if they don't want to talk to you about it.
- If they tell you they are bi, keep that information to yourself. If someone asks you about it, say, "If you want to know, ask him (or her)."
Don't discuss someone's sexuality with other people. You may be afraid to talk to the person about their sexuality, and that is understandable. However, it is not okay to discuss it with other people or ask people if they think the person is bi. This is gossip and can lead to rumors and hurt feelings. Keep your thoughts and questions about their sexuality to yourself until you are ready to talk directly to them about it.
- For example, don't say, "I heard Ashley and Lauren kissed last night. Do you think they are bi? "

Method 3 of 3: Ask the person out

Ask the other person out if you want, if you know they are bisexual. Once you are certain that the person is interested in both sexes, you can ask that person out if you wish. Express your interest in a romantic getaway, then suggest an activity that you both enjoy.
- Say something like, "I really enjoy hanging out with you and I think we can be more than friends. Would you like to be my first date with me playing miniature golf on Friday? "
Tip: Keep in mind that just being bisexual doesn't automatically mean they're attracted to everyone. They may not be interested in a romantic relationship.
Invite them as friends if you are not sure if they are bisexual. It's hard to just be friends with someone you have a crush on, but developing a friendship with them can help you find out if they are open to a relationship with you. Keep in mind your common interests and then choose an activity that you both enjoy. Ask the other person to participate in that activity as an outing for friends.
- Suppose you both love a local band. You could say, "The Hatracks are playing Friday. Want to come along? "
Spend time with them so they feel comfortable opening up to you. Ask them to hang out to deepen your friendship. In addition, you can text or text each other every day, so that you are in constant contact with each other. This will help them feel comfortable with you so that they can open up to you about their sexuality.
- Be candid about your own sexuality, so that the other person is more likely to want to talk about their own sexuality as well.
- You could say, "I still remember my first crush on a girl. Has that ever happened to you? "
Flirt with them if you think they are interested in you. First, give them a little compliment on their appearance. Then try to comment on their body. If they seem open to it, then give them a pet name to see if they respond. When you're ready, try to touch them lightly to break the touch barrier.
- Take it slow so that both of you are comfortable with what is happening.
- You could say, "Wow, that top really shows what you got," or "Your bottom looks great in those jeans."
Warning: If they seem uncomfortable, stop immediately. Respect other people's boundaries at all times.
Learn to cope with rejection by spending time with friends. Relationships can be difficult, and sometimes you will experience rejection. While it feels awful, rejection doesn't mean something is wrong with you. It just means that this person is not the person for you. To help you feel better, go out with your friends so they can remind you how much they care about you.
- You could also list the wonderful things about you to boost your confidence.

Tips

Keep in mind that your bisexual friend is not necessarily interested in a relationship with you just because they are interested in people of the same sex. Don't feel like you need to change your behavior around them.
If someone tells you they are bisexual, don't tell anyone else unless they say you can. People may only tell this to someone they trust.
People can still question their sexuality and that's okay. Don't try to pigeonhole them if they aren't ready yet.