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• To step
• Method 1 of 4: Tell someone
• Method 2 of 4: Avoid the bully
• Method 3 of 4: Stand up for yourself
• Method 4 of 4: Make your school bully-free
• Tips

You may know the saying "scolding doesn't hurt", and you may have been told after you were scolded? Then you know that this is not correct, not in the past and not nowadays. Three quarters of all children say they have been bullied or teased at some point. Bullying and teasing are similar, but one of the main differences between them is intent. Teasing becomes bullying when it repeats with the conscious intention of hurting or hurting the other. Bullying is one of the biggest problems in schools - in the US, the percentage of students who are bullied at least once a week has steadily increased since 1999, according to the FBI. Bullying can make children feel hurt, scared, lonely, ashamed, and sad. In addition, it can also make children afraid and reluctant to go to school. Here are some tips on how to deal with school bullies.

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Method 1 of 4: Tell someone

1. Tell your parent (s) or someone you trust about the harassment. If you are being bullied, it is very important to tell an adult first.
   • Tell your parents the whole story. Parents are there to help you and want to know what's wrong with you. In addition, your parents may be able to contact the school staff to try and stop the harassment. This is especially important if you hate telling a teacher or fear retaliation from the bully.
   • It's helpful if you keep a journal of everything that happens. This way you can notify your parents and other adults of specific incidents.
2. Report bullying and bullying to the school. Inform teachers, principals and other school employees. These individuals have the authority to intervene and help stop harassment. Sometimes bullies stop as soon as a teacher finds out because they fear they will get into trouble.
   • Teachers are especially important resources when you are bullied. They can protect against bullying by letting you stay in class during recess, or by setting up a buddy system for you.
   • It is important to let your school know about any bullying incidents as the same person may also be bullying other children.
3. Talk openly about bullying. Just talking to someone about your experience can give you a little relief. Good people to talk to are a mentor, sibling, or friend. They can offer some helpful solutions, but first of all you should tell your parents or report it to school. Just talking about what you are experiencing and feeling can help you feel less alone.
   • Some children have benefited greatly from peer counseling programs in their schools.
4. Don't be afraid to talk about it. Reporting the bullying to an adult is not clicking. Bullying is not a small or trivial matter - it is wrong and it helps if everyone who is bullied or witnesses it speaks out about it.
   • Remember, you can't tackle bullying alone. No one can, not even adults. Asking for help is the right thing to do if you're dealing with abuse, bullying, intimidation, or mistreatment.

Method 2 of 4: Avoid the bully

1. Avoid the bully whenever possible. Don't give him or her a chance to bully you by preventing you from bumping into each other.
   • Think about where you usually encounter the bully. Avoid those places.
   • Try to take a different route from your home to school as well as different routes within the school itself.
   • Don't skip classes or hide. You have the right to be in school and benefit from education.
2. Feel good about who you are. Ask yourself how you can look and feel your best. Emphasize your strengths, talents and goals.
   • For example: do you want to be fitter? Then you may be able to spend less time on the couch watching TV and more time exercising.
   • When you feel good about yourself, you will feel more confident and work on your self-esteem. It will also help you feel more confident in school and perhaps less afraid of running into the person who is bullying you.
   • Spend time with friends who are a positive influence on you. Playing sports or participating in clubs are good activities for building positive friendships and confidence.
3. Stand up straight and stay calm. Sometimes showing your courage can be enough to keep a bully from approaching and intimidating you any longer.
   • When you stand up straight and keep your head high, you are communicating the message that you are not to be mocked.
   • Showing your courage and also feeling courageous is easier when you feel confident and good about yourself. It is also something you can practice. Practice walking with your head up, looking straight at people, and greeting everyone you meet and know. Practice with a strong and assertive tone (without yelling). Remember, practice makes perfect.
4. Use the buddy system. If you're trying to avoid being bullied, two people are stronger than one. For example, walk to school with a friend or group of friends, or hang out with them during recess. In other words, have friends around whenever and wherever you think you might run into the bully.
   • If you have a buddy, don't forget to be a buddy yourself. Offer to be there for a friend if you know they are also being bullied. If you see a friend being bullied, take action. After all, you know how difficult it is to be bullied. Tell an adult, stand next to your friend who is being bullied, and tell the bully to stop. Support those who are hurt with kind words.
5. Ignore the bully if they say or do anything to you. Try to ignore the bully's threats as much as possible. Pretend you don't hear the bully (s) and try to leave the situation immediately and go to a safe place.
   • Bullies are always looking for a response to their harassment. Pretending you don't notice or care (even if it hits you inside) can stop a bully's behavior because they don't get the response they expect and want.

Method 3 of 4: Stand up for yourself

1. Know you like it straight have to avoid being bullied. It is not your fault that you are bullied. You deserve to feel safe, just like everyone else.
2. Say "no". Tell the bully "No! Stop! "In a loud, assertive voice, then walk or run if you think you need to.
   • Standing up to the bully just by saying "no" sends the message that you are not afraid and that you will not accept his or her behavior. Bullies tend to target people who don't stand up for themselves and who they think will endure their abuse unopposed and do what they say.
   • There is always strength in numbers. Children can stand up for each other by telling a bully to stop teasing or scaring someone else and then walk away together.
3. Hide your feelings. Plan ahead. How can you avoid being angry or showing that you are upset?
   • Try to distract yourself. Count back from 100, sing your favorite song in your head, spell words backwards, etc. Keep your mind busy until you get out of the situation so you can moderate your feelings and not give the bully his or her desired response.
4. Don't bully back. Don't bully back or try to hit, kick, or push as a way of dealing with someone who is bullying you or your friends. Fighting back can be exactly what bullies want because then they know they can get under your skin.
   • Fighting back can also be dangerous. If you fight with the bully and win, you might think you are more powerful than everyone else and you could become a bully yourself. Someone can get hurt. It's best to stay with others, stay safe, and find the closest adult.

Method 4 of 4: Make your school bully-free

1. Ask everyone to participate. This means that the entire school - from teachers and supervisors to students - agrees to make the school a bully-free zone.
   • Even those indirectly involved with the school, such as school bus drivers, should receive support and training to identify and deal with bullying.
2. Put the deed into action. It takes more than gathering a group or a set of signs declaring a bully-free zone to create a truly bully-free environment for students.
   • Change how children feel about other children. For example, creating an anti-bullying program may involve creating lesson plans in which children learn more about other children, especially those who come from different (ethnic) backgrounds and cultures, or different learning styles or skills.In addition, teachers can teach in collaboration by assigning group projects, which help students learn how to compromise and assert themselves without being overly demanding.
   • Rules about bullying and its consequences should be discussed and made public in the school, sent to parents, and posted in the school newspapers, to create a universal awareness of the issue. This can initiate a process of large-scale transformation.
3. Provide more supervision. Most bullying in schools occurs in areas where there is less adult supervision, such as school buses, restrooms, hallways and locker rooms.
   • Schools should address the problems in these areas by improving surveillance in these areas, by additional adults or by using improved security techniques, including cameras.
   • Schools can also set up anonymous reporting tools, such as a suggestion box or phone number where students can send text messages or leave voicemails.

Tips

• Don't consider yourself a terrible person. You are great! You should love yourself just the way you are! Bullies are insecure about themselves, that's why they bully others!
• You are no click-clack if you tell an adult that you are being bullied. When you click, you say something like, "[a student] is chewing gum in class!" If you get hit during recess and report it to a teacher, you're not clicking! When you click, you report something that not physical and not your business.