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• Method 1 of 3: Practice self-awareness
• Method 2 of 3: Explore your personality
• Method 3 of 3: Meet your needs

Knowing yourself is an important step to happiness and peace. To get to know your true self, find out which of your qualities make you unique. Daily reflection and meditation can help you develop a deeper understanding of your identity. As time passes, you can build on these discoveries to develop a deep and meaningful relationship with yourself.

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Method 1 of 3: Practice self-awareness

1. Learn to be honest with yourself. Knowing yourself means recognizing different aspects of your identity, personality and being. The goal is not to criticize yourself but to acknowledge all sides of your personality. Open up to the opportunity to learn new things about yourself.
   • As you evaluate yourself, pay attention to the things that make you uncomfortable. These emotional signals can tell you if you are trying to avoid a topic. Are you unsure about a certain property? If so, what can you do about it?
   • For example, if you don't like looking in the mirror, ask yourself why. Are you unsure about your appearance? Are you concerned about your age? You might wonder if this is a fear you can overcome.
2. Ask yourself thoughtful questions. This knowledge can help you realize what makes you happy or stressed. You can use this information to help you spend more time on activities and goals that are productive for you. Some questions to ask include:
   • What do you like to do?
   • What are your dreams in life?
   • What do you want your legacy to be?
   • What is your biggest criticism of yourself?
   • What are some mistakes you have made?
   • How do others perceive you? How would you like them to see you?
   • Who is your role model?
3. Pay attention to your inner voice. Your inner voice expresses what you feel and believe. When something frustrates or delights you, he responds. Try to tune in to that inner voice. What is he saying? How does he perceive the world around you?
   • Stand in front of the mirror. Describe yourself, out loud or in your head. Are the descriptions positive or negative? Are they focused on your appearance or your actions? Are you talking about your successes or your failures?
   • If you start to think negatively, stop yourself and ask yourself why you are reacting that way. Shaming or criticizing yourself can be a sign that you are defending yourself against unwanted thoughts.
   • These positive and negative thoughts determine how you see yourself. If this personal image doesn't align with who you want to be, you can take steps to improve yourself as a person or to learn new traits.
4. Write in a journal every day. Keeping a journal can help you recognize your motivation, emotions, and beliefs so that you can make thoughtful adjustments to your life. Write down in a few minutes every day what you did, felt, and thought all day long. If you had a negative experience, write down why it impacted you. If you made a mistake, see what you could have done better.
   • Look for patterns in what you write. Over time, you may repeat certain needs and wishes.
   • You can write whatever is in your head. Free writing can help you unlock unconscious thoughts so you can identify what's bothering you.
   • Alternatively, you can use cues to guide your writing. Write down short questions about certain aspects of your personality or habits.
5. Integrate mindfulness into your day. Mindfulness is the act of experiencing the present moment to help you understand your own thoughts and actions. Mindfulness often includes daily meditation as well as other exercises. Most importantly, it is a certain focus on yourself and the world you are experiencing.
   • Take a moment and check it with your five senses. What do you feel, taste, hear, see and smell?
   • Do not eat meals in front of your computer or in front of the TV. Take a break just to eat. Enjoy the taste, texture, temperature and sensation of every bite.
   • Take a few minutes each day to pause and observe the world around you. Try to notice as many sensations around you as you can. What do you hear, feel, taste and smell?
   • If you have an emotional response, ask yourself questions. Why do you feel this way? What caused it?
6. Determine your body image. Try to write down a list of adjectives about how you look. Once you're done, review this list. Are these negative or positive attributes? If you feel like you have a negative body image, try to find ways to love your body. Trust in your body can be converted into trust in other aspects of your life.
   • Try to convert your negative perceptions into positive perceptions. For example, if you have a birthmark that you are unsure about, call it a beauty spot. Do not forget that many famous actresses have or had beauty spots.
   • Think of things that you can reasonably change if they make you really unhappy. If you are unsure about acne, you can see a dermatologist or learn to use makeup.

Method 2 of 3: Explore your personality

1. Know what roles you play. Everyone plays multiple roles in their lives based on personal relationships, job responsibilities and social interactions. Once you have a list of your roles, write down what each of these roles means to you. Some examples of roles include:
   • Older
   • Friend
   • Captain
   • Emotional support
   • Mentor
   • Confidential counselor
   • Creator
   • Problem solver
2. Write down your VITALS. VITALS is an English acronym that stands for values, interests, temperament, activities, life goals and strengths. Try to define each of these categories for yourself in a notebook or with a word processor.
   • Values: what is important to you? What qualities do you value in yourself and others? What motivates you to finish something?
   • Interests: What sorts of things are you curious about? What do you like to do in your spare time? What excites you?
   • Temperament: Think of ten words that describe your personality.
   • Activities: how do you spend your day? What are the most and least enjoyable parts of your day? Do you have daily rituals?
   • Life Goals: What have been the most important events of your life? Why? Where do you see yourself in five years? What about ten years from now?
   • Strengths: what are your skills, skills and talents? What are you really good at?
3. Take an online personality test. While personality tests aren't scientific, they do ask questions that force you to consider different aspects of your character. There are many reputable tests you can take online. Some are:
   • Myers-Brigg Type Indicator
   • Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory (MMPI)
   • Predictive Index Behavioral Assessment
   • Big 5 Personality Assessment
4. Ask for the opinion of others. While you shouldn't define yourself by what others say, the opinions of others can help you understand things about yourself that you may not have realized before.
   • Start by asking loved ones how they would define your personality or characteristics.
   • If this isn't a problem for you, ask your boss, mentor or acquaintances how they view your personality.
   • If you disagree with someone's observations, that's okay! These comments do not define you, and perhaps other people will accept you more for who you are.
5. Measure your satisfaction with your results. Once you have evaluated your personality and characteristics, review what you have learned to see if you are satisfied with yourself. Are these values ​​and traits consistent with who you want to be? If the answer is yes, look for ways to develop or build on these traits. If the answer is no, try to come up with some personal goals to improve them.
   • Use your strengths to help yourself find happiness. For example, if you realize that you are creative and enjoy working with your hands, you may be able to take art classes or start a new skill.
   • If you want to improve on yourself, use your knowledge of yourself to create a personalized plan. For example, if you realize that you are an introvert, but you want to become more sociable, you can learn to interact with others in small groups. Balancing time for yourself and time with others can help you have an engaging social life that works for you.

Method 3 of 3: Meet your needs

1. Take care of yourself. When you are overwhelmed with stress and work, it can be difficult to find time to think about yourself. It is important to take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Practicing self-care will make you more at peace with who you are.
   • Make it a habit to exercise daily. You can do cardio for 20 minutes or just go for a brisk walk.
   • Get at least 7-9 hours of sleep per night.
   • Eat healthy and mostly unprocessed fruits, vegetables and whole grains.
   • Find time to relax each day. You can meditate or do something to relax, such as knitting, doing puzzles, or reading a book.
2. Create a good work-life balance. Don't just define yourself through your career or your progress at work. While it is good to be proud of your work, you still try to create space for yourself outside of your work. Do not take work home. Set aside some time each day to focus on other goals, hobbies, and interests.
   • Work is important, but you should also make wellbeing a priority.
   • Set boundaries at work to make sure the work doesn't get in the way of your other relationships. For example, don't answer non-urgent emails outside of working hours.
3. Establish boundaries within your relationships. Understanding your boundaries will make you happier in your relationships. Try to identify which contacts are making you uncomfortable, stressed, or unhappy. Use these to create personal boundaries.
   • Ask yourself what kinds of situations make you feel uncomfortable. For example, do you hate crowds? Are there any jokes that upset you?
   • Consider if there is someone in your life who asks too much of you or makes you do things you don't want. Decide which requests or demands you do not want to comply with.
4. Set goals that will make you happy. Setting goals will help you achieve what you want to achieve in life.Try to come up with a few goals to help you achieve your dreams in life. Strive for goals that will make you happy, not goals motivated by external desires, such as money or prestige.
   • For example, you could have a goal of writing 500 words per day. You should do this because you love to write, not because you want to become a famous writer.
   • Your goals can be small and personal if you want. For example, you can set a goal to improve your cookie decorating skills for the holidays.
   • If you have a big goal, set a few smaller goals that will help you get there along the way. If your dream is to travel all over Europe, for example, set smaller goals to save money, buy tickets and plan the trip.
5. Review your wants and needs regularly. Think about your life every now and then. Have your wishes changed? Is there something new in your life that changes your priorities? Knowing yourself is a continuous process. Like an old friend, you keep in touch with yourself.
   • Read your diary from time to time. This can help you see how your habits or priorities have changed.
   • After major changes in your life, such as a new job or relocation, you may want to re-evaluate how your routines, practices, and desires have changed.
   • If you have habits or tendencies that no longer meet your needs or goals, you may be able to unlearn them. Replace them with more productive activities that will help you achieve your goals.