Content

• To step
• Method 1 of 2: Solving problems with your parents
• Method 2 of 2: Fix a problem with an authority figure

We all get in trouble from time to time - sometimes it's our own fault and sometimes it's not. But there are ways to get out of trouble and avoid punishment and the danger, depending on who you're talking to. One way to get out of trouble is to apply conversation techniques that can help make the situation less troublesome.

To step

Method 1 of 2: Solving problems with your parents

1. Be honest and sincere. This is very important to accommodate your parents. Someone who appears honest can more easily convince people to be innocent, or at least remorseful. Arguing or whining will only lengthen the conversation and will not work in your favor.
2. Avoid stress signals. These are verbal and non-verbal signals that many people associate with lying.
   • Look the person in the eye. Don't look around you too much. Even though eye movements have been proven not to be associated with lying, many people make that link.
   • Friemel not. This could be something like playing with your hands, making gestures, tucking your hair behind your ears, or other nervous tics. Try to sit on your hands or keep your hands together to avoid fidgeting.
   • Think back to moments of power. You think back to a moment or period when you had more control or power. Recalling such memories can affect how other people perceive you. By bringing yourself back to where you were when you were successful and / or smart, people will perceive you that way too.
3. Start sentences with something like "Yes, I agree... "This way of speaking will show that you are interested in learning and working together, and not in conflict. End the sentence with something specific, not general. This tactic will show them that you are listening and that they are being heard.
4. Do not lie. Lies will eventually become obsolete. You will be caught by the lie or caught in a contradiction.
5. State your feelings. Instead of letting your feelings out in a passive-aggressive way, if at all, put them into words.For example, "Mom, I'm ashamed of what I've done" or "I feel guilty about what I've done".
6. Speak empathetically. Understanding your parents' point of view will open up a lot of possibilities, after which you can start talking about what arouses them.
   • Suppose you broke a window. They may not be upset about the broken window - they may be especially upset that you didn't tell them right away, or there may be financial hardship and the unforeseen costs causing added stress.
   • Find out what they are really upset about (which may be different from what is important to you). What they are upset about may be different from your point of view, but it is key to showing empathy for what you are putting into words.
   • As for the example of the window pane as described above, instead of saying "I'm sorry I broke the window" or "I didn't want to break the window", you are talking about their to care. In that case, say something like "I should have told you immediately about the window" or "I know we're short on it now, and I'll pay you back with my pocket money."
7. Compliment them. Be kind, respectful, and complimentary. Know how much they are doing for you and show it, and give them that support. They probably don't hear it enough, so they'll appreciate hearing it at a convenient time, which is a good thing for all of you. You could say, "I know this is probably the last thing you want to deal with after a long day at work" or "You've been doing so much for me and this was unacceptable behavior."
8. Offer something you can do to make it right. This is a good idea because it shows that you are taking initiative. And it is one less thing they must do. This is a good way to fix the situation and show that you are sorry. In the example of the window, you could offer to pay for it or to clean the windows for a month.

Method 2 of 2: Fix a problem with an authority figure

1. Start your sentences with: "Yes, I agree that ..." This way of speaking will show that you are interested in learning and working together, not defensiveness. End the sentence with something specific, not general. Then they know you are listening. This also gives them the feeling of being heard.
2. Make it a bit lighter. Telling a joke or using humor - not for fun, but because humor can help lighten the situation. It will also show that you are not afraid. Make sure you don't go over a line and say something that will offend the person or you will have even more trouble.
3. Play on the vanity of the other. Everyone likes to hear good things about themselves, so look for ways to compliment them. Be nice and respectful, but don't overdo it or they'll see through you. Remember, flattery isn't just complimenting, sometimes it's caressing someone's ego that makes them feel empowered and responsible. Wow, you get to wear the coolest uniforms. I always wanted to be a cop as a teenager. "
4. Shift the conversation from you to the other. When you're in trouble, the other person will focus on making you feel uncomfortable. When you can flip the spotlight in the direction of the other, it will neutralize the situation and the other will lose control of you. Again, be careful with this, because the point is to put the focus on the other person naturally, without appearing to be an accusation.
5. Focus on what benefits the other. Convince the other person that getting out of trouble is to their advantage. Instead of making it clear what you want, which is to get out of trouble, use words to make them feel that it is in the other person's best interest to do what you want them to do. For example, 'I would hate to waste your time writing out a coupon - maybe there is another solution? '
6. Point to a connection. Can you connect with the person? Maybe you are from the same region, or you know the same person, or you know him or her very well yourself. Use that connection to remind the other that you are the same. This can make the person feel more empathetic with you and want to get you out of trouble.
7. Admits to a minor offense. Keep denying the main charge, but studies have shown that admitting a less serious offense is more likely to be believed than admitting a minor offense and then flatly denying any involvement. not skateboarding "or" I must confess that I've skateboarded here before, but that was years ago, I was younger and didn't know what I was doing. "